Hey, I've Been Having Doubts About My Gender. Like, I Don't Feel Dysphoric All The Time, And At The Times

Hey, I've been having doubts about my gender. Like, I don't feel dysphoric all the time, and at the times I'm not, I just feel content with my body. Like I don't love or hate it, I just accept what it is for right now. But when dysphoria hits, its debilitating and the dysphoria is hitting harder than ever right now, but I can't transition or do anything because of transphobic family. Is it normal to experience fluctuating dysphoria also, tips for managing it while still basically closeted (mtf)

Yes. it’s normal for fluctuations to happen with dysphoria. We all have bad days, we all have good days.

So then, finding exceptions to the transphobic slogans help.

Only 2 sexes? Um, intersex people exist Body hair? Hair is common.Big frame? Uh… Exists. Gal Gadot is 5'10" Allison Janey is 5'11". And Lane Bryant exists so…Shoes? Sigh. There are specialty shoes sizes, and some stylish shoes can be uncomfortable so you’d be taking them off at your seat already. (I just want to mention that size outliers exist for other parts of wardrobes, and also condoms & I’d guess tampons. Those are usually tailors & prescriptions.)Reproduction? Growing a human population requires keeping ourselves alive too, so doing a job, babysitting, etc, those help too.Makeup? Do whatever, everything is an aesthetic if you find the words for it.

That being said other people suck, and we can’t control them. Therefore, like look for other things to do to adapt to this/them. Admittedly this part I don’t know much on.

However, I do have mental illness. So generally making a to-do & i-did list helps out a lot. Also journaling can help.[1]

and yeah, walking/hiking to where you’re constantly trying to decide on a path, breathing, learning stuff, doing puzzles, writing instructions for things, all of that can help. Video poker like those handheld games like on your phone can be nifty too.

Good Luck, Peace & Love,Eve

[1]If you’re worried about privacy for your journals I’d develop a short-hand of abbreviations. Personally, for mine I focused on the little words like by, to, of, -’s, anyway, so yeah, basically, like, just, which I turned to x, t, v, -z, anwa, s yh, bscly, lk, js. You would want to look up texting short-hand in different languages & mix & match them. Also consider doing creative spelling when forming your shorthand. If you do it good they’ll be distracted by all the short-hand & not get you’re writing in code. For proper nouns, basically make a word association with it, perhaps use emoji. If lacking emoji for that write “such&such emoji”. Rhyming slangs can help too.

Scars

The scars on my arms fade, but the cuts on my heart remain. I felt something then, but your hate numbs me. No one loved me like you, but now the mask’s off and your spit runs down my face. Pain’s my topic now, because that’s what you subject me to. Looking in the mirror and finally seeing the horror, the demon standing next to me. I hid behind the false face, the lies that you made, but real monsters aren’t in the closet with me, they are your friends and leaders. I try to get away, to follow my heart, but all it knows how to do is break. My head’s heavy from all the lies swimming around. Love is a four-letter word, but so is hate, and you seem to confuse the two constantly. Not on the front lines, but the war inside me has made more scars than any knife can carve.

I just really want a girlfriend

Like I wanna cuddle her and kiss her and just appreciate and love her. That’s all I’m asking for

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cassidyrose53

6 years ago

Reblog if you believe they/them ARE valid pronouns

Like if you believe they/them are NOT valid pronouns

This is an experiment

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cassidyrose53

6 years ago

Is it possible for me to become a doctor in the United States if I'm a trans woman? I'm going into the medical field and that's my biggest concern.

Yes!! While there may be discrimination (because you’re a woman and because you’re trans), no one’s going to stop you. One of the hormone providers in my area is actually a trans woman, and I live in a pretty conservative area, so for sure it’s possible.

If you are worried about discrimination/safety, and you pass well enough, you could go stealth so nobody knows you are trans while you work through med school and navigate the professional field. I would suggest getting your ID changed as soon as possible, if you haven’t already, so all your records are under the correct name.

Followers who are in a professional field, any advice for anon?

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cassidyrose53

6 years ago

Large feminine shoes

USA sizing system used in this post!

Also, some of these websites only sell rather pricey shoes.

Long Tall Sally (up to women’s 15)

Dillard’s extended sizes (up to women’s 15M)

Full Beauty (up to women’s 12WW)

Nordstrom’s extended sizes (up to women’s 13 and 4E width)

Payless (up to women’s 13W)

Zappos (up to women’s 20 and 9E width)

Shoes of Prey (up to women’s 15)

Lonia Shoes (up to women’s 15)

Torrid (up to women’s 13W)

Shoes.com (up to women’s 17WW)

Margaux (up to women’s 14W)

Thando’s (up to women’s 15M)

Eytys (up to about women’s 13)

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cassidyrose53

6 years ago

On the flip side of the coin to the anon who asked about whether going on T would force you to have a wardrobe change, what about going on E?

Harper says:Heya!So part of the effects of feminising hormone replacement therapy (HRT) includes body fat redistribution, and decreased muscle mass. So depending on what body you already have, and how you respond to HRT, the effects on HRT on your wardrobe will differ a lot!As to forcing you to change your wardrobe, I’d say there’s not a lot that would be a specific result of HRT in the departments of decreased muscle mass and fat redistribution. Things like your diet and how you exercise will affect how these things happen to you and to what degree.Generally speaking, ‘HRT causes the body to accumulate new fat in a typically feminine pattern, including in the hips, thighs, buttocks, pubis, upper arms, and breasts… The body begins to burn old adipose tissue in the waist, shoulders, and back, making those areas smaller.’ (from Wikipedia; original source.)As mentioned in the quote, your breasts will grow too. You may then consider wearing a bra, and you may have to for comfort if your breasts grow to a size that is uncomfortable without support, or if you choose to undergo breast augmentation that has the same affect.You may also see your junk decrease in size, making wearing certain underwear easier, making tucking easier, or making it easier to wear tight dresses without your stuff making curves or bulges where you may not want them.I’d also like to say that all of these effects happen over time at various rates to different people. So if you do need to adjust your wardrobe you’ll have plenty of time to do so.Hope this helps!

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cassidyrose53

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