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Initials: A.F. Age: 18 Rising sign: Leo Aries placements on earliest degree: None! (Although I have Aries MC at 13°, no other Aries placements apart from that) My question: What personal flaws of mine are blocking any potential romance from taking place? 🥲

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What personal flaws of AF are blocking any potential romance from taking place?

Your cards were very direct, I like that. Or maybe I just liked your energy cuz is more inviting haha. Anyways: You are an overthinker! That’s it. Now getting more into it… For starters I realize that your biggest obstacle is that you have all this energy and encouragement to get started but, all of a sudden you stop. It's like you're stuck in the doldrums thinking in the least optimistic way about the possibility of something without even taking the necessary steps to get into it. You don't even get to explore it, and I got a card that talks about potential in reversed. What does it mean? It's a cup, and it speaks of emotions. Your heart probably has a hard time opening up at first. You end up blocking the natural flow of things yourself. I do believe you tend to intellectualize things so much. Maybe this is why I got so much sadness from a card and if you do that be careful! I know this is a defense mechanism from you. But it is not a healthy one. You prefer what you know and dislike uncertainty. Now this means that you don't know how to manage, let alone take the initiative on your emotional connections. You get stuck in doubt and fail to balance your emotions with your anxiety. You are likely to analyze everything and become impulsive about that anxiety, and therefore cut off certain connections before they start or don't even bother to enter into them because you notice a particular detail of something you didn't like. You get stuck in that inner struggle that you don't end up doing much, really. Things don't take the initiative. So to get out of this stagnation you need to look for some stability in yourself. Learn how to stop overthinking and intellectualizing everything. Just breathe. Know that not everything needs to be perfect and sometimes hurt happens even if we try our best to avoid it. It’s inevitable. Like the Little Prince said: “Of course I’ll hurt you. Of course you’ll hurt me. Of course we will hurt each other. But this is the very condition of existence. To become spring, means accepting the risk of winter. To become presence, means accepting the risk of absence.” You must learn to balance that stability with some action and initiative without letting those anxieties take over. Asking yourself a simple "Is it really that bad?" or "Is this my anxiety/fear or am I over analyzing it?" or even more simple “Am I living?” to yourself would serve you well. Letting your mind take over your heart is not letting it beat freely. And the heart saddens. Question that anxiety, challenge it to find out if it is really true what it makes you believe. It is good to discern and use logic, but in your case you need to learn to balance heart and mind. Because your mind doesn’t play for you, it plays against you. It puts locks in your heart. I can’t stop quoting books and authors but this will (not) be the last and it goes:

“So we shall let the reader answer this question for himself: who is the happier man, he who has braved the storm of life and lived or he who has stayed securely on shore and merely existed?”

Learn how to manage it to the point it is not your enemy anymore, but your best friend. Bell Hooks said the practice of love offers no place of safety. We risk loss, hurt, pain. We risk being acted upon by forces outside our control. So stop waiting and thinking about it too much and as nike says: just do it. Enjoy and feel. Don't waste your heart in fear.

ANONYMOUS PARTICIPANTS

I'm going to skip over the anonymous participants who did not clarify who they were on direct messages.

One participant submitted their alias anonymously, but there are several direct messages from others where they just say they submitted their question anonymously without telling me WHO they are. So... I don’t know who's who.

I'd rather be funny than pretty...but good thing I'm both, y'all stay safe tho

Casually dropping his hyper fixation into the convo so he’s forced to talk to me for another hour

Hi, how are you? ♡

My initials are EL and I'm 19 years old, Leo ♌️

• How can I improve my skills to connect with new people and build genuine relationships? Please.

How can EL improve their skills to connect with new people and build genuine relationships? 

In your current situation your only problem is that you are very misaligned, specifically you give more than you receive. You try too hard to "give" in your relationships disregarding your own needs and values. You need to change that focus: What do you value most in a connection? That they are honest with you? That they have integrity and don't bend their will? For example: That they are honest people or do you value people who connect with spirituality? What we value is not carved in stone—it changes. But it is important for you to know what your core values are. It is also important for you to know what your needs are and whether the connections you have align with them. A simple "I feel..." or "I need..." makes a big difference. Let’s say you value “supportiveness” in friends and when you have an important event you want them to be there for you or even show up (if their calendar isn’t full that day). Like a friend that couldn’t make it to you receiving an achievement and finds a way to “attend” during their lunch break by watching the livestream and leaving comments. Communicating an "I need you to support me in this, because I don't feel valued" or “I need you to support me on this, because I value ‘supportiveness’ (your core value) a lot” will cause you to stop being the only person in charge of giving more than you receive. If others don't listen to your needs despite communicating them or don't align with your values (or both because everything is interchangeable!), you need to let them go. 

If you want to improve your ability to connect with new people and build genuine relationships, your main obstacle is in finding a balance between letting things go and starting over. You experience anxiety in doing so. It's like a fear of the unknown. You may overthink how to approach people, afraid of being taken advantage of again. You have so much to give, but you don't receive what you are looking for, what fulfills you emotionally and makes you feel valued. You end up in a state of discouragement, perhaps even anguish to see the circumstances in a more optimistic way and without fear—of starting over. The best thing you can do is to realize that the happiness and emotional satisfaction you seek in your connections was simply misguided. You need to improve on three things: one, balance how much you give and how much you receive; two, let go of the bad experiences you had by being more optimistic, cutting off the ones that are currently not working for you and letting go of discouragement; three, rethink your focus, communicate your values and needs and prioritize yourself. First you must know that the emotional connections you form with others are not your only way to make you feel full and complete, you have so much love to give and to spare—you can fill yourself without any problem. Don't expect others to fill your cup when you can do it too, and never betray yourself (your values and your needs) to connect with people. You will never lose by prioritizing yourself. 

Hey, How are you? I'm S.T, 20. Aries sun, she/her

Q: What my future romantic partner will find irresistible about me?

thank you 🙏

What will ST's future romantic partner find irresistible about them?

2 of pentacles & 6 of wands

They will find your ability to handle life’s ups and downs irresistible, even when things get hectic. They’ll love how you stay composed and adaptable under pressure. For them, you’ll keep calm under situations they won’t normally be able to handle, and it’ll fascinate them. They’ll also be drawn to your confidence and the way you naturally stand out—you have a magnetic appearance that commands their attention. They can’t help but feel enchanted. They will find you very attractive. Even when you don’t have everything perfectly under control, they’ll find that determined, imperfect side of you incredibly charming. Your future romantic partner will be head over heels for you.

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Thank you for the answer and the game. I give everyone same vibe when i meet them this is so true ...😭😭😭✨️ and Thank you for the tips i will sure i practice more to make a note of them in my head...💓💓💓💓

thank you! I would have written more if I had realized in time that you wanted tips, my bad. but i'm glad it could be helpful either way! and good luck with your practices. if you ever have a question i hope i can be of help.