Nonbinary - Blog Posts
Honestly me too
(I saw this and squealed.)
local swordsman uses his feminine side to get free booze
Trans tips #9!
Dont be embarrassed of yourself!
Somewhat story time, but it has a lesson, I promise!
I'm no longer sick! And I went out to dinner with some friends, my fiancé, and my younger sibling (NB) Whom knows about my transness
Well, we were at a Mexican restaurant when the manager walked up and was making conversation with the table. Eventually, he asked how we all knew eachother.
Now, some information about me, I still have long, blue hair that I am finally growing out after years of cutting it, and I'm pre-t. For the most part, not passing at all.
But my sibling introduced me as their brother
I felt super embarrassed
The manager asked "Brother? Who's your brother?"
Sibling points at me again, very casually, "yeah, so, my brother, his fiancé, (their) friends, ect..."
Manager starts pointing around the table, asking again "who is your brother?"
Sibling points to me again and very dismissively calls me their brother again
Now, overall, very proud of my sibling for sticking to their guns and not backing down
But in that moment I was so beyond embarrassed!
At the end I just wanted to tell them so let it go and let the manager call me their sister or something, anything to end the conversation, get me out of this mess, stop everyone from staring at me, I want a molcajete and a margarita at this point, thank you, yeah I'll pay let's just wrap this up please sibling shut UP
I was so annoyed with them
But, that was a few days ago, and I've since calmed down and I've been thinking about it all
I was the first in my family to ever come out. I've expressed my gender and sexuality differently for the last couple of years, and when my sibling came out as Nonbianary, I got them their first flag, and I walked them through coming out, and I showed them their options and their resources
And they received backlash
Because people (especially our family) weren't used to the idea of Nonbianary
My sibling considered de-transitioning
Going back to "normal"
Hiding in the closet
But I told them No! If someone doesn't refer to you by your chosen name, don't respond! I won't! I don't know who [deadname] is! I only know the name You told me! Fuck anyone who says otherwise!
Do you think I'm able to date and be engaged to the most wonderful and beautiful person in all of existence by hiding in the closet when people are mean to me? FUCK NO!
Stand up, say it with your chest, own it, and you'll be so much happier! So much more free!
They're just doing what I thought them to do
Dont be ashamed of who you are, and when you are ashamed, I won't be ashamed of you.
I can't hide in the closet, I am Valid
I may not pass, I am Valid
I may not be able to medically transition, I am Valid
I may like my hair longer, I am Valid
My voice isn't as deep as I want it to be, I am Valid
I am Valid, and You are Too
As long as you are safe to do so, don't be ashamed or afraid to come out;
And when you are, have someone else who can speak up for you!
Trans tips #7!
It's okay to experiment with your Gender and Sexuality!
It's okay to go through the full cycle to find what works best for you!
And now! A comprehensive list of all of my sexuality and gender changes from the start of my journey to now, to be used as an example:
Straight! Cis Woman! I had a boyfriend who cornered me at a school dance to ask me out! I didn't like him, but i had no spine so...we dated for a year without kissing or holding hands or anything...
Pan! Cis Woman! I met queer friends who introduced me to the concept of Gender and Sexuality! I still consider Pansexuality as absence of Gender in the criteria for dating...also broke up with that boyfriend
Bi! Cis Woman! I also considered Bisexuality to be some consideration of Gender in the criteria of dating
Lesbian! Cis Woman! I made alot of jokes about slowly excluding men or masc presenting people from the dating pool
Gay! Cis Woman? I started thinking about Gender Expression a bit more, Gay was a safe umbrella term for me to explore under
*this is when I met my fiance...we started dating the same night we met...(insert uhaul joke here)*
Gay! Non binary Woman? Started messing with they/them Pronouns, at the time it was something like She/They
Gay! Non binary! This was a short time frame where I felt an absence of femininity within myself, anything fem!presenting made me uncomfortable (makeup, clothing, ect)
Gay! Gender Fluid! I actually came out like this to my younger sibling first because I knew they could be trusted. Also made jokes about stealing everyone's Gender because alot of my friends started coming out at some form of NB...also I had bursts of hyper femininity followed by long bouts of masculinity...until I stopped feeling feminine for a year and was in full denial that it would come back (every time I looked at my feminine clothing in my closet I felt sick, this is when I knew what was coming)
Queer! Gender Fluid! Queer fit me better considering i was He/They/She/It dating a They/She (Side note I don't really go by it, I just live in the Bible belt where morons call me "it" to make me feel bad, if I include it at least they're still gendering me correctly)
Queer! Transgender! Me currently :) I've given all of my feminine clothing to my cousin in law, and with my fiances support I've been coming out to my family.
I know I am in a safe place to do so now that I have my own place with people I trust! I will make another post on coming out next! NOT THE POINT
POINT IS GENDER AND SEXUALITY CAN CHANGE AND YOU CAN EXPERIMENT UNTIL YOU FIND OUT WHATS RIGHT FOR YOU!!!
Also don't rush into decisions! Each of these transitions took months to a year before I figured it was right! This whole process took 7 years and I only just came out as Trans at the beginning of the new year 2025!
But take your time to get a feel for these things, it can take time to adjust and feel your feelings about certain things! You got this and I'm proud of you!
#MyNameIsReno and i am a trans person
rest in peace to all of my trans brothers and sisters out there 🤍
#MyNameIs
I propose that we start the #MyNameIs(insert) trend. This conveys that us trans folk are here, in the present. That we matter and people should care about trans issues that affect our lives and those around us. We are not people that have fallen prey to the horror of suicide, but that we are in the now and trying our hardest to be ourselves. Please spread the word. #MyNameIsJamie and I am a trans*person
What are some genderfluid alternatives to ranch?
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If there's one thing I want you to do as the world gets colder, get kinder. They will comment on things that don't make sense just to be mad. They will start fights just to see you get mad.
They are mad. You might be mad. But you don't have to be mad at one another.
Just...don't participate in petty debates that you will never win. That aren't meant to be won. Especially as we descend again into the hellscape that is this type of rhetoric and cold world.
Be nicer to neighbors, friends, family. Take losses. Be the bigger person even when it HURTS. And when it comes to family and friends, it will. Of course don't concede your values. But don't push people away you depend on and rely on and want in your life either unless you have no choice.
Love yourself more than anyone. If there's any time to be selfish it's also now. Save your grace and ignore trolls. Ignore people and conversations and communities that don't serve you. If you have hobbies that don't serve you anymore, cut them off. Social media you don't use? Delete it.
Lastly, don't spend the next four years wishing you did more. Do more. Or do as much as you can. Your best is good enough. Stay in the moment. You don't need to dwell on the past, and you don't need to have a five year plan. Don't let the trauma of your environment shut you in. That's what I did during the last Presidency of this type, and I do regret it. Because I burnt out.
I love you. One day we will be able to love and live with reckless abandon again. With freedoms and liberties assured. Until then, we are here for one another, and we will get through it.
We did it once, we will do it again.
I’m going to scream. The grass is still green, I’m still seeing birds and the temperature is bearable. In the middle of November. In fucking Minnesota.
yet they still try to claim that climate change is a hoax and that everything’s fine, yeah “our best interest” my ass they fight for themselves not their people. I’m just a teenager but I can’t even try to worry about drama and celebrity shit because the adults in control of my country, my home are going to kill the world before I have a chance to grow up in it. How am I supposed to care about anything that doesn’t directly affect me when I’m wondering if I should by all of the classic books before the end up getting banned andd if the ones I’m going to write will fall to the same fate, because I’m not letting so many voices, MY VOICE go forgotten even if I have burn in place of the very words I and so many others write. so many people tell teenagers to just focus on grades which is practically impossible when I have to think about whether or not I’ll have to use the fact that three women in my mother’s family have had breast cancer including my mother herself to convince the doctors and government to let me have top surgery. How am I supposed to care about grades when I might not be able to get into college because it would be made harder or less acceptable for me to go just because I had the misfortune of being born female and that means I have something these men want. That is if I make it through high school without being shot of course. the politicians say they’re doing all of this for the children (obviously that’s why they want to ban drag you know/sar) but won’t listen to us when we cry for change as they instead walk in the other direction, they say this is for us but then they make a world where green grass and birds make me want to scream
they won’t listen to our screams now it’s about time to start biting and scratching
I love trans/nonbinary people
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💛🤍💜🖤
🖤 🩶🤍💚🤍🩶🖤
Not flexing or anything just saying I'm all-powerful
since the old version of this post was flagged for ‘adult content’…
reblog this post if your account is a trans safe space or owned by a trans person!
along with that, reblog if your account is a non-binary spectrum safe space or owned by someone on the enby spectrum!
I'm Agender and Asexual.
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Thought it was a good way to end the month.
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Exactly this ☝️ you are never going to understand everything about everyone. Sometimes people don't even understand themselves! But being open to learning and respecting different experiences (including your own) is how you begin to understand!
“I don’t understand asexual people” “I don’t understand non binary people” you don’t have to. you can think a sexuality or gender makes no sense, and still support people who identify that way. you can still be there for them and be kind to them. I didn’t understand asexuality, so I talked to asexual people and read stories written from their point of view and actively tried to understand it. after learning, I think I might even be on the ace spectrum. the point is, you can respect people without understanding them.
non-binary should be replaced with perpendicular
so hear me out male is an axis and female is another axis both perpendicular to eachother
so bigender is a sum of male hat and female hat (both scaled by a quantity), agender is the origin .etc
so following this non-binary should be a direction perpendicular to the male and female axis making it project onto the origin of the male - female plane
Good job. You panned a great game with some of the most diversity in gaming history, a poc cast and a nonbinary character played by a nonbinary actor, and the ability to be trans or nonbinary yourself and talk about it in the game. Congratulations. If we don't get another game with this level of representation for years you know what the fuck happened.
Okay, let's talk about the coming out scene, because people are saying Taash was the one out of line.
Shathann is a sympathetic character. That does not make her a good person. She saved her child from a life of servitude by leaving the country she loved and tried to preserve that culture in her child. I respect that. I also wish there was a way to encourage Taash to embrace both sides of their culture.
BUT.
From the moment we meet her, Shathann criticizes literally everything her child does. Taash runs an errand for her, and Shathann criticizes their posture, pronunciation, gender presentation, AND sexuality, completely unprovoked, yes, in one fucking conversation. Shathann invites Taash over for dinner and then makes Taash cook that fucking dinner. And this has happened before, as stated in the dialogue. Taash is so affected by this behavior and probably worse they have endured their entire life that they say "you don't get to tell me who I am" at a simple question about their heritage, out of pure instinct.
Now to the actual scene.
Taash invites their mother to their new home and prepares a dinner for her, which Shathann immediately criticizes and has Taash make vegetables to go with. Can you imagine inviting someone into your home for dinner you prepare only for them to shit on it and ask you to cook more. And Taash does so, with a grunt. I'd be like bitch you're in my house, I cooked, eat. But they just do it.
Then they say it. "Im nonbinary." Shathann asks what that means, completely fair, and Taash explains that it means they're not a man or a woman.
Shathann asks if this is because she criticizes their gender presentation. Now listen. I have a parent who thinks nearly everything "wrong" with me is a reaction to their actions. It pisses me off. So Taash is getting reasonably frustrated, and insists that's not why. VALID. They were asked a question and they answered.
Let's talk about the Qun and gender identity. Yes they have a word for people who identify as a different gender than they were assigned. But this is implied to apply to trans men and women, not nonbinary people, so Shathann is asking Taash if they "just" identify as a man, because that's something Shathann can better understand, something more convenient for her to process. Sort of like when trans people come out to someone and are asked if they're "just gay."
No. And Taash says no. They have explained who they are. If Shathann was just having a hard time processing it that would be one thing, but she basically talked over Taash and tried to suggest that they were just a man, which they are not. Taash is being vulnerable. Taash doesn't even HAVE to tell Shathann this, but they want to, they think she deserves to know.
And what Taash says next is not purely to do with this one conversation, as explicit in the text. "why am I never enough for you." Never. Not now. We have seen Shathann critique Taash in every scene they share, and that's with a whole other person present who is not in the family. We don't know what happens in private. Shathann signed her child up for a fucking war without even talking to them about it. What Taash says is the build up of years of being talked over and criticized for everything they do, provoked by offering themselves to that person in a vulnerable position only to be talked over and criticized more.
"Why am I never enough for you."
And Shathann does not answer. She doesnt say "of course you are." Even if she disagreed with Taash's identity, which would be shitty, she could still affirm that they are enough for her. She doesn't.
She fucking leaves.
Maybe she thinks that's what Taash wants. Maybe not. But if someone asks you something like that, you affirm them. You say they are enough. Especially if they're your fucking child. But no, this conversation is too inconvenient for Shathann, she's not getting her way like she did when she signed Taash up for a war without their consent, so she just leaves. She could've said "I don't understand, but I love you." She couldve said anything. But she just left.
I'm sad she died. Im glad she accepted her child in the end. But no, Taash was not in any way out of line in this conversation.
Shathann was.
Instead of Binary Decoders translating shit like 01010101 01110010 00100000 01101101 01101111 01101101 00100000 01100111 01100001 01111001 it makes u take a pic of someone and determines whether or not their Nonbinary. It'll also make fun of u if the answer is obvious
Being genderfluid is fun because I’ll be standing completely rigid hating myself wearing a dress and five minutes later I’ll have the widest, goofiest grin you’ve ever seen on a human being spinning and laughing because the dress is long and poofy and goes out in a three foot radius when you twirl
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Because it's PRIDE MONTH and one can never have enough gay shit, I want to make a suuuuper gay meme post.
If you have some pretty gay memes yourself please reblog and add them.
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If you are the meme creator or now the original meme creator, please tell so I can give credit. Some memes have watermarks, so it's easy to tell but most were found in the wild. 🤠
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Soooooooooooooooooooo freaking pretty 😍
Subtle Pride Flag Masterpost
All my subtle pride flags so far compiled into one post.
Lesbian
Gay
Bisexual
Pansexual
Transgender
Non-Binary
Genderfluid
Demisexual
Aromantic
Asexual
AroAce
Progress
Remastered, better quality versions now available.
Finding a haircut that suits me as a nonbinary person has been tedious. I love my mid to long hair but it causes so much misgendering. I'm not comfortable with short hair, but it is more socially well-recieved. Don't get me wrong, I'm not going to cut it, I just wish folks didn't make assumptions.
hey i have a message here from the owl house and it says ur valid <study>
@prideknights
Just got my enamel pins in the mail 🤩✨
I absolutely love them, and I can't wait to wear them.
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Gender Envy, I get gender envy from a cube.
No, I will not elaborate.
hello I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. The anonymity of tumblr means that I associate my idea/image of you with your icon and sometimes I look at people’s icons and I’m like ‘hmmm….what is that and why?’
so pls reblog this and comment in the tags the meaning behind your icon and why you chose it. this is a social experiment. do it for science pls.
MY PARTNER IS AN ENBY, AND I HAVE MANY ENBY FRIENDS 💛🤍💜🖤 YOU ARE LOVED AND SAFE HERE @tiredfrogclown @scentof-thesea the original enby gremlins
Please Reblog is Your Blog is Safe for Non-Binary People.
If my mutuals can’t rb this then we can’t be mutuals
see it's not raunbow its not gay
This is so fricking relatable.
To anyone who isn't completely sure who they are on the inside, it's OKAY to take a step back and take some time to figure yourself out. You aren't undeserving of identity—be it gender-related or literally anything else.
If you know that it would make you feel even just a little lighter every day, then go out and do it. Don't be afraid to say it. If everyone stuffed up all of their pain inside, deciding it wasn't worth exploring, we would all be boring and bland conformers.
Be the person who chooses to be themselves within all of this pressure to be 'normal' and to take the 'easier path'. Because sometimes the easiest path for you isn't the most traveled overall.
I touched up this old art a little