Tips - Blog Posts

This one was a popular demand. Many people people asked me about anatomy tips.

I know how hard this topic is and how confusing at the beginning. It’s just so much to learn! Exactly! I remember how lost I was in the beginning and trying out things that actually didn’t help me understand anatomy better.

Actually what I want to convey here is that you can learn to draw human without learning all the muscles and bones. My personal opinion, based on experience is actually that you can do that as something extra. Learning muscles and bones won’t help you draw. True story. 

If you grasps few essential concepts first you will be better off, plus you will be actually drawing characters. You will be more confident in your lines and gain knowledge that will be enough to create artwork you want. 

Look at body as any other object you want to draw. Simplifying and remembering the simplest ideas is way to go. 

Remember: these few ideas I am presenting are just a tip of an iceberg. As you will progress you will expand your knowledge beyond few essential points.

This is my personal approach so I can’t say it will work for you. I know that it works for me

Hope you like it!

Here are my ways on how to understand certain information during a discussion!

First of all, you should try your best to pay attention to what is currently happening with the other person as they speak and try your best to understand by using your own definitions! Pay attention to the information, not the voice.

Personally, I would usually ask the person to clarify what they are saying so that I don't get the wrong definition. It's not wrong to ask for confirmation! :D

Also, it is not wrong to ask questions about what the other person is saying. Asking question proves that you care enough to try and understand what they are talking about, do not be shy! There is a higher chance for them to appreciate that you are trying to connect and understand them!

Thank you for listening to my little speech! Have a good day :3

[This is for my English assignment.]

Reminders for the Anxious/Depressed Creatives

You’re more than what you make.

Your productivity does not determine your value.

It’s okay to do nothing sometimes.

Not everything you do has to result in a product.

Not everything you make has to be important, significant, or even good.

You can make things just for yourself.

You can keep secrets for yourself, whether it’s not posting some of your projects or not sharing your techniques.

You’re allowed to say no.

You’re allowed to rest.

Body Language Cheat Sheet for Writers

As described by Selnick’s article:

Author and doctor of clinical psychology Carolyn Kaufman has released a one-page body language cheat sheet of psychological “tells” (PDF link) fiction writers can use to dress their characters.

writing reminders

it's ok to write only for yourself

it's ok to not share your writing with the world

it's ok to want validation

it's ok to write self-indulgent stories

it's ok to write only one genre

it's ok to share your writing regardless of your skill

it's ok to praise your own writing

it's ok to abandon wips

it's ok if you don't write every day

it's ok if you write fanfiction (because people who claim it isn't real writing is wrong)

it's ok to use clichés

it's ok to have a bad day of writing

it's ok to be a slow writer

it's normal to have days in which you doubt the things you write, that doesn't mean you're a bad writer

it's ok to ask for feedback

it's ok to cringe at your old writing

it's ok to hype up your writing online

it's ok to celebrate your achievements

For any of you who are writing ‘across the pond’-here is a little guide I put together of some common differences between British and American English!

Words to use instead of “Very”!

👎🏼 Very simple             👍🏼 Basic 👎🏼 Very shy                  👍🏼 Timid 👎🏼 Very short                👍🏼 Brief  👎🏼 Very shiny                👍🏼 Gleaming  👎🏼 Very sharp               👍🏼 Keen 👎🏼 Very serious             👍🏼 Grave 👎🏼 Very scary                👍🏼 Chilling  👎🏼 Very scared              👍🏼 Petrified  👎🏼 Very sad                   👍🏼 Sorrowful 👎🏼 Very rich                   👍🏼 Wealthy  👎🏼 Very rainy                 👍🏼 Pouring  👎🏼 Very quiet                 👍🏼 Hushed 👎🏼 Very quick                👍🏼 Rapid 👎🏼 Very pretty                👍🏼 Beautiful  👎🏼 Very powerful           👍🏼 Compelling 👎🏼 Very poor                 👍🏼 Destitute  👎🏼 Very perfect             👍🏼 Flawless 👎🏼 Very pale                  👍🏼 Ashen  👎🏼 Very painful              👍🏼 Excruciating  👎🏼 Very open                 👍🏼 Transparent 👎🏼 Very old-fashioned   👍🏼 Archaic  👎🏼 Very old                    👍🏼 Ancient  👎🏼 Very often                 👍🏼 Frequently  👎🏼 Very noisy                👍🏼Deafening 

In light of my recent writer positivity, have this post from a year ago that I almost forgot about.

Never let anyone tell you that you can’t write. You are NEVER: too young, too old, too mature, too naive, too uneducated, too intelligent, too unoriginal, or too boring.

ANYONE can be a writer and EVERYONE is just as qualified as published authors.

You don’t have to have an english/literature/creative writing degree to magically make you worthy enough to try. Many published authors just picked it up after their day jobs, did it for a hobby. If they can do it, you can as well.

No one can stop you unless you let them, yours is the only opinion that should matter. So write your fanfiction, your novella, short story, screen play, or novel. Don’t give a damn about what the naysayers believe. Be fucking proud of every word you put down on the page (yes, even horrible rough drafts) because you’re amazing.

You ARE a writer. Be proud of that.

Writing Tip #8

Write every day. That’s right, every day. You may have heard this before, maybe you haven’t. It’s a lot easier to eliminate writer’s block and to get pages dished out in a day. If this seems daunting and you don’t believe you have the time, make time. In between work, or studying, or even before class (which is what I do), just start off with what you can get and then go from there.

Don’t worry about the quality of your writing, just write what you can. That’s what editing is for later. Keep at it until you are writing at least three paragraphs or more everyday. It should be easier to start when the time comes to just sit and start typing (or writing in a notebooks) for a whole hour or more.

Start Reviewing Stories

More general advice this time. Writers, don’t forget that when you read other people’s work on Tumblr or Archive of Our Own or Fanfiction.net that you aren’t just another reader. You can help other writers, give advice, or even just general encouragement.

Remember that you want people to comment on your own work as well, this means you have to practice what you preach. I get so frustrated when I read comments on Fanfiction.net or Archive of Our Own (not for my own work, but yeah that gets frustrating as well) and there are just favorites or “Nice work” “I loved it” “Please continue”. This is like giving a quarter to a homeless person or a charity.

You might be giving, and over time it all will accumulate, but it doesn’t do much for the writer. Spend time on your replies and quit simply adding a story to your watches or favorites. Tell the author what you like, tell them what they did wrong (politely of course), tell you found that scene hilarious and it was a nice comedy break in the story, but say something!

If you don’t start doing it then no one else will either. As a community of writers, we can help each other stay optimistic and help each other grow. But we have to stop being passive observers and readers.

Writing Tip #6

Have multiple copies of writing you really care about. You never know when you're going to have your laptop give out, or lose a flashdrive, or drop your notebook in water. This is another way handwriting it comes in handy. You automatically gain two copies: a physical one and a typed version. Even saving recent copies to an email draft is a good idea. (Or emailing them to yourself if you don't trust drafts)

The poor novelist constructs his characters, he controls them and makes them speak. The true novelist listens to them and watches them function; he eavesdrops on them even before he knows them. It is only according to what he hears them say that he begins to understand who they are.

André Gide

Writing Tip 2

This might seem a bit over hashed, but always carry a small notebook or notepad with you for ideas. ANYTHING could give you an idea or inspiration. And you might think you'll remember it later. I guarantee that the best ones will slip your mind.

Writing Tip 1

Try actually writing on paper before you type it. Your hands have a harder time of getting ahead and nothing is more fulfilling than using an entire notebook for your stories.

The “What-If” Writing Method

Sometimes when I’m writing, brain just....stops. No more ideas. No more words. Nothing. Sometimes, the solution to this problem is to simply take a break from writing and let your brain relax. Other times, though, you really are just at a block for ideas. This happened to me significantly more often than I would like, but thankfully, I’ve developed a solution that works well for me, and it’s uncreativly titled the “what-if” method.

Get a piece of paper and pen. Or a Google doc, or whatever works best for you.

Start brainstorming questions about your story, or possible “what-if” scenarios. (Ex: What if my character got framed for a crime they didn’t commit?)

Write down every single idea that comes to your head. Even if it doesn’t really work for your story. Even ones that deviate from your existing plot. Even the stupid ones. Especially the stupidest ones.

Cross out the ideas you don’t like, circle the ones that you do like.

Start coming up with answers for the questions you circled, or expand in the by coming up with more questions. (Ex: They would have to prove they didn’t commit the crime to regain their freedom. How do they prove it?)

Repeat until you have a full idea that you can work on/write with.

That’s it. That’s the whole strategy. I’ve used this a million times, and it’s gotten me out of a million cases of writers block, so hopefully it can work well for you too! Happy writing!

Okay, so...in sight that I've FINALLY gotten a new phone after many years I decided to download Genshin Impact. I literally just started playing today and I need tips ( ಥ⁠‿⁠ಥ)

This is for the random few who run into my posts: if you have any advice for me, I'll appreciate

boundaries between a regressor and caregiver - what are they and how to put them in place ! [a guide]

i often get people in my inbox saying "quinny i wanna ask my bf/gf/friend/etc to be my cg!!" which is great and awesome !! i'm so happy you found someone who you feel safe enough to regress with !! but, you little ones need to be mindful that finding someone to be your caregiver is only half the journey!!

so, here is a [mostly] compressive guide to agere boundaries !!

What are boundaries?

In simple terms, boundaries are the invisible lines we draw for our friends/family/significant other so we can feel respected in relationships!

These can be emotional, with examples such as :

Please don't discuss [insert triggering subject] when I'm present

Please don't shame my interests

Please don't lie to me

These can also be physical, which examples such as :

Please don't hold my hand without asking

Please don't sneak up behind me

Please rush me while I'm speaking

Boundaries are cool!! Can I have some?!

Of course you can kid! Boundaries are for everyone!

How can I set my boundaries?

Well first, you have to identify what your boundaries are! This is fairly easy!! Ask yourself some of the following questions,

Do I feel safe when [insert a specific action] occurs near me?

Do I feel loved when [insert a specific action] occurs near me?

[Examples of actions can include; yelling, lying, raising voices, etc etc.]

Once you figure out what your boundaries are, you can start vocalizing them! It might feel scary at first, but in the long run it'll lead to healthy communication and relationships :)

Find a time to sit with your regressor/caregiver to discuss both your boundaries, allow the conversation to be a two way street- be open to listening to your partners boundaries and answering questions [within reason].

This does not mean to allow your partner to pick and choose which of your boundaries they listen too. It simply means be open to further explaining how they can respect your boundaries- this could be a learning process for both of you !!

How do boundaries apply to caregivers and regressor relationships?

Let us get one thing clear, boundaries apply to every type of relationship. You and your boss at work, you and your teachers, you and your second cousin's dog walker...every type of relationship has boundaries because well, everyone has boundaries!

Regressors are allowed to have boundaries.

Caregivers are allowed to have boundaries.

It's important that we communicate these boundaries with our regressor/caregiver otherwise an incident can occur that can lead to an unhealthy/unhappy littlespace/carerspace.

Common boundaries that regressors may have :

Don't swear when I'm regressed

Don't shout at/around me when I'm regressed

Don't touch me on my [insert body part]

Common boundaries that caregivers may have :

I'm not comfortable with helping you [insert task]

I'm not comfortable discussing [insert topic] when you're regressed

I need space before I'm ready to properly caregive

if you've vocalized your boundaries yet find that there is a cycle of them being disregarded, then you may not be in a safe dynamic :(

[dividers creds to @softandsleepyboy]

-- with sparkles and love,

quinny 💌

ᯓ★ tips for littles/cgs with RSD . ݁₊ ⊹ . 🌞

note: "Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) is a term used to describe intense emotional pain and distress in response to real or perceived rejection or criticism." I am not a professional, these are just some personal tips<3

╰┈➤ focus on self soothing techniques, as well as self empathy and compassion. Be gentle with yourself, you didn't choose to feel these things, so don't treat yourself like you did.

╰┈➤ don't forget that your value is NOT dependant on others' opinions of you. You are your own being, and that is beautiful <3

╰┈➤ recognize everyone makes mistakes, and you are worth as much love as everyone else, even if you have emotions deeper than others.

╰┈➤ know the way you feel isn't silly or stupid, and don't diminish your feelings to being these such things.

╰┈➤ try and self soothe, whether that be through distractions like reading, journaling, etc. Use positive affirmations to combat self hatred and negative self talk

╰┈➤ identify your own triggers, keep track of how you respond to certain situations, and what may trigger episodes of major dysphoria.

╰┈➤ remember to be mindful, take deep breaths and practice grounding when you're beginning to spiral.

╰┈➤ don't be afraid to ask for reassurance, you deserve to feel safe.

╰┈➤ remember to practice the STAR method, STAR stands for Stop, Think, Act, Recover. Using this method, you can help to process larger emotions with more ease.

╰┈➤ when dwelling on a negative interaction, try and see it from a different perspective. How else may of someone meant their words?

╰┈➤ don't be afraid to seek support of friends and family, and communicate your experiences and RSD.

╰┈➤ set boundaries to prevent unnecessary misunderstandings, and follow through with them. Boundaries don't make you a bad person.

╰┈➤ remember to take time for yourself. Engage in hobbies and self care, you are loved and deserve good things.

╰┈➤ if possible, seek professional help, whether through therapy or medication.

ᯓ★ tips for hidden/closeted littles . ݁₊ ⊹ . 🌞

note: There is nothing wrong with your regression, but I understand the need to hide it from others. But please know you are not gross, wrong, or bad for regressing. These are tips I've gathered as a closeted regressor myself, hope they help<3

╰┈➤ look into mobile games, they're great for regressing! There's lots of cute and soft games on the appstore and google that can help with regression and slipping into little space.

╰┈➤ im big on asmr. as a tool to relax, unwind, and regress. linked here and here are two videos I think are great for littles who would like to try asmr to help their regression!

╰┈➤ if you're older, look into adult coloring books and other crafts and hobbies. Sewing, crocheting, etc. are good options! Creating, in general, is a fantastic way to slip into little space!

╰┈➤ if you have a form of control over when you regress, try to regress when you're alone and safe to limit being caught.

╰┈➤ ring pops are a good alternative to paci's, and water bottles with straws work well, too!

╰┈➤ try purchasing gear at second-hand shops, make sure to clean and sanitize everything, of course! My baby bottle, rattle, and plushies are from a second-hand shop!

╰┈➤ make yourself a regression playlist of songs that help you feel small or fit the vibe you'd like to experience when regressed

╰┈➤ watch your favorite kids' shows! Or shows you watched when you were physically younger!

tips to caring for littles who suffer from:

emotional dysregulation, hyper empathy,

and harsh moodswings !!

• develop grounding techniques to bring your little back to earth when they spiral. (breathing exercises, hand squeezing, observation games, etc.)

• remind them that what they're feeling is only big right now, and will pass.

• offer reassurance and spend time with them. Do not get angry if your little is easily upset or agitated.

• if the source of the moodswing or dysregulation is removable, try to get your little or the cause away from the other.

• find distractions to help your baby cope. (tv, games, toys, coloring, etc.)

• offer to talk with them about their big feelings and / or listen.

• if they're comfortable with it, take over bigger tasks and set down rules to prevent harm. (Ex: earlier bedtimes, no exceptions.)

• show love towards your little, and communicate your feelings aswell.

• encourage your little to be open about their moodswings the moment they have them. Preventing further damage or fear for both parties.

• if your little is experiencing hyper empathy towards another party, assure them they're a good person for feeling on the other's behalf, but remind them that they're their own person.

• if your little is neglecting themselves for others, step in and stop them from doing so if safe.

As someone who experiences big emotions very quickly, and has symptoms of hyper empathy as well as bpd. I have a hard time distinguishing my emotions, I hope this post helps others like me ^^ feel free to add your own tips on!

≡;- ꒰ °feel bad about having to hide your agere? i present to you: the spider-man method!! ꒱

ੈ✩‧₊˚ since i'm not open about my agere irl, there's times where i feel lonely/lesser than the people around me because i regress. but, i have my own special way to help with those feelings!!

ੈ✩‧₊˚ i call it: the spider-man method!!! now, you may be wondering; "what's that? how does it work?" so let me explain what it is, and how i came up with it!!

ੈ✩‧₊˚ so, i'm a huge fan of spider-man. it's my favorite thing in the whole world!! and one day, i was laying down, feeling a bit sad about having to hide my agere irl.

ੈ✩‧₊˚ but then, i remembered spider-man and his backstory. as peter parker, he has to hide his identity as spider-man. but as spider-man, he can conquer any problem in his way.

ੈ✩‧₊˚ and i thought to myself, "hey... that sounds a lot like me!"

ੈ✩‧₊˚ so, whenever i feel sad or ashamed about having to hide my agere, i remind my self that spider-man does the same thing too, (just with his secret identity) and he's still the coolest guy around, and he's still strong and resilient despite his struggles! so even though i have to hide my agere sometimes, i can still be strong and cool like him too!!

ੈ✩‧₊˚ now, i see my littlespace as my very own superhero persona! so remember, your regression is a superpower, and you can use it to conquer anything that troubles you/gets in your way! you are valid, you are loved, and you are a superhero!!