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I think I’m learning to become comfortable in my loneliness, which I guess I was going to have to learn to do sooner or later. I would complain about the lack of social interaction I can say that it feels better than overextending myself to talk to the people I consider friends when they take so long to respond or don’t respond at all and then rarely take the initiative to reach out to me and with me already feeling a sense of stress that I don’t even know why I’m feeling it just wasn’t sustainable and yes it does hurt but so did being ignored and disregarded.

Don't sabotage your future peace because familiar chaos is comfortable.

Don't sabotage your future peace because familiar chaos is comfortable.

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Why Asking for Help from My Higher Self Worked Better Than Common Spiritual Methods

In my experience, commonly known methods, including Bashar's method, are not as effective as you might think. For example, if you try to follow excitement, the excitement disappears and only tension remains, or if you focus on breathing slowly to relieve tension, the tension becomes stronger, or if you meditate to relieve anxiety and become peaceful, the anxiety becomes stronger. In some cases, I was told to just do nothing, so I spent a few weeks doing nothing, but nothing really got better.

In fact, all the methods I tried seemed to have some effect, but they actually made the problem worse. For example, when there was a fire, it felt like covering the fire with flammable materials. Then, it seemed to work at first, but later the problem got worse. I practiced all the methods consistently for at least a few weeks, and if they were effective, they really caused big problems. They caused anxiety, tension, fear, etc.

The most effective thing was to ask my higher self for help. One day I tried most of the methods that were supposed to work, and I felt that if I continued on, I would be in big trouble. But I didn’t want to give up. At that time, the idea of ​​asking for help from my Higher Self came to me. From then on, I continued to ask for help from my Higher Self. Sometimes I simply asked for “comfort,” “peace,” “joy,” “physical relaxation,” “material abundance and freedom.” Sometimes I asked for “knowledge,” “understanding,” and sometimes I asked for “a certain state of spiritual awakening.” In fact, this help was so subtle that it was hard to recognize. However, when you ask for help, even if it doesn’t happen right away, it will happen a few days later when the opportunity to help you comes.

For example, when you ask for “a state of embodied awakening (a state of heightened awareness, a state where your body is connected to your Higher Self, etc.), you feel a pleasant sensation of subtle electricity and energy flowing through your body. In some cases, the next afternoon, I would suddenly experience strong energy, currents, and pleasant sensations flowing through my body for dozens of minutes.

When I requested astral projection, I spent about an hour or two lying in bed, lost in thought, and then experienced a vibration and a departure from my body. I requested this 3-4 times without any preparation or practice, and it actually worked. (However, it was not as interesting an experience as I thought. I was fully conscious every time, but everything was almost black and white. So I lost interest and stopped.)

When I requested relaxation, I waited for dozens of minutes, and when I briefly lost consciousness of my body or surroundings and fell into a fantasy, I experienced immediate physical relaxation. However, when I was surprised that I had relaxed and turned my attention back to my body, I started to feel physical discomfort again.

When I asked for immediate knowledge and understanding, I experienced that within a few minutes, an idea would come to me as if it were my own, or a few hours later, I would suddenly become interested in a topic and look it up, and the understanding I wanted would just come to me.

When I suddenly felt anxious or uncomfortable, I would ask my Higher Self to make me feel better. And I felt as if the wind was turning against me. It was turning the direction of the wind of anxiety against me and weakening it. And after a few dozen minutes, I could barely feel it.

One day, I became interested in the topic of Reiki and asked my Higher Self to do a sleep attunement. I did it for a few weeks and stopped because I didn’t feel much difference. However, one day, I heard that one of my friends felt strangely relaxed and happy when he was around me.

From these experiences, I learned that the help of my Higher Self definitely exists. Even if you ask once and forget about it, my Higher Self will definitely help you with what you ask for. And it doesn’t have to be for a lofty purpose. Even if you just want to be more comfortable and happy, or just ask for interest, it was enough. The help of the higher self can be very subtle at first. I have often stopped because it actually worked, but the effect was much weaker than I expected, or because the help was not given immediately or very naturally, and I didn't even know that I was receiving help. However, the help is definitely there, and even a little help or knowledge can greatly improve the situation. According to other people's experiences, asking for help from the higher self can seem ineffective at first, but if you ask consistently and repeatedly, you can feel very specific and distinct effects later. I am not at that level yet. However, I have been able to receive considerable help even if it is not to that extent. The higher self has actually allowed me to experience results that are difficult to achieve in the beginning with any spiritual practice, without any effort.

Mental pain brings knowledge, understanding, energy and uplift.

Sometimes I meditate well, and sometimes I don't. In general, I have had more impressive experiences meditating when I'm in pain, suffering, or fear than when I'm just peaceful and comfortable.

In my experience, meditation makes mental suffering such as trauma worse. It is a pain that feels like picking and tearing a wound. No matter how much I wanted to run away, I couldn't. There were also cases where pain, fear, anxiety, etc. suddenly occurred like a seizure during daily life. I tried a lot to escape from them, but eventually I realized it was no use and gave up. I turn to myself when pain arises. And every time that happens, these pains get stronger and bigger and continue like an endless abyss, but at some point they disappear.

I suddenly gain some knowledge, some understanding from these sufferings. And when I apply this knowledge to myself and reinterpret situations and reality, that is, when I change my perspective, it evokes in me a feeling of comfort and a sense of a constant flowing current. I am buzzing and vibrating.

It certainly doesn't feel very good, but something definitely feels better.

I would like to encourage you to apply these when you encounter the inevitable problems in life. There is no point in doing something. You just have to endure it. Change happens when you stop resisting and just let the pain be and focus on who you are.

And if you want to experience some progress in your meditation, I encourage you to look for your mental pain, fears and anxieties. When you face them, they come to mind. However, when you ignore them and focus on your being, they break down into energy and integrate into you. It's physical vitality and feeling and feeling better. It gives you strength and energy, like putting together a piece of dictation.

Consciousness is the only reality.

Things change when you change.

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There are many ways to deal with fear.

There are many ways to deal with fear.

First method. Change your beliefs.

Fear has certain limiting assumptions. Find those parts and fix them.

For example, imagine you are dreaming right now. Imagine being able to change the past, change the present, and change the attitudes and perspectives of others at will when unwanted situations arise. What if so? Of course, even if it is possible, you may feel fear, etc. But, what if you could actually do it and actually do it, even if you're afraid? Imagine this.

Second method. Turn your fear into something incompatible.

This is a way to change your mind into a state where you feel joy, pleasure, love, and freedom. If you switch to this state and you're feeling that way, even though you feel fear, it's not as strong and dominant as it was before. In this state, try focusing more on joy, freedom, and fun that are not related to fear. Then the fear will be forgotten as if it never existed in the first place, and you will only notice later that the fear is gone.

This can be done by doing or imagining something that you enjoy and like.

Third method. Purify.

Try using ho'oponopono or the Sedona method (release technique). However, in my experience this is a very long and slow method. It takes a long time. Of course, it is quick and effective once you master it, but it seems to be an inconvenient and tedious task that takes at least several months.

Fourth method. Hyperventilate.

Try to induce hyperventilation through Wimhoff breathing techniques or holotropic breathing techniques. When this condition occurs, senses and reason become paralyzed. At the same time, various thoughts disappear.

There is no need for any special training, just inhale and exhale quickly for a few minutes or more.

Fifth method. Meditate.

Focus on your inner background, inner silence, or the gap between your thoughts. At first, you may feel random thoughts, but if you keep paying attention to them and pay attention, at some point you will feel peace, joy, etc. It's like focusing more on the sound you want amidst noise.

However, in my experience, this method takes a long time to master. It appears that it will take at least several months to strengthen this feeling of peace to the point where it overwhelms fears and other factors.

Sixth method. Take deep breaths.

Unlike the fourth hyperventilation, this is simply breathing deeply and comfortably. I have discovered that anxiety or fear is not actually caused by any belief or situation, but simply by habitually being tense and breathing shallowly. Of course, your nervousness or shallow breathing may have started with anxious or fearful thoughts. However, that is not a direct cause, but just a secondary cause.

Once you begin to practice this breathing comfortably, deeply, and consciously for more than a few minutes, you will discover that the thoughts that made you feel anxious or fearful are in fact irrelevant. At least it's not as intense as before.

Recommended method

I recommend the sixth method of breathing comfortably and the second method of pleasant imagination. Then, naturally, the first belief correction also occurs.

A terrible habit i've picked up on is complementing advice.

I love advice, and when its good and relevant and in a format I can understand well, I genuinely appreciate and encourage it.

So in response, i'll be like, "that's a good one" or "ooh i wouldn't have thought of that", etc. and idk where the line when it starts to sound more condescending than grateful is???

It doesn't help that i have this tone of voice that i have been told multiple times sounds 'permanently sarcastic', which is a whole other can of worms...

I guess accepting advice this is just one of those skills i have to put conscious effort into improving whenever the opportunity arises, until one day it'll just become part of my good communication repertoire! Excited for that :)

Hi everyone,💖

I’ve been diving into the world of witchcraft and spirituality, and I’m discovering that while I have a deep belief in spirits, energies, and the existence of different dimensions, I don’t always see them—or feel them the way I expect to. I know there’s something more beyond the physical, and I’m starting to understand how lucid dreaming, clairvoyance, and intuition can all play a role in tapping into that hidden world.

But, here’s where I’m at—I can sense it, and I believe it, but the experience still feels just out of reach. I feel energy, have intuitive flashes, and sometimes, I wonder if I’m missing something crucial. How do I begin to bridge the gap between belief and actual experience? Is there a way to truly connect with spirits or sense other dimensions more clearly?

I’ve been thinking a lot about fairies and nature spirits, too. I feel a pull toward them but haven’t quite figured out how to build a relationship with those beings. I would love to hear from anyone who has explored these things more—how did you nurture that connection?

I guess my biggest question is: How do you begin to truly see the unseen?✨

Any guidance or stories would be so appreciated.

Thanks for reading.

The Power of Intention over Purpose and Goals

Recently, I became frustrated again with my seeming inability to declutter my life from the usual distractions. Reaching for my phone to scroll endlessly, putting Youtube on as background noise, constantly listening to random playlists, the usual suspects. When I reached my peak in frustration a thought came to me: I want to live my life with intent. I want to make conscious decisions and act accordingly. I want to focus on one thing at a time, as often as possible. I know I'm not reinventing the wheel here. Mindfulness and conscious living isn't a foreign concept to me either. But for some reason when I started framing it with the question "What is my intention?" Meaning, what is my intention, in the first place, towards myself, I realized that it seemed easier to shift my behavior. So now when I instinctively pick up my phone out of boredom I ask myself: "What is my intention in doing this?" For some reason it helps me shift my attention towards better options, like reading or just drinking my coffee in silence while looking out of the window, without feeling like I'm forcing myself to. Of course I don't just only do that though. I'm not one of those people that believes all social media is inherently evil. But the way that I consume things on there changes when I ask myself what my intentions are. When I do go on Youtube for example, the end result is I spend less time on there, but consume more high quality content that I'm actually interested in, rather than senseless short-form content. Before, I used to always try to set myself concrete goals like "No scrolling in the morning" but often failed to actually reach those goals because my mind immediately registered it as another annoying task I have to do. The cool thing about finding out what your intentions are in doing certain things, is that it can be applied to a lot of different aspects in life, or even just life in general. Rather than asking myself what my overarching goal or purpose in life is, I just ask myself "How do I intend to live?" Goals and purpose are terms that can feel heavy and burdensome to us, as they are intricately tied to our usefulness to the system we live in. That isn't to say that we should only think about ourselves and never be useful to others, but the societal pressure that comes with "finding your purpose" or reaching certain goals that everyone deems to be standard things you have to achieve (getting a good job, buying a house, starting a family, etc.) often doesn't actually help us achieve those things in a truthful and intentional way, even if we really want to achieve them. And of course it doesn't help at all, when we have dreams that are completely different from the "standard" way of living. (Some people don't care about being successful in their job, some people don't want families, etc.). By focusing on our intentions, we ask ourselves what we want out of life, not what we think we should want. The more we become familiar with our intentions, the more easy it becomes to navigate life in a way that is suitable for our particular selves, and the easier it becomes to live in line with those intentions, because it becomes easier to reinforce positive behaviors that enhance our life experience.

Fanart

Just going through my sketchbook + found my very FIRST fanart of ROTTMNT back in 2020. It's fun to see what’s stayed the same (my love for word play) and what’s changed all these years. Here’s to reminiscing the good ole days.

Choose empowering beliefs 

In the process of changing beliefs, choose beliefs that are empowering to your soul. A good way to know what belief will be empowering is to simply ask yourself how you feel about adding the new belief. If you feel a strong connection with a new belief, such as feelings of excitement, it will probably be a very good choice of a belief to implement. Make a conscious effort to purge all beliefs that are less than satisfying. Understand also that as you become a more conscious human being, changing your beliefs will become a much easier, more natural process.

Peace & Blessings, Our Journey to Balance 

When you recognize your personal power, you no longer need to feel superior or inferior to anyone else.

Deepak Chopra (via icreatewhatibelieve)

What we find is that if you have a goal that is very, very far out, and you approach it in little steps, you start to get there faster. Your mind opens up to the possibilities.

Mae Jemison (First African American Female Astronaut)

3 parts of building a habit: a cue, a routine & a reward.

As part of transitions, I am developing new habits both naturally (like sleeping longer ☁) and those at will (like working out more ☜). But how does the human body, brain and soul develop new habits? AND how do we build a positive habit over a negative habit? But first, we should acknowledge that only YOU have a say in what is a positive or a negative thing that you want for yourself at at given time and space. With that being said, here are some good tips I just read about developing new habits, and repetition or self-torture are not the answers. 

What are habits and how are they formed anyway?  Habits are made by synapses, or gaps between cells that send impulses to the brain. This helps facilitate what a person thinks or does. If this is repeated constantly, it becomes more accessible -- or a habit. 

Now to the 6 ways to breaking a bad habit and developing healthy habits:

Link the new behavior to a routine or environmental cue: Repetition is only part of forming a new habit. It is useful to develop a habit loophole, which means performing something at the same time of the day. This becomes a response to specific cue.

Link a difficult task to a reward: Pretty much think “If i do this tough task, then I will reward myself with something that I like” The idea behind the if-then principle is to link the new behavior, which may be uncomfortable at first, with something positive so the new behavior is associated with positive. This enhances confidence in performing new habit and thus increasing positive feedback and desire to do it again. 

Repeat new behaviors and keep track of progress: Okay, I did say repetition but 24/7 repetition is not what makes a habit successful. In addition to repetition, keeping track of new habit and response to performance is a helpful technique in developing new habitual behavior. Be mindful that life happens (let it happen) and it is okay to miss a day or two of your routine. It is much more important staying schedule most of the time rather than ALL the time. This helps build a new habit. 

Keep it simple: Focus on one habit at a time, otherwise it becomes overwhelming and easy to give up

Use peer support for accountability: Tell a friend, partner or join online support group for motivation or a even a little peer pressure. 

Make a detailed plan: As with many other personal or professional goals a plan in mind will provide more direction. This can be very helpful when building a new habit as well. 

Forget the 21-day habit myth, there is no exact time for developing a habit but with a cue that reminds you and makes you comfortable to do something, a routine that fits you, and a reward for your hard work, a habit will be formed.