Please Help... My Abusive Father Is Making Me Get A Haircut, Despite Him Knowing How Much Distress It

hey everyone! it’s been a while since i made a masterpost, and i recently found some good health-related apps on the play store that i thought to consolidate into a post.

all these apps are available for both ios and android users! i’ve also grouped similar apps together.

fyi: these apps are not intended to replace your therapist/counselor – they only act as an aid. the apps listed here are those that seemed credible enough and had good ratings on the play store. some may help you and some might not. since i don’t have depression or panic attacks, i can’t speak for the efficacy of some of the apps here.

For stress, depression, anxiety, or panic attacks:

Rootd: exercises to help with anxiety and panic attacks, as well as lessons understand anxiety. it also includes emergency contact if you need help and a personal stats page.

Self-help Anxiety Management (SAM): exercises to help you manage your anxiety. you can also build your ‘anxiety tookit’ and chat with other SAM users.

PanicShield: for those who have panic attacks. it has a breathing tool to calm you down, information about panic attacks, and two techniques to train your mind to have fewer panic attacks (based on two types of therapy). 

MoodSpace: short, interactive mood workouts that may help treat depression.

InnerHour: a self-help app for stress, anxiety or depression. it has small daily tasks, helps you deal with distressing situations, helps control your stressful thinking patterns, and has a relief box.

Moodpath: an interactive two-week depression and anxiety screening program that tracks your emotional and physical wellbeing and generates a personalized mental health assessment that you can discuss with therapists.

Calm Harm: tasks to help you resist or manage the urge to self-harm.

To generally improve your life:

Youper: conversations with a bot to improve your mood and emotional health. it also has mindfulness and meditation exercises, a mood tracker, journal and symptoms tracker.

Wysa: similar to Youper, Wysa is a chatbot who reacts to the emotions you express to help with anxiety, stress, low mood, anger or sleep issues.

Primed Mind: a life coach to help you reach your personal goals and improve yourself. it can help you build habits, calm down, fall asleep quickly, and study effectively.

Headspace: meditation and mindfulness exercises

Just Rain: a soothing audiovisual rain simulator where you can control the degree of rain sounds.

things to update after a legal name change!

Social security card

Driver’s license

Passport

Birth certificate

Employer HR

Bank account

Credit card company

Car insurance

Health insurance

Utilities

Cell phone account

Voter registration

Your school

Professional organizations (for nursing, bar, teaching, etc.)

Doctor’s office & other health specialists

TV & internet

Paypal

*Please add to this list if you can think of anything else!!!

(op was deactivated, and tumblr wont let me reblog for some reason. thought id repost with creds to: goawayterfs)

Hey, I've been having doubts about my gender. Like, I don't feel dysphoric all the time, and at the times I'm not, I just feel content with my body. Like I don't love or hate it, I just accept what it is for right now. But when dysphoria hits, its debilitating and the dysphoria is hitting harder than ever right now, but I can't transition or do anything because of transphobic family. Is it normal to experience fluctuating dysphoria also, tips for managing it while still basically closeted (mtf)

Yes. it’s normal for fluctuations to happen with dysphoria. We all have bad days, we all have good days.

So then, finding exceptions to the transphobic slogans help.

Only 2 sexes? Um, intersex people exist Body hair? Hair is common.Big frame? Uh… Exists. Gal Gadot is 5'10" Allison Janey is 5'11". And Lane Bryant exists so…Shoes? Sigh. There are specialty shoes sizes, and some stylish shoes can be uncomfortable so you’d be taking them off at your seat already. (I just want to mention that size outliers exist for other parts of wardrobes, and also condoms & I’d guess tampons. Those are usually tailors & prescriptions.)Reproduction? Growing a human population requires keeping ourselves alive too, so doing a job, babysitting, etc, those help too.Makeup? Do whatever, everything is an aesthetic if you find the words for it.

That being said other people suck, and we can’t control them. Therefore, like look for other things to do to adapt to this/them. Admittedly this part I don’t know much on.

However, I do have mental illness. So generally making a to-do & i-did list helps out a lot. Also journaling can help.[1]

and yeah, walking/hiking to where you’re constantly trying to decide on a path, breathing, learning stuff, doing puzzles, writing instructions for things, all of that can help. Video poker like those handheld games like on your phone can be nifty too.

Good Luck, Peace & Love,Eve

[1]If you’re worried about privacy for your journals I’d develop a short-hand of abbreviations. Personally, for mine I focused on the little words like by, to, of, -’s, anyway, so yeah, basically, like, just, which I turned to x, t, v, -z, anwa, s yh, bscly, lk, js. You would want to look up texting short-hand in different languages & mix & match them. Also consider doing creative spelling when forming your shorthand. If you do it good they’ll be distracted by all the short-hand & not get you’re writing in code. For proper nouns, basically make a word association with it, perhaps use emoji. If lacking emoji for that write “such&such emoji”. Rhyming slangs can help too.

Is it possible for me to become a doctor in the United States if I'm a trans woman? I'm going into the medical field and that's my biggest concern.

Yes!! While there may be discrimination (because you’re a woman and because you’re trans), no one’s going to stop you. One of the hormone providers in my area is actually a trans woman, and I live in a pretty conservative area, so for sure it’s possible. 

If you are worried about discrimination/safety, and you pass well enough, you could go stealth so nobody knows you are trans while you work through med school and navigate the professional field. I would suggest getting your ID changed as soon as possible, if you haven’t already, so all your records are under the correct name. 

Followers who are in a professional field, any advice for anon?

SMOKEY EYE FOR BEGINNERS! + EYEBROW ROUTINE

Hi guys! This is my go-to smokey eye look, I absolutely love it! It makes my eyes appear bigger and more elongated and it's super easy! Perfect for beginners...

Published on Apr 16, 2014

basically a smokey eye is a lot of dark eyeshadow which is why things are infamous for going wrong. it’s practically like a social media challenge.

for precision & locations, watch the video. a basic table of contents is: start with the lighter shades & get progressively darker. then do the waterline with eyeliner & the corner & the top waterline too. wear big eyelashes & do your eyebrows.

I hate having to keep doing this, but I just need a little bit. I just recently got a new job a ways away from my house, but my car broke down and needs a new battery. I don't get paid for another couple weeks and I only have enough to cover rent for August. Please, anything will help.

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I normally wouldn’t do this, but I am in need. My parents have kicked me out because of my gender identity and their strict religious upbringing, I have lost my job, and I am in need until I can find another job. My girlfriend is helping me how she can but right now, I have no home, no job and no money. Please help a transgirl out how you can.

Edit: just adding some info. My dad has been emotionally abusive and manipulative, making me pay for stuff out of the blue, draining my money when I was trying to save. I’m trying to focus on finishing school in a few weeks (I am 18 and in college), but it was impossible to do so with my job, which constantly made me stressed and sick, as I worked the late hours of night, right after I got out of school and not getting home until 1 in the morning.

Anywhere I could go would be I would have to start over, but right now, I have no money to do that, so that’s why I’m asking for help.

I had an idea similar to this but I like this idea better

film idea: two people of different genders swap bodies but one or both of them find that they actually like living life this way and the way they’re perceived by society in this other person’s body is actually really pleasing in a lot of ways- euphoric even. When they’re perceived as this other person they can behave in ways and enjoy hobbies that they would’ve been scolded for if they’d been read as their usual gendered selves.  However, they slowly realize that while the gendered aspects of their lives feel so much better, they’re still being expected to be someone else with a completely different life to them and they start to miss their family and friends.  The film culminates in them finding the other person in their body and doing whatever magical thing leads to them going back in to their original body and back to their friends and family, whom they then come out to as transgender, having learned a lot about themselves by how much they enjoyed living as someone of a different gender but still not wholly wanting to throw away the life they’d already established.  The film ends on a happy note with both protagonists wholly accepting themselves and never having to pretend to be someone else ever again - not the person they swapped bodies with nor the person everyone thought they were before the incident but wholly, truly themselves.

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