Oracleofthepast - So Yeah, This Is A Thing

It’s strange getting over suicidal thoughts because your mind is like “hey if you do this, you could easily kill yourself” and then you’re like “oh cool...wait, I don’t want to die!”

I wanna tell you guys a story,

Not too long ago, my friend Bella came out as aromantic to me, and now I’ve got some things to say.

I was the one who told her what aromantic means, because I was explaining different sexual orientations to her. I remember saying, “Asexualiy is when you have romantic attraction, but no sexual attraction.”

Bella immedently, without missing a beat, asked, “Is there an opposite to that?”

I asked what she meant, and she asked if there was a term for sexual attraction but no romantic attraction. I told her about aromantics. She got weirdly quiet, then excused herself.

Not two weeks later I was heading to my boat. I was supposed to meet Bella and another one of our muteral friends there for a day of fishing.

As soon as I was in earshot, I saw Bella storming off the boat, and our other friend standing there like an idiot. Boi had no idea what was happening.

Anyway, Bella isn’t looking where she’s going and walks smack dab into me. That’s when I realized she was crying. Puffy red eyes, wet cheeks, the whole nine yards… And if you know anything about Bells, she does not cry. Ever.

She’s been through some serious crap in her life, and she does not cry. She’s tough as nails. Bella has a steel core. She does not not cry. I’ve seen her fall off a roof and break her arm before, not a single tear. I can’t stress this enough, Bella. Doesn’t. Cry.

So seeing her in tears shook me. I took her by the shoulders and escorted her somewhere more private where we could talk. We ended up in the women’s restroom, which was weird as fuck for me, because haven’t been in a woman’s rest room for years. Luckily it was empty, and I’m realistic, I know I don’t pass so well, so I don’t think anyone would have said anything anyway.

Before I can even ask her what’s wrong she hugs me around my middle and burys her face in my hoodie. Then, in a voice I can only describe as traumatized, she says, “I think I’m broken.”

I’ve never seen her in so much pain, and Bella and I are CLOSE. She’s one of my dearest friends. She’s like my little sister, but if she’s like my sister, our other muteral friend is like her twin. He and Bella have know each other WAY longer, they’re practically inseparable. They come as a pair. They’re a duo. They’re a package deal.

Appearently, said muteral friend asked Bella out and forcefully kissed her. She shoved him off, and told him she’s aromantic, which she only recently figured out. She wasn’t ready to be out, but this muteral friend left her no choice. She tried telling him no, and he didn’t listen. Bella saw no other option.

Quote on quote, this is what he said to Bella. “That’s okay. You just haven’t dated me yet. We’ve been like, unofficially together for years. You’re probably just freaked out that it’s finally going somewhere.”

After that I’m not 100% clear on what happened, but apparently Bella kept saying no Nd trying to explain herself, but he kept insisting he could ‘fix her.’

Eventudally she started crying and stormed away. That’s when I found her.

Keep in mind, this was her first experience coming out, and her best, closest friend insisted he could fix her and forcefully kissed her. I found out later he also implied corrective rape would ‘solve the problem.’

Bella was traumatized. She’s still traumatized. I tried to make her feel better by buying her an aro pride shirt, and taking her go a local LGBTQ+ hang out. I wanted her to be around like minded people, so she could see she wasn’t broken, and her identity deserved to be respected.

Instead of a warm, welcoming environment… The first thing someone said to her was, “This place is for REAL lgbt people. You don’t belong here.” He also implied she wasn’t human.

Just think about that for a minute. Her first experiences with being an out aromantic have been limited to;

A person she trusted more than anyone forcing himself upon her, claiming she was ill, and needed to be fixed. (Raped.)

Sobbing in my arms in the women’s restroom because she thought she was broken and defective.

Being told she wasn’t welcomed in LGBTQ+ spaces and called inhuman.

This isn’t what I want for her. Bella deserves better than this. She needs a support system, not all this crap. I’ve spent the past week trying to undo all the damage exclusionists, arophobes, and people she trusted did.

Aromantics and asexuals belong in the LGBTQ+ community. You literally cannot change my mind.

Here are a few more types of conflict!

Image ID below the cut!

(Image ID: a Nine-by-Nine grid labeled "Conflict in Literature". The first column is labeled "Classical" and it has (going top down) a man in a red shirt using a pitchfork to fight animals with red eyes with the caption "Man vs. Nature"; the same man holding a sword fighting another man with a sword and armor with the caption "Man vs. Man"; and the same man shaking his fist at a hand coming down from a cloud with the caption "Man vs. God". The second column is labeled "Modern" and has the man backing away from a crowd that is throwing things at him with the caption "Man vs. Society"; the man walking alone with a bottle and the caption "Man vs. Self"; and the man shaking his fist at the sky again, though this time, there is no cloud/hand, with the caption "Man vs. No God". The third column is labeled "Postmodern" and has the man waving a stick at a row of computers and the caption "Man vs. Technology"; the man walking on wavy ground that appears to have eyes below a sky full of dice with the caption "Man vs. Reality"; and the man sitting on a book shaking his fist at a hand holding a pen coming from the sky, captioned "Man vs. Author". Below the lower-right box ("Man vs. Author") there is the name of the author of the comic "Grant Snider".

im about to maul someone.

To people who are desperately asking for fundz/donations on tumblr.

USE THESE REDDIT SUBS INSTEAD PLEASE FOR GOODNESS SAKE!!!!!!!!!

Hate Reddit if you want, but using these subs are your best chance. People gather in these subs because they have charity to spare:

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/r/freelance  /r/povertyfinance /r/thrifty /r/borrow /r/gofundme

/r/depression /r/familysupport /r/transitions 

I never see anyone actually getting any significant donations on tumblr and to be honest, tumblr is the worst place to ask for assistance. Use it as your last resort, it frustrates me to no end seeing people begging for help, reblogging the same post over and over, the same types of posts over and over, to no avail, when people are waiting to help you on a different part of the web  GO TO WHERE THE HELP IS. IF YOU WANT DIRECT ACTION TO WORK STOP WITH TUMBLR AND USE REDDIT.

PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF SATAN REBLOG THIS SO WE CAN START REDUCING THE AMOUNT OF DONATION POSTS THAT GET STUCK FLOATING AROUND THIS WEBSITE

A version for tumblr that can be read without opening a new tab, since plenty of people would scroll past this story otherwise.

That implies that there is only one set/planet/group of aliens (which is highly improbable; do you know how large the universe is? as you’re basically saying that there are no aliens because of the scale of which you are speaking), that they all came at the same time (which is also highly improbable, for the same reason as before), or that all other (sentient) aliens have some form of hive mind that traverses across galaxies and light years, and that we were somehow left out of it (Earth, in the same way you’d complain to your mom: God/Universe!  They’re not including us in their hive mind!).  So some aliens might have visited Earth then, and others might visit after humans have gone extinct, but it’s unlikely that they all already came here

Maybe aliens came to Earth during dinosaur times, saw the big crazy dinos tearing shit apart and they noped the fuck out.

No it’s not.  I don’t know what New England you’re living in, but in the real one, there would be at least three Dunkin’ Donuts on the side of the street, and four more arrows on the sign.  

Where that New England Gothic post