i often get people in my inbox saying "quinny i wanna ask my bf/gf/friend/etc to be my cg!!" which is great and awesome !! i'm so happy you found someone who you feel safe enough to regress with !! but, you little ones need to be mindful that finding someone to be your caregiver is only half the journey!!
so, here is a [mostly] compressive guide to agere boundaries !!
In simple terms, boundaries are the invisible lines we draw for our friends/family/significant other so we can feel respected in relationships!
These can be emotional, with examples such as :
Please don't discuss [insert triggering subject] when I'm present
Please don't shame my interests
Please don't lie to me
These can also be physical, which examples such as :
Please don't hold my hand without asking
Please don't sneak up behind me
Please rush me while I'm speaking
Of course you can kid! Boundaries are for everyone!
Well first, you have to identify what your boundaries are! This is fairly easy!! Ask yourself some of the following questions,
Do I feel safe when [insert a specific action] occurs near me?
Do I feel loved when [insert a specific action] occurs near me?
[Examples of actions can include; yelling, lying, raising voices, etc etc.]
Once you figure out what your boundaries are, you can start vocalizing them! It might feel scary at first, but in the long run it'll lead to healthy communication and relationships :)
Find a time to sit with your regressor/caregiver to discuss both your boundaries, allow the conversation to be a two way street- be open to listening to your partners boundaries and answering questions [within reason].
This does not mean to allow your partner to pick and choose which of your boundaries they listen too. It simply means be open to further explaining how they can respect your boundaries- this could be a learning process for both of you !!
Let us get one thing clear, boundaries apply to every type of relationship. You and your boss at work, you and your teachers, you and your second cousin's dog walker...every type of relationship has boundaries because well, everyone has boundaries!
Regressors are allowed to have boundaries.
Caregivers are allowed to have boundaries.
It's important that we communicate these boundaries with our regressor/caregiver otherwise an incident can occur that can lead to an unhealthy/unhappy littlespace/carerspace.
Common boundaries that regressors may have :
Don't swear when I'm regressed
Don't shout at/around me when I'm regressed
Don't touch me on my [insert body part]
Common boundaries that caregivers may have :
I'm not comfortable with helping you [insert task]
I'm not comfortable discussing [insert topic] when you're regressed
I need space before I'm ready to properly caregive
if you've vocalized your boundaries yet find that there is a cycle of them being disregarded, then you may not be in a safe dynamic :(
[dividers creds to @softandsleepyboy]
-- with sparkles and love,
quinny π
i wanna go to school with other littles and have it divided by grades thru elementary ! i wanna wake up in the morning and pack my lil backpack and have a carer pack my lunch, take my sippy and maybe a favorite plush with me, get all buckled in the car and dropped off! i wanna hug my carer bye and then get to see all my little friends. we could have different activity stations and different grade levels and practice times tables, addition, or counting depending on our levels! practice sight words or read simple books, and have circle reading time! the teacher would pick a book and we could all sit on a rug in a circle and listen carefully, waiting to see the pictures! we could have chapter books like Junie B. Jones and Goosebumps for older kids, and touch and feel sight word books for littler ones! we could have coloring stations, bracelet making stations, and themed activities/crafts for seasons or holidays :3 and then have lunch time and recess outside with a big grassy field and playground!!! i wanna turn in worksheets and get stickers on them and bring activities home to my carer to have them put on the fridge :,)
ΰ©β©β§βΛ since i'm not open about my agere irl, there's times where i feel lonely/lesser than the people around me because i regress. but, i have my own special way to help with those feelings!!
ΰ©β©β§βΛ i call it: the spider-man method!!! now, you may be wondering; "what's that? how does it work?" so let me explain what it is, and how i came up with it!!
ΰ©β©β§βΛ so, i'm a huge fan of spider-man. it's my favorite thing in the whole world!! and one day, i was laying down, feeling a bit sad about having to hide my agere irl.
ΰ©β©β§βΛ but then, i remembered spider-man and his backstory. as peter parker, he has to hide his identity as spider-man. but as spider-man, he can conquer any problem in his way.
ΰ©β©β§βΛ and i thought to myself, "hey... that sounds a lot like me!"
ΰ©β©β§βΛ so, whenever i feel sad or ashamed about having to hide my agere, i remind my self that spider-man does the same thing too, (just with his secret identity) and he's still the coolest guy around, and he's still strong and resilient despite his struggles! so even though i have to hide my agere sometimes, i can still be strong and cool like him too!!
ΰ©β©β§βΛ now, i see my littlespace as my very own superhero persona! so remember, your regression is a superpower, and you can use it to conquer anything that troubles you/gets in your way! you are valid, you are loved, and you are a superhero!!
i love transmasc regressors, i love transmasc regressors who play with "girls toys" cuz its nostalgic, i love transmasc regressors who want a "boy childhood", i love transmasc regressors who bind in littlespace, i love transmasc regressors who dont bind in littlespace, i love transmasc regressors who climb trees and catch bugs, i love transmasc regressors who paint their nails and play with makeup, i love transmasc regressors who feel more connected to boyhood when regressed, i love transmasc regressors who feel more connected to girlhood when regressed, i love transmasc regressors who dont have any gender when regressed, i love transmasc regressors who want all their gear to be blue/green/black with cars and truck and dinos, i love transmasc regressors who want all their gear to be pink/purple with princesses and unicorns, i love transmasc regressors who like skirts/dresses, i love trans masc regressors who like pants/shorts, i love transmasc regressors who regress to escape dysphoria, i love transmasc regressors who dont feel any dysphoria in littlespace, i love transmasc regressors who regress to an age before they came out, i love transmasc regressors who arent out, i love transmasc regressors who are older and play "boy" video games, i love transmasc regressos who are younger and play with stuffies, i love transmasc regressors whos voice pitches higher in littlespace, i love regressors who havent medically transitioned, i love transmasc regressors who have medically transitioned, i love transmasc regressors who have facial hair.
i love transmasc regressors!
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