Don’t Fall Into The Perfectionist Trap! The Best Thing You Can Do For Yourself Is The First Something.

Little things to be more charming ౨ৎ

holding eye contact when speaking to someone. takes some practice but so so worth it <3

don't be shy about your niche interests!! even if people don't fully get it, it makes you interesting!!

remember people's names!!

accept compliments, don't go "oh noo you're too kind I'm so ugly I look awful blah blah blah" when people say something nice to you.

signature pen. Don't question it. every cool girl has a signature pen.

always look out for others, make sure no one feels left out when you hang out with a group, check up on your friends, etc etc

listen closely and think before you speak, that way you won't stumble over your words and appear more collected and calm! :)

"please" and "thank you" ALWAYS.

you don't have to be perfect at something to have fun. I'm terrible at golf (a danger to myself and others) but people don't mind and think it is cute and fun... a win-win for me lmao

dressing up? normal to you. Don't save your cute outfits for "special" days; every day is special and you deserve to look gorgeous. <3

Oh and sit up straight ;)

As always, please feel free to share your own suggestions and tips in the comments! <3

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

✨ Menstruation Astrology and Spirituality ✨

Woman Essence • 🚺 • (suitable to people that do not identify as a woman but have menstruate - lovingly replace women by a sense of the characteristics of divine feminine energy)

Today, I want to talk to yall about the power and secrets behind menstruation. 🔥🩸🔥

We have ~ 4 cycles according to what our feminine body is (subconsciously) doing for us:

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- You menstruate around the New Moon - White Moon Cycle - it mirrors the Moon and Earth Cycles, signifying the woman is in her Mother phase, which can be (a mother) to herself, others, her position in society or that she wants to get pregnant / is getting ready to have children. Can be starting a family (whatever family means to her), raising others (up) or nurturing. It is the ++++ common cycle. Ovulation happens around the Full Moon.

Energy is magnified through the whole cycle because the ovulation happens during the Full Moon 🌕, which is Earth’s most fertile time.

At this point in time, it overall means pouring more energy, love and care into yourself and investing resources in yourself, so you are healthily present in the world. Whereas in the past the tendency has been to pour outwards.

Through generations, White Moon women were favoured by the patriarchy because in most cases, they were focused outwards, in men and children as well.

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- You menstruate around the Full Moon - Red Moon Cycle - associated with power, self-development, growth, creativity, learning, teaching, business, mentorship, leadership and community.

You ovulate around the New Moon.

Through time it has been more consistent, it is very focused on women pouring inwards, so they have a lot to offer outside (because they release - ovulate - when it is most potent to reap the fruits of manifestations - Full Moon). It is associated with priestesses, healers, witches, medicine women, that were punished and ostracized for this cycle too. (There were conventions in the past that most do not know about, even about the occasions to menstruate that were considered to vilify or not). It is also associated with powerful potent sexual energy and power. Overall a very powerful and recharging cycle to have, that faces some opposition (like in Astrology harsh aspects) by going against the natural cycle of the Moon, but with incredible benefits.

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- You ovulate in the Waxing Phase (New Moon -> Full Moon) - Pink Moon Cycle - it usually means you are in a transitional period in your life, or know that the life you see in front of you is transforming before your eyes will change for you (it is coming from darkness, New Moon, to light, Full Moon, from setting seeds of intention, New Moon, to reaping the fruits of your labour, Full Moon). It can happen for example when you are sick, going back to your strenght and power or, when there is a resting period in your life or stagnancy, coming back to vitality and greatness - you are coming out of the shadows.

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- You ovulate in the Waning Phase (Full Moon -> New Moon) - Purple Moon Cycle - it means as well as the Pink Moon Cycle, a transitional period in your life going from aliveness to darkness, which is not necessarily bad, heavy or shocking, means that perhaps you are needing inside of you to rest or to explore and go into your shadow self to regain your new ground and self into shining a new light. Both of these cycles are, nonetheless, transitory.

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Other cycles

- You ovulate alternating between the New Moon and the Full Moon - Wise Woman Cycle - this woman gets and gives herself what she needs, getting the best of both worlds, on her own natural cycle. She is outwards and she is inwards, she is Mother Earth, nurturing, but also a complete, introspective, powerful and developed woman. She sees and connects with her light and sweetness, as well as with her darkness and feminine magic. She is indeed, a Wise Woman.

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- You just have an irregular menstruation - Seed Cycle - means most of the times the body is regulating the hormones, even through years, meaning many times the environment or the inner world of the woman was not the most suitable or healthy, and so, the body is working on balancing it out for her. It also happens when using contraceptive methods like the pill and getting off of it. Your body is helping you get happy and balanced hormones but by its irregularity, signaling to you that you should invest more in your healing, vitality, good practices, slowing down, listening within to what is happening, what are you feeling, what are your needs, what is the truth in your thoughts and in your environment. It wants you to take better care of yourself and allowing a new sacred space and time for you, to rebuild and gain a new self.

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“Bleeding is both beautiful and sacred. It’s emotional and liberating. It’s power and magic” - Revoloon

🎀 Workout Youtubers

I currently do exclusively pilates and yoga workouts from youtube. However, I've done other body weight workouts with various youtube videos and seen results in the past. Here is my list of workout youtubers that you could check out! I will put a * next to my personal favorites! I will include a short list of my current at home workout equipment at the end as well as some items I plan on buying soon!

With any workout program or routine, always be safe, check with your doctor if necessary, and if something doesn't feel good or right, don't do it! No matter what your goals are, it's always important to be safe and stay healthy. Please always take care of yourselves and know how beautiful, worthy and valuable you are no matter what! I love you all <333

🩷 Pilates

Move with Nicole * (also posts occasionally barre and yoga videos as well! I love her videos so so much)

Madeleine Abeid

IsaWelly

Pilatesbodyraven

Lidia Mera

Lottie Murphy

Amanda Blauer

Margaret Elizabeth

Jessica Valant Pilates

Bailey Brown

Dansique Fitness

Flow with Mira

Sivi (she's began posting some pilates inspired workouts and to my knowledge is currently getting certified as an instructor)

🩷 Yoga

Yoga with Adriene *

Yoga with Bird

Boho Beuatiful Yoga

🩷 Bodyweight Fitness/Strength/HIIT

Chloe Ting * (I don't like the click bait, but I like the workouts)

Blogilates

Pamela Reif *

Madfit *

Lilly Sabri * (Some of her videos are titled with pilates, but the older ones I used to do were not pilates, so I categorized her here)

Emi Wong

Shirlyn Kim

Vivian Yuan

April Han

growingannanas

growwithjo * (I love her walking workouts)

Hinafit

Mish Choi

Sami Clarke

Elenifit

Coach Kel (she posts what looks like more barre, ballet, pilates inspored/fusion workouts it seems)

Caroline Girvan

TRAIN WITH GAINSBYBRAINS

Daisy Keech

🎀 Current At Home Workout Equipment I Own

Thick Yoga Mat - since I do mainly yoga and pilates my thick yoga may (amazon brand) has served me well. Even tho I am a heavier woman at the moment, I've never had pain or any issues with this mat, and it came with a carry strap which I love! A good, thick workout mat is definitely necessary for working out at home for comfort, safety, etc. Make sure to disinfect it on occasion, especially if you sweat on it a lot!

Resistance Bands - I have about 3 or 4 at different resistance strengths, and they're incredibly useful for a variety of movements, especially lower body ones. They add some extra resistance and make the workouts a bit more challenging when you need something more advanced. I also got mine from Amazon/Walmart a while back. I prefer fabric over rubber because I like to wear workout shorts instead of workout leggings.

Pilates Ball - not a necessity, but useful with some pilates workouts and movements. I have seen sole videos using this, but am not advanced enough to try it on my own yet. Will use for sure once I'm more advanced.

3lb dumbbells - I thought these would be useful for the pilates workouts that had some upper body focus, and as someone who wants to develop a lean and toned upper body, they are perfect for low weight high rep, controlled movements. Again, not advanced enough to use as I want to master my form, but they're gonna come in handy for sure!

Foam Roller - so so good for stretching and muscle recovery on rest days. I love mine but want one that has the bump things on it to help my muscles more. I can imagine how good it'll feel on my legs during a recovery day when I begin wieght lifting again.

Massage Gun - my holy grail for the days I am sore and needing some recovery. my body feels like jelly after using this, and it's just so nice for the days my muscles feel extra tight and super sore.

🎀 Equipment I Want To Buy

Yoga Blocks - these will help me get deeper into the yoga poses once I get more advanced in my practice

Pilates Ring - this honestly looks so fun and challenging to use, I'd love to add it to my collection of useful workout equipment!

Jump Rope - I used to love this as a form of cardio and as long as I don't move into an upstairs apartment, I'm definitely buying one

Pilates Bar - still iffy on this one, it's supposed to mimic a reformer but I want to get better at mat pilates and see if I even end up ever needing or seriously wanting to buy it, its on my list tho

Ankle/Wrist weights - these are gonna be so useful for workouts where hand held dumbbells aren't useful. Want to buy some low weight ones just to help with resistance and extra strength during pilates workouts

Kettlebell weight - I think this would be useful for a workout at home type situation if and when I switch to not doing just pilates and yoga. I know these are useful in their own right, but not needed in my current fitness stage of life.

Core Sliders - these look fun and interesting. They're on my lost for sure, but not sure about the practicality of their use in my life just yet.

That's all that's currently on my at home workout equipment list! As someone who primarily works out at home, the things I currently own are most useful and most of what's on this list is for fun or extra challenge. Just not necessary yet.

hope you enjoyed this list! if you have any questions about my favorite youtuber workout instructors or favorite videos, please feel free to ask, I've tried so many and can give some guidance from my own experience and research.

til next time lovelies 🩷

fall show recommendations 🍂☕️

hello my loves! its been a while! with the fall season fast approaching, here are some tv show recommendations that fit the season!

gilmore girls

gossip girl

american horror story

scream queens

modern family

pretty little liars

Like this post if you want to live in a Studio Ghibli world 🪷🍄🌙🌱🌾🍃🛖🔆

Latest trend this October…

Embracing your natural beauty ˚₊‧꒰ა ☆ ໒꒱ ‧₊˚

• Minimal makeup that compliments your face. I go to school wearing Burt’s Bees tinted chapstick (literally my saviour 🤞) and that’s it. NOBODY CARES. LOVE YOUR FACE.

• Self care. Showering/bathing regularly. Exfoliating. Lip scrub. Moisturizing entire body. Beautiful natural products and scents. Gua sha (I will never stop talking about gua sha 😽🧘‍♀️). Hair oil. Simple skincare. Eyelash/eyebrow serum.

• Embrace the body hair, girl. This isn’t for everyone, but I say this because when I was WAYYY younger I would stress so much about shaving and needing to be hairless (and for what?). Now I only wax my underarms and below the knee, anything else I just trim.

• Healthy balanced diet. I’m talking eating nutritious, seasonal, whole foods that make you feel good (this does not mean restrict and only eat lettuce). NEVER SKIP OUT ON PROTEIN AND NUTRIENTS. + fibre if you’re not tying to get constipated.

• Affirmations and confidence. I am not lying when I tell you confidence and affirmations have changed my life. I’m still working on my confidence but it feels so good to compliment and love myself. I seriously be talking to the mirror like a crazy person 😭😭.

‘I love you so much. You did amazing today. You’re so smart. You’re so interesting. I love my body. I love my face. I’m so beautiful.’

Be confident and put yourself first.

Accept and celebrate your unique features <3

A life lesson I want to share with you

When I was a child, I often felt neglected. Both my mother and father were busy with their jobs and lives, and it felt like they didn’t have time for me. I always wanted their attention and love, but I didn’t know how to ask for it. The only time I felt appreciated by them was when I did something they could be proud of. If I won a competition, got the highest grades, or acted like the perfect "golden child," then they noticed me.

Because of this, I started to believe that in order to be loved by my parents, I had to be the best at everything. I pushed myself harder and harder, trying to meet these high standards. I thought that if I was the smartest, the most successful, and the perfect child, my parents would love me more. What I didn’t realize at the time was that I had created these expectations for myself. My parents never demanded I be the best, and they never told me I had to be perfect. But I convinced myself that I needed to.

Over time, I started to feel more and more pressure. I was so focused on being the best that I never stopped to think about how it was affecting me. I was always worried about failing or not being good enough. The need for recognition and appreciation from my parents was slowly eating me up inside. I didn’t feel free to just be myself; instead, I felt like I always had to perform.

But one day, I had a realization. I began to understand that my parents had always loved me just as I was. They didn’t love me more when I got good grades or won awards. Their love for me was unconditional. I realized that my parents weren’t working hard because they didn’t care about me; they were working hard because they loved me. They were trying to give me the life they never had. They wanted to provide me with opportunities and luxuries that they had never experienced growing up.

This realization changed the way I saw things. I finally understood that I didn’t need to be perfect to earn their love. My parents were doing everything for me because they loved me from the start, not because of my achievements. It wasn’t about what I could do; it was about who I was, their child.

Looking back, I learned a big lesson from this experience. Sometimes, we put too much pressure on ourselves, thinking we need to be perfect or the best to be loved or appreciated. But the truth is, real love doesn’t come from our successes or achievements. It comes from who we are. And most importantly, the people who truly love us ,like our parents ,will always love us for who we are, not for what we do.

Now, I try to remind myself that I don’t need to prove my worth to anyone. I don’t need to keep pushing myself to the point of stress and exhaustion. I can just be me, and that is enough. My parents love me, not for my grades or awards, but because I am their child. And that is a lesson I hope everyone can learn: You are worthy of love just as you are. You don’t have to earn it; you just have to accept it.

slow progress is progress

celebrate every tiny victory

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South Node in various houses and your Past Life Karma you are carrying over.

South Node in first house: you will face identity crisis in life! You ask yourself “WHO AM I”? You feel you don’t belong to this world!

South Node in second House:  You feel detached from your family and the money in family!  You often ask yourself who are my family, race, religion?

South Node in third house: You will have lot of breaks in your thoughts! You know multiple languages, but can’t express yourself to others.

South node in fourth house: You will be detached from your mother, house, place of birth and your emotions as well.

South Node in fifth house: You will be detached from the fame, position, and have no expectations from your kids.

South Node in sixth house: You can’t fight, you can’t take revenge, you are detached from your enemies. You FORGET, FORGIVE AND MOVE ON EASILY.

South Node in seventh house: You are detached from your partners and even your life partner.

You lack interest in marriages and networking.

South Node in eighth house: You are psychic and have deep interest in occult; you are detached from the sexual desires. Transformations regarding your body happen slowly with the age.

You might develop gut issues and stomach problems.

South Node in Ninth house: You are detached from your religion and keep questioning the deeper meaning behind the rituals. You love short travels, and love to follow spiritual practices.

South Node in Tenth House: You are detached from your work and monthly income.

You don’t like to work 9 to 5 daily just to get money. You seek work that satisfies your soul.

South Node in eleventh house: You are detached from your friends circle and seek for spiritual network. You are detached from your gains, and focus more on spiritual gains rather than just material gains.

South Node in Twelfth house:  You are detached from the material world of pleasure and think about letting go everything and get liberation. You are extremely giving and spiritual soul who has direct connection with superconcious.

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