Hiii, I hope I make it in time! :)
Initials: A.F. Age: 18 Rising sign: Leo Aries placements on earliest degree: None! (Although I have Aries MC at 13°, no other Aries placements apart from that) My question: What personal flaws of mine are blocking any potential romance from taking place? 🥲
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What personal flaws of AF are blocking any potential romance from taking place?
Your cards were very direct, I like that. Or maybe I just liked your energy cuz is more inviting haha. Anyways: You are an overthinker! That’s it. Now getting more into it… For starters I realize that your biggest obstacle is that you have all this energy and encouragement to get started but, all of a sudden you stop. It's like you're stuck in the doldrums thinking in the least optimistic way about the possibility of something without even taking the necessary steps to get into it. You don't even get to explore it, and I got a card that talks about potential in reversed. What does it mean? It's a cup, and it speaks of emotions. Your heart probably has a hard time opening up at first. You end up blocking the natural flow of things yourself. I do believe you tend to intellectualize things so much. Maybe this is why I got so much sadness from a card and if you do that be careful! I know this is a defense mechanism from you. But it is not a healthy one. You prefer what you know and dislike uncertainty. Now this means that you don't know how to manage, let alone take the initiative on your emotional connections. You get stuck in doubt and fail to balance your emotions with your anxiety. You are likely to analyze everything and become impulsive about that anxiety, and therefore cut off certain connections before they start or don't even bother to enter into them because you notice a particular detail of something you didn't like. You get stuck in that inner struggle that you don't end up doing much, really. Things don't take the initiative. So to get out of this stagnation you need to look for some stability in yourself. Learn how to stop overthinking and intellectualizing everything. Just breathe. Know that not everything needs to be perfect and sometimes hurt happens even if we try our best to avoid it. It’s inevitable. Like the Little Prince said: “Of course I’ll hurt you. Of course you’ll hurt me. Of course we will hurt each other. But this is the very condition of existence. To become spring, means accepting the risk of winter. To become presence, means accepting the risk of absence.” You must learn to balance that stability with some action and initiative without letting those anxieties take over. Asking yourself a simple "Is it really that bad?" or "Is this my anxiety/fear or am I over analyzing it?" or even more simple “Am I living?” to yourself would serve you well. Letting your mind take over your heart is not letting it beat freely. And the heart saddens. Question that anxiety, challenge it to find out if it is really true what it makes you believe. It is good to discern and use logic, but in your case you need to learn to balance heart and mind. Because your mind doesn’t play for you, it plays against you. It puts locks in your heart. I can’t stop quoting books and authors but this will (not) be the last and it goes:
“So we shall let the reader answer this question for himself: who is the happier man, he who has braved the storm of life and lived or he who has stayed securely on shore and merely existed?”
Learn how to manage it to the point it is not your enemy anymore, but your best friend. Bell Hooks said the practice of love offers no place of safety. We risk loss, hurt, pain. We risk being acted upon by forces outside our control. So stop waiting and thinking about it too much and as nike says: just do it. Enjoy and feel. Don't waste your heart in fear.