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Something I would add about Michfest : In the 90s, there was a scandal involving a trans man there (Tony Baretto-Neto). He had phallo and simply took a shower there, but then the staff confronted him because people started saying there were multiple "men" / "transsexuals" / male invaders walking around exposing their erect penises in front of women, and blamed him.

It caused a lot of controversy and he literally ended up having to make a public written statement about it to debunk these claims, saying he was just 1 guy taking a shower (he even said that due to the nature of his penis, the thing about him harassing women with his erection was literally not physically possible, people were just making shit up to paint him as predatory). He explained what really happened : he had told the women around that he was gonna shower and explained his situation, they all said they were fine with it, some shower malfunction happened and some women who helped him with it therefore saw him naked. (He also said that he went to the festival as a trans man because he'd been a lesbian activist since the 60s and had fought in these spaces for decades, even having played in a band in similar festivals in the past).

He had explained all that to the staff and, despite them fully knowing he was AFAB, they didn't care. They didn't want it to be a place ~ for AFABs ~, they wanted a place without any people AMAB or penises, and decided their policy also included people AFAB with penises after this "incident". (Also this story has been largely misrepresented and said to be about a trans woman's penis in the showers, but yeah, the real story behind this was actually about a trans man.)

It's not even a rare occurrence, it's actually pretty common for things "for AFABs" or "AFAB-only" to reject/ban trans men who are deemed "too much like cis men" (or mysteriously find a reason that makes them "not a good fit"). I guarantee you that most shit like "AFAB-only housing" or whatever would also reject trans men with penises. Pretty much every space or thing "for AFABs" will have some secret threshold for trans men, where if you have certain features you will be seen as "too much like a cis man" and not allowed to join because it "makes the others uncomfortable". They won't dare to admit it out loud if they market themselves as open to trans people AFAB, and the exact criteria varies from group to group (it can be as little as "vibes" and not even medical transition related). But "having a penis" will pretty much unanimously be seen as crossing that line and get you rejected.

It's just really frustrating to see some people take them at their word when some group says "we are open to anyone AFAB" and then react like "see ? TME privilege once again, they only exclude trans women !!!!" and act like all trans people AFAB are included in that when there's always, and I cannot state this enough, *ALWAYS* a cutoff point for transmascs in these things, over which they're seen as predatory, invading, untrustworthy, violent, dangerous, and are excluded (and its not necessarily for being mistaken for transfem, it's very deliberate) no matter how "welcome for being AFAB" they are on paper. The entire spectrum of transmasculinity is never welcome in these spaces. It's always a lie.

TRFs love taking other radfems at their word except when those radfems say they really do see trans women as men, then it's all "why do you believe TERFs?" and shit.

Thank you for writing this up. <3

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So many people are so against transmasc headcannons that it is genuinely sad. I have seen so many people accusing trans men of “erasing women” and saying that a trans man existing is somehow less progressive than a cis woman. Saying that every character would just be better if they were a woman. I have also seen a lot of “the only headcannoning that can happen is if it’s a trans woman”, but for the most part I have seen people angry about “erasing cis women”.

My first experience with this was very early in my trans journey, back before I’d realized myself. I had read a book about Peter Pan being a trans man originally called Wendy. It was the first time I had ever seen a trans man represented in media. It felt so right and exciting that I immediately went online (never a good idea) hoping to experience more about the book.

I found two videos about the book, one by a poc trans man saying it was a really good book and that others should read it but not really diving into the themes very much, and the other was by a white nonbinary person that spent the entire video hating on the book. Accusing the author (a trans man) of being a pedophile and of erasing woman, just going on an on about how horrible of a book it was. Adding that any man who liked a trans man was just a pedophile because trans men look like children. I was going through a really rough part of my life, feeling really suicidal and conflicted about being trans. And here was this video destroying the one bit of positivity I had and spouting the very things that had been making me feel so conflicted about being trans in the first place. The very things the world was screaming in my face.

I wonder if I would have figured myself out much sooner if I hadn’t had to experience that.

I'm very, very sorry anon. You didn't deserve to be put through that.

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The American Negro has the great advantage of having never believed that collection of myths to which white Americans cling: that their ancestors were all freedom-loving heroes, that they were born in the greatest country the world has ever seen, or that Americans are invincible in battle and wise in peace, that Americans have always dealt honourably with Mexicans and Indians and all other neighbours or inferiors…. Negroes know far more about white Americans than that…. And perhaps this attitude, held in spite of what they know and have endured, helps to explain why Negroes, on the whole, and until lately, have allowed themselves to feel so little hatred. The tendency has really been, insofar as this was possible, to dismiss white people as the slightly mad victims of their own brainwashing. One watched the lives they led. One could not be fooled about that; one watched the things they did and the excuses that they gave themselves, and if a white man was really in trouble, deep trouble, it was to the Negro’s door that he came. And one felt that if one had had that white man’s worldly advantages, one would never have become as bewildered and as joyless and as thoughtlessly cruel as he. The Negro came to the white man for a roof or for five dollars or for a letter to the judge; the white man came to the Negro for love. But he was not often able to give what he came seeking. The price was too high; he had too much to lose. And the Negro knew this, too. When one knows this about a man, it is impossible for one to hate him, but unless he… becomes equal—it is also impossible for one to love him.… (Ask any Negro what he knows about the white people with whom he works. And then ask the white people with whom he works what they know about him.)

— James Baldwin, The Fire Next Time

a long time ago i watched a tik tok from an older trans woman, in her 60’s or 70’s. someone had commented on another video of hers asking “why don’t we ever see trans men from your generation? why aren’t they involved in activism?” and her response was “because a lot of them died.” she told stories abt the trans men she knew who committed suicide rather than be married off and forced to live as a woman, or died from medical neglect or botched abortions. “they would be here if they could, but they can’t because the world failed them.”

This is a false equivalency.

The term for somebody who is transfem and who is oppressed for being transfem—is transfem. Intersex people are intersex. Transfem people are transfem. Perisex people are not intersex. Non-transfem people are not transfem.

TMA/TME is more closely equivalent to if I said IA/IE (intersexism applicable/intersexism exempt).

The reason TMA/TME is problematic is because it fails to acknowledge that non-transfem people can be impacted my transmisogyny—the same way perisex transfems can be impacted by intersexism. And also because it completely ignores the existence of the oppression transmascs experience, categorising them in with their oppressors. The TMA/TME binary is problematic because it collapses complex interplays of oppression into one binary system.

If you want a word for somebody who is transfem and impacted by transfem oppression in the way somebody who is transfem would be? The term is transfem.

“Transfems really are the only people who can’t have terms for their own oppression” I have a question. How do you feel about the term “transandrophobia?” How would you feel about the terms “TAA” and “TAE” (transandrophobia applicable and transandrophobia exempt)? If you’re okay with those terms, I’ll eat my words (somehwhat, it’s still weird, but at least you’re okay with it across the board). If you’re not—why? Do you think trans men don’t experience specific oppression? Is your issue just with who coined it? How do you feel about the term transemasculinisation? Anti-transmasculinity? Please consider why you think it’s okay to restrict the language transmascs use to describe their oppression.

Further, why not make it TMNA/TMNE (transmisogynoir applicable and transmisogynoir exempt)? Black trans women absolutely face the highest rates of assault (assuming black trans men aren’t being erased in the statistics, which is a big assumption). If you’re talking about systems of oppression… why not consider the most impactful axes? Why only consider the axis of man/woman? Consider what this says about the proximity of your theory to radical feminism.

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I'm so glad that y'all are so into Monkey Man and the badass hijra priestess army, but friendly reminder that hijra are NOT trans women. Hijra are their own distinct gender; trans women are women. India has both :)

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wow okay two things

1. not all trans men want to medically transition. some trans men are nonbinary/gender nonconforming/simply dont want to medically transition and just want to or have socially transitioned and they will still experience sexism because they are still perceived by society as women.

2. just because a trans man does transition, a lot of the time he will be perceived as "doing masculinity wrong" by society or he may even be outed or still live in a town where everyone knows what he used to look like before medically transitioning and will therefore still be subjected to sexism because people see him as a failed man/woman.

we do not get the full male experience as soon as we start calling ourselves men. try actually listening to trans men when we discuss our oppression instead of assuming you know our fucking life experiences.

What an absolutely strange and deranged thing to comment under a reel about a lesbian couple getting married dude.....

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I've been constantly accused of being trans for sex reasons since I was like 12 (and so have so many trans men and mascs I know!) so I just do NOT believe that autoandrophilia is applied to transmascs less. on a personal level, I just don't talk about it because no one ever takes me seriously which seems indicative of a problem imo

we might be dangerously close to acknowledging trans men also face challenges in society

"Transandrophobia isn't real because that implies trans women oppress trans men" it doesn't, but do you think this way because you think transmisogyny means trans men oppress trans women?

"Transandrophobia is reactionary to transmisogyny and is just a way to make trans men feel special and more important" it isn't, but do you think that way because you think Transmisogyny is more "special and important" than other forms of oppression?

"Androphobia and misandry aren't real, so transandrophobia can't be" because you're basing your viewpoint on transmisogyny, and misogyny is the ultimate victimhood for you, right? Because we can't have a conversation separate from transmisogyny, because transmisogyny is the worst form of victimization, and everything stems from misogyny, especially transmisogyny. If you're not talking about misogyny, you might as well shut up.

And we can't have issues that aren't shared with cis people, because otherwise we aren't "really" men and women. Because white cishet people are the ones we should be looking to when we "prove" our identity through our suffering, right?

To be a woman, you have to suffer. To be a man, you can never suffer. You can never just be. You have guilt and shame and violence and self sacrifice to be doing if you dare to transition into power.

Because if you, a trans man, don't have male privilege, that must mean that trans women do, because we all live in opposite to eachother, even though the framework of male privilege is something made by and for cis people. If trans women are suffering, that must mean that you aren't.

You can't talk about your own life or struggles or else you're indirectly talking about trans women, and cis men, and cis women, and everyone else except you.

(And fuck non-binary and intersex people and whatever they have going on with their identities that shits just not important to our oppositional viewpoint, right? We can make them fit in this box based off of their genitals, anyway. Dont bring racism into this either, you're just being misogynistic if you do.)

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I do wanna point out that one of if not both the twins could also be intersex!

You’ve activated the infodump button regarding trans headcanons for the younger Pines twins:

At least one of those kids is trans. They’re said to be identical twins, which means they would’ve been assigned the same sex at birth. In order for them to be presenting as different genders at the time of the show, that means that one is trans. (Or they both are, but one hasn’t figured it out yet.)

I lean towards Dipper being transmasc and Mabel being cis, but I really enjoy all the different variations of trans headcanons people have come up with.

Gonna be a little obsessed with the idea of them both being transmasc since the previous anon mentioned transmasc Mabel, because I’m gonna be real, it hadn’t occurred to me that they might both be trans until reading that ask.

I think Gravity Falls has enough weirdness going on that thanks to supernatural gubbins the two can be trans in every direction and cis all at the same time, like quantum physics.

I got official Neopets tarot cards for christmas and I am being jettisoned back to the early 2000s as we speak. They're so beautiful, so nostalgic, they're turning me 13 again, I am in love.

I love these! Neopets was life when I was a kid. I was never really any good at it, to the extent one can be good at Neopets, but I liked it a lot. Grundos were my favorite.

Trans men who complain about “invisibility” show that they have never wielded it in defense before. White men among you, have you never used your race as distraction to police while friends of color absconded? Able-bodied men among you, have you never highlighted your perceived competence in a public space to gain a boon for a disabled peer? In the same cloth, trans men’s identification of “invisible” is an in within hostile territory, a tool with which to fool those who categorize us as one of them and allow our trans sisters escape.

This stands in all situations. We must don the positionality of man like a beloved cloth and stand up for trans women in every schism, combating all the coalescing ways their identities and lives are constantly under assault. This means protecting them in the streets just as much as it does in social contexts. This means shaking off the sad, sick, kicked dog look we seem to drag alongside us, collapsing and wailing whenever a transfem dares to express some form of discomfort or distress concerning our behavior.

Did you not think stepping into the class and role of man came with responsibility? Baggage? We’re stepping into a legion of death and destruction, guys. Dudes suck, to put it lightly. People sharing this thought are not new nor misinformed. As fun as it can be to revel in positive spins on masculinity, you have to look at the bigger picture. You are one. Welcome. It takes hard work to be a decent one. Having "trans-" on the front of it doesn't change this fact.

Does anybody remember the old joke “trans guys can have a little misogyny, as a treat”? Hilarious, isn’t it? I reckon the lot of us took this really, really seriously and, instead of using this lifelong opportunity we’ve granted ourselves to refashion manhood into a practice of prioritizing and uplifting trans women, we've chosen to become to very guys we hid from in high school.

hey, other trans women, group pep talk here:

not liking being seen as a man doesn't give you the right to treat men like shit.

not wanting to be associated with manhood, personally, does not mean you get to treat people who DO want to be associated with manhood like shit.

not wanting your body to have high levels of testosterone does not give you the right to tell other people that testosterone is a "poison" or that it will "ruin your body". testosterone was bad for you. it's not bad for everyone. i was forced on to estrogen HRT as a teenager due to being intersex and i literally fucking hated every single moment of it because it made me miserable. estrogen is not "pure" and testosterone is not "evil". estrogen almost ruined my health and my life.

you are traumatized by cisheternormative patriarchy. you are not traumatized by the concept of manhood.

trans men are not talking about their struggles with corrective rape, misgendering, transandrophobia, misogyny, violence, homelessness, substance abuse and domestic violence to diminish what we go through. we BOTH face these issues and for some reason you're just literally choosing to erase what an entire group of people that you don't occupy goes through for... what exactly ?

hating trans men and misgendering them and treating them like shit is transphobia.

what are you trying to accomplish here? do you give a fuck about trans rights at all? or is this about feeling powerless in cisheternormative society, so you feel you have to control someone else?

if trans women talking about the experience of being a trans woman doesn't take space away from trans men talking about the experience of being trans men, then the opposite isn't true, either.

if the concept of transmisogyny doesn't take space away from people discussing transandrophobia, then the opposite is also true.

do y'all hear yourselves? hating trans men won't make cisheternormative society like you better. hating trans men won't make transmisogyny go away. throwing trans men under the bus won't make queerphobes treat and accept you better. all you're doing is being transphobic. who does that help exactly?

ask yourself: are you in this because you want to express who you are on the inside, or are you in this to be a bully? if the only reason you're here is to treat men like shit because you don't like being seen as a man, the door is right there. kissing up to rad fems won't make them see you as more of a woman, just so you're painfully aware. they will always hate us. stop sucking up to people who literally want you to die.

trans women aren't the only trans people who suffer under cisheternormative patriarchy. accept this and move on. stop finding every excuse you can think of to misgender other trans people. it's not going to help you heal from your dysphoria and the trauma society has given you.

The way "transemasculation" has been seemingly re-coined as the sole replacement for transandrophobia, anti-transmasculinity, etc. is gross enough by itself, but as far as I can tell, the term had ALREADY been coined in 2022 ALONG WITH talking about antimasculism (both described here). And I just. I knew it wasn't in good faith in the first place, but to not even do 5 minutes of research before trying to coin a term about experiences you don't have...? Hello?

Examples of why saying “trans men are men” can be a dog whistle and why positing that testosterone is the “bad hormone” directly harms trans men.

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