I'm So Sick Of Being The Only Person Who Can Make Simple Connections Of How Doing A Thing To The Ecosystem

[Image description: gifs from The Old Guard. Charlize Theron's character is wounded and a drugstore employee is bandaging her up. Theron's character says, "You haven't asked." The other character replies, "Your business is yours. You need help, what does it matter why? Today, I put this on your wound. Tomorrow, you help someone up when they fall. We're not meant to be alone." End image description.]

THE OLD GUARD (2020) dir. Gina Prince-Bythewood

I'm too stoked. I can't focus, can't work, I can't think about anything else right now. Here is some stoked music:

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Sometimes I wonder about the dinosaurs who were here in previous geological ages. Did they make sounds like this? Like can you imagine a ten-foot tall birb chiming like a Machinery Ghost

Weird and wonderful compilation of strange bird noises.

Yeah and another fun thing is when someone speaks to me and I understand perfectly what they said but I can't for the life of me identify what language it was in

What they don’t tell you about speaking multiple languages is that your brain does not in fact have a box labeled Spanish and another one labeled German. Instead it has a box labeled “Not English” and sometimes when you’re talking or writing in one of the languages you speak it will just start pulling random words from that box.

[Image description: a social media post from user "Jennifer Adcock, RPG Designer" (@JenKatWrites) reading: You know who doesn't get imposter syndrom? Cats. Not only does every cat know they're a cat, I think every cat believes firmly, with conviction, that they are the best possible cat, the prime example of a cat, the most cat a cat could be. End image description.]

Yes, this is true. All cats are the best cat. Every single one. And I love that they know it. I love that they love themselves so much, it is the actual best thing.

How to Paint Light by jonhuangart

I just really really love this post, y'all. Like, so much. <3

Wait, so you said that you can learn to trust others by building friendships, but how does one go about doing that? Wouldn't someone I don't know be creeped out or annoyed if I suddenly walked up and started talking to them?

Friendships are built of repeated low-stakes interactions and returned bids for attention with slowly increasing intimacy over time.

It takes a long time to make friends as an adult. People will probably think you're weird if you just walk up and start talking to them as though you are already their friend (people think it's weird when I do this, I try not to do this) but people won't think it's weird if you're someone they've seen a few times who says "hey" and then gradually has more conversations (consisting of more words) with them.

I cheat at forming adult friendships by joining groups where people meet regularly. If you're part of a radio club that meets once a week and you just join up to talk about radios, eventually those will be your radio friends.

If there's a hiking meetup near you and you go regularly, you will eventually have hiking friends.

Deeper friendships are formed with people from those kinds of groups when you do things with them outside of the context of the original interaction; if you go camping with your radio friend, that person is probably more friend than acquaintance. If you go to the movies with a hiking friend who likes the same horror movies as you do, that is deepening the friendship.

In, like 2011 Large Bastard decided he wanted more friends to do stuff with so he started a local radio meetup. These people started as strangers who shared an interest. Now they are people who give each other rides after surgery and help each other move and have started businesses together and have gone on many radio-based camping trips and have worked on each other's cars.

Finding a meetup or starting a meetup is genuinely the cheat-code for making friends.

This is also how making friendships at schools works - you're around a group of people very regularly and eventually you get to know them better and you start figuring out who you get along with and you start spending more time with those people.

If you want to do this in the most fast and dramatic way possible, join a band.

In 2020 I wrote something of a primer on how to turn low-stakes interactions with neighbors and acquaintances into more meaningful relationships; check the notes of this post over the next couple days, I'll dig up the link and share it in a reblog.

Filming for Deadloch S2 has wrapped and I'm losing my mind *froths*

(sources: x x)

Absolutely obsessed with this hurdy gurdy rigged up to a tredle sewing machine stand. Man is going NUTS on the thingamabob!!!

His tiktok has more videos as well!