Hi, How Are You? ♡
Hi, how are you? ♡
My initials are EL and I'm 19 years old, Leo ♌️
• How can I improve my skills to connect with new people and build genuine relationships? Please.
How can EL improve their skills to connect with new people and build genuine relationships?
In your current situation your only problem is that you are very misaligned, specifically you give more than you receive. You try too hard to "give" in your relationships disregarding your own needs and values. You need to change that focus: What do you value most in a connection? That they are honest with you? That they have integrity and don't bend their will? For example: That they are honest people or do you value people who connect with spirituality? What we value is not carved in stone—it changes. But it is important for you to know what your core values are. It is also important for you to know what your needs are and whether the connections you have align with them. A simple "I feel..." or "I need..." makes a big difference. Let’s say you value “supportiveness” in friends and when you have an important event you want them to be there for you or even show up (if their calendar isn’t full that day). Like a friend that couldn’t make it to you receiving an achievement and finds a way to “attend” during their lunch break by watching the livestream and leaving comments. Communicating an "I need you to support me in this, because I don't feel valued" or “I need you to support me on this, because I value ‘supportiveness’ (your core value) a lot” will cause you to stop being the only person in charge of giving more than you receive. If others don't listen to your needs despite communicating them or don't align with your values (or both because everything is interchangeable!), you need to let them go.
If you want to improve your ability to connect with new people and build genuine relationships, your main obstacle is in finding a balance between letting things go and starting over. You experience anxiety in doing so. It's like a fear of the unknown. You may overthink how to approach people, afraid of being taken advantage of again. You have so much to give, but you don't receive what you are looking for, what fulfills you emotionally and makes you feel valued. You end up in a state of discouragement, perhaps even anguish to see the circumstances in a more optimistic way and without fear—of starting over. The best thing you can do is to realize that the happiness and emotional satisfaction you seek in your connections was simply misguided. You need to improve on three things: one, balance how much you give and how much you receive; two, let go of the bad experiences you had by being more optimistic, cutting off the ones that are currently not working for you and letting go of discouragement; three, rethink your focus, communicate your values and needs and prioritize yourself. First you must know that the emotional connections you form with others are not your only way to make you feel full and complete, you have so much love to give and to spare—you can fill yourself without any problem. Don't expect others to fill your cup when you can do it too, and never betray yourself (your values and your needs) to connect with people. You will never lose by prioritizing yourself.
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hi! i’m p.p 18 pisces rising! i have no placements in aries. my question is why am I struggling to find love? i have never dated anyone before but i have had crushes and heartbreaks. the ppl i catch feelings for often take advantage of that fact and i have reached a point where i am incredibly jaded about love due to the unhealthy disappointing and unlucky experiences i have had,, ty lots 💓
Why is PP struggling to find love?
What stops you is that you are very guarded. It's as if you shut yourself off and remain quite distrustful of others. You may also have high standards. Which I understand, because I do the same thing lmao (twin where have you been~ /jk). Never lower your standards though! And as I was saying, that distrust forms an emotional distance from others. The high priestess appeared reversed, and based on the context of your reading, maybe that distrust comes as a defense mechanism from bad experiences and is blocking your intuition. You need to learn how to stop them from having an influence in you to the point they no longer block you from connecting with others in a more healthy way. You may have inadvertently built a wall without realizing it. The reversed star in your spread seemed very saddening to me, the disappointments have been difficult for you. It is not bad to have high standards or to be careful with others, in your case it seems that your disappointments have tinted something that may be innocent, and instead of having standards and just being careful, you turned distant and distrustful. You need to open up without lowering your expectations. Imagine yourself as if you were someone using a brush to dust off a painting—it is not a bad thing! You're just removing the dust to take advantage of the use that beautiful paint can have in a room. The best way to do this would be if you become more emotionally independent and learn to be more compassionate with yourself and also with others (but this comes second lmao). Without lowering your standards. Just between us, your cards have a lot of color so there’s a hopeful future for you, there was just one gray card and it was a good one. You have a really softer side deep inside, don't let it get all dust up!
hi 🤗
My reading was so cute, loved their reaction! It resonated with other readings that said they will be more in love with me after this, and this makes me so happy. Thank you a lot 💚🍋🍫🧁
Hi there! I’m so glad to hear that you loved the reading and that it resonated with you! It’s wonderful to know that it connected with what you’ve been feeling. Thank you for your kind words! ❣️
hey, I'm here for the game. Already rebbloged and followed, my initial is M and i'm 24
Who has a big crush on me?
Thank you!! 💙🧜♀️🐬
Who has a big crush on M?
10 of wands rx, ace of wands
The person who has a big crush on you is someone who’s recently let go of a lot of mental blocks that held them back before; their shyness is one. They feel a strong attraction to you, but it’s not just about physical chemistry—they also want something more stable and meaningful. However, they’re struggling with their timidity and not expressing their feelings openly yet, even though they’ve definitely been watching you closely, maybe through social media or in casual interactions. They are trying to secretly get intel about you. This is likely someone in your everyday life, quietly admiring you from a distance while trying to figure out how to approach you.
hii, for the feedback: 8 of wands is a very "foreigner" reading, so maybe we come from different countries? (Idk that's what came to my mind during the reading)
Thank you!!
Hellooo! Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It's normal to interpret the cards based on perspectives but I like to keep each reading focused on the question asked to provide a more straightforward answer. For this free tarot game I pulled 2 cards for the questions and didn’t do a deep dive. It was a free tarot game after all. Also, one card alone can’t determine if someone will be from another country. My goal is to let the cards guide my response without adding anything beyond what was in the spread. It’s just my personal approach. Hopefully this approach sheds some light on things for you. Thanks again for trusting in the process!
hello there, can i ask if MS think sexually about me? If yes, which thoughts/sexual fantasies they have?
Infos: N and 25 years old
Thank you <3
If you don't do nsfw readings, kindly change for "if they think romantically about me"
Disclaimer: I do NSFW readings, but I do not do readings of this nature on people with whom you are not in a consensual or formal relationship with.
Does MS think romantically of N?
9 of swords, 2 of swords
None of the cards gave me any strong indication that they think of you in a romantic way right now. It feels more like they’re anxious or guilty. MS is exercising caution. They don’t want to send the wrong signals or have any communication issues between you two. I believe the situation between you two made them very anxious at first (overthinking it a lot), but they are now less confused. They’ve realized how they want things to be, and it’s likely they don’t want anything too sudden right now. You might notice moments of conflict in them sometimes. If there’s a bit of romantic interest, it’s too wrapped up in indecision and confusion for it to be fully expressed to you.
It's so funny that Misa is famous. Imagine that you're a normal ass cop and you get put on a special task force to catch a mass murderer. And you meet with the expert detective in charge. And he tells you your top 2 suspects are a random teenager and like. Ariana grande
i’m never underestimating the toll it takes to interpret a tarot spread
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