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Us when our disabilities disable us.

Like they are called disabilities for a reason.

- Shay 🐾

"you cant use your disabilities an excuse"

there are many reasons why a disability will disable someone. before you call it an excuse, maybe try considering why their disability, visible or invisible, effects their abilities.

This is a mood.

- Shay 🐾 & Shirley 🦮 (Shirley is literally a service dog, lol)

In a perfect world I would be a service dog -🦅🦮

We believe that tulpamancy requires intention.

However, there are many different types of plurality, and some aren't from intentional creation and also not from trauma.

From what we know, DID/OSDD/CDD (CDD means complex dissociative disorder) has to come from trauma. But those aren't the only ways to be plural.

We are plural that is partially traumagenic and partially endogenic (endogenic is just any plurality that isn't from trauma). [Also traumagenic doesn't always equal a CDD].

However, even though plurality can happen even without trying, you shouldn't be scared to cope how you want/need to.

- Shay 🐾

Hey, so don’t take this the wrong way, this is just a huge possibly irrational fear of mine that stems from like OCD and anxiety and it would be great if someone could tell me wether or not this is possible.

So I’m nonhuman and my identity is linked to my kin types. I have three: Cat, Fae, and linktype; Vulture.

They all bring a sense of comfort to me and all serve slightly different purposes. My Cat identity just brings general comfort and makes me feel more grounded. My Fae one brings me comfort specifically around humans, and my vulture one makes me feel shielded and protected, while also helping me deal with compulsive urges and whatnot (covering myself and blocking my view with my wings.)

A while back when I had discovered what tulpamancy was and wanted to try manifesting one for a while, before ultimately deciding against it since to me the cons outweighed the pros. Ever since then I’ve been pretty scared of like accidentally creating a tulpa.

So, my question….. Can I like. Accidentally. Manifest alters by doing this? Some of the manifestation methods I came across while researching tulpamancy seem scarily similar, and I don’t wanna accidentally give myself three different alters because I coped too fucking hard, it’s noisy enough up there💔.

I don’t know if tulpamancy requires intention and I don’t know how DD alters manifest aside from trauma throughout childhood and I really don’t wanna find out the hard way. Google isn’t saying much either.

We are gonna be going through our drafts right now.

Let's see how many posts we end up actually posting, lol.

- Shay 🐾

We get what op means, but still, if beings don't like a term for themself/themselves, leave them be.

We personally don't use therian or otherkin for ourselves, the terms just don't click for us. Like, they technically fit, but we don't like to use them and would prefer others not to use them for us.

We much prefer alterhuman, nonhuman, or just being called our "types/kins."

We don't think we are "better" than those who use those terms. We just don't like the terms for us.

None of this is an "attack" or anything on op, just a little reminder that beings not liking specific terms for themself/themselves doesn't mean that they think that term is "less than".

- Shay 🐾

putting this on main actually;

it annoys me to death when folks say stuff like “i’m not a therian, im a [xyz animal]”

because hey that’s what a therian is!

to say you don’t identify as a therian because you just ARE that animal is to say that therians AREN’T really the animal they claim to be. which is so wrong. to say you don’t like the term therian because it’s ‘too human’ is so insensitive.

therians are not necessarily human! someone calling themself a therian in no way makes them human! equating therians with humans is weird!

stop treating us like we are human, stop trying to separate ‘really being an animal’ from being a therian. they are the same thing. you’re not superior or different to us because you “really are that animal”. we all are.

Rebloging our own post cause we really would love some more advice!

- Shay 🐾

Question for the systems/plurals (or whatever term that beings use for those types of things) that have intentionally created alter(s)/headmate(s) [or whatever term].

How do you actually go about doing that? We are interested in trying to make/create some packmates (our version of alters/headmates) but we don't really know how to go about that.

We hope that we have explained this in a very respectful way.

- Shay 🐾 & Mystery ❔️ (when we started writing this post, Mystery was also in front, but not when posting this)

Edit (we originally just had this in the comments, but it's worth adding to the actual post): Add on to our original post. We have seen tumblr posts of "make a headmate/alter," are those recommended? (Hope this makes at least some sense). We don't necessarily mean using one or asking for one to be made for us. We just mean how they are formatted and all that. But also, would beings recommend using one of those?

Question for the systems/plurals (or whatever term that beings use for those types of things) that have intentionally created alter(s)/headmate(s) [or whatever term].

How do you actually go about doing that? We are interested in trying to make/create some packmates (our version of alters/headmates) but we don't really know how to go about that.

We hope that we have explained this in a very respectful way.

- Shay 🐾 & Mystery ❔️ (when we started writing this post, Mystery was also in front, but not when posting this)

Edit (we originally just had this in the comments, but it's worth adding to the actual post): Add on to our original post. We have seen tumblr posts of "make a headmate/alter," are those recommended? (Hope this makes at least some sense). We don't necessarily mean using one or asking for one to be made for us. We just mean how they are formatted and all that. But also, would beings recommend using one of those?

Uh, we are not sure if frogs are good pets (we mean, like how a wild animal isn't a good pet, basically not sure if they should be kept as pets).

We have not had frog legs before. And we are not sure if we would ever want to have them.

- Shay 🐾

Hey, what are your opinions on frogs? We need strong opinions, it’s for a school project (lie). -Consensus

Frogs are cool!!!

We love all animals!!!

We don't know much about frogs, though.

Sorry, this probably isn't really what you want. But this is what we can give.

- Shay 🐾

Hey, what are your opinions on frogs? We need strong opinions, it’s for a school project (lie). -Consensus

Frogs are cool!!!

We love all animals!!!

We don't know much about frogs, though.

Sorry, this probably isn't really what you want. But this is what we can give.

- Shay 🐾

Literally me. I am always fronting.

Although the colors/flag hurts our eyes a bit, lol. Would we be able to make an "alt flag" (that's what they are called, right?) of this?

- Shay 🐾

LockHost

Ive been looking for a system term to describe myself for a while, and decided fuck it we ball and made one myself

A lockhost is an alter in a system that seems to be the 'main' host, and is almost always fronting. They may also decribe themself as 'front-locked' or 'front sticky,' but this may not always be the case. They may be able to leave front or the front area, but are usually aware of whats going on with front anyways, and they are quite often pulled back to front within a short period of time. Because of this, they usually become the bodies 'main identity' in a system.

Other alters may use the identity of the lockhost as a mask in the case that they do not want to show themself, and may also interact with or control the body via the lockhost. In the case of a lockhost being an introject, it would not be uncommon for several doubles of the lockhosts source to also be present in the system.

Lockhosts may also act similarly to 'Observers,' in that they are always aware of the body to some degree, and can quickly be pulled to front in the case that they happen to not be fronting in the traditional sense. The lockhost may also serve many other roles in the system, but not always.

In the case of a lockhost also being part of a subsystem or side system, they may or may not be a lockhost of those as well.

!!!THIS CREATOR OF THIS TERM IS PRO ENDO. I CANNOT STOP ANTI-ENDOS FROM USING IT BUT DO NOT INTERACT WITH ME OR MY POSTS OR I WILL BLOCK. ENDO NEURTALS ARE FINE TO INTERACT. PLEASE RESPECT OUR BOUNDARIES!!!

We are aware that there is a similar term to this that was made by an anti endo, however this term was coined without knowledge of the post existing. Do with that info what you will, keep us out of discourse. And like we said before, we don't care who uses this term, but we ask that anti endos not reblogged so we don't get dragged into discourse.

No real clue, lol.

How did we just notice the "wolfdog" because that's what I am, lol. But in terms of the dog part of me, I don't know my breed(s). [We had picked "something else" originally].

My packmate, Shirley, is multiple medium to big dog breeds. They can shift into any form they want to. Some of our other packmates are also wolfdogs, lol.

- Shay 🐾

Silly little poll cause we all love clicking on things and finding out percentages 😌

+ I'm curious

If you're dogkin, what is your dog 'type? (if you have several, pls select the one that's the strongest of your identities!)

I'm curious cause these are the breeds I see the most often, and I wanna know what kind of dogs y'all are 👀✨

Us when we've been using these terms already and then find this, lol.

We don't really like using alter/headmate for any of us, and we were talking to one of our friends [who is also plural], and packmate was suggested as an alternative.

So we used packmate instead of alter/headmate and we use pack instead of system (we also use plural/plurality instead of system).

- Shay 🐾

Pack / Pack Mate

[PT: Pack / Pack Mate]

Aaa, a system member who prefers Pack/Pack Mate instead of alter/headmate(s); a term for when you use Pack/Pack Mate instead of alter/headmate(s).

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[Tags] @system-term-archive, @pluralitywords, @pluralterms, @radiomogai, @plurchive, @mates-friends-and-loves

I am Beta leaning. I have mentioned before that I am tridynamic, Alpha, Beta, and Omega, with Beta being my "main" one.

(This has been in our drafts for a while).

- Cyan 🩵 | RWBY "kin" of Shay

alpha leaning | beta leaning | omega leaning

Leaning flags based on our dynamic flags

a term for multidynamics (or anyone) who consider themself -leaning, or more of a/an then their other dynamics/any other dynamics.

Taglist: @omegarchive , @miscearchival , @radiomogai

It feels slightly weird to see others' "views" on the dynamics that are different from mine, lol.

Hope this makes sense.

It's just different and feels kinda weird, lol.

(We have had this in our drafts for a while now, lol. Finally, decided to post it).

- Cyan 🩵 | RWBY 'kin' of Shay (I really hate using "kin," although it is technically correct)

sorry but could you explain misceverse stuff to me? im curious to look into it more but when trying theres no guides or starting points, so any info on what it is, all the terms about orientations(?), scent stuff and how to know your scent stuff, and anything else you know? so sorry for the long ask but thank you for taking time if you do answer lmao

ill leave you some links here, the first one is a more general misce/omegaverse carrd but i personally find it a bit confusing, and the second one is @/omegai's personal misceverse which is my favourite one! :D

as for definitions, ill describe the main dynamics for you:

alpha: dominant, with instincts to care for and protect others. they are mistakenly seen as more masculine, though both males and females can be alphas. they experience ruts, and can get omegas pregnant no matter their agab. their scents are usually very strong (things like smoke, wood, saltwater...)

beta: neutral, with instincts to be mediators and help others. very social, usually seen as the middle man and the most clear-headed as they dont have mating cycles. their scents have a calming effect on every dynamic, and are usually more natural (i.e. pine, orange, mint...)

omega: submissive, with instincts to be cared for and protected, though they are also very good carers. they are mistakenly seen as more feminine, though both males and females can be omegas. they experience heats, and can get pregnant no matter their agab. their scents are usually very sweet (things like flowers, vanilla, coconut...)

all dynamics have nesting urges (though in omegas theyre stronger), and scenting instincts (though in alphas theyre stronger). all produce animalistic noises or "subvocals", though the sounds may vary between verses. the behaviours are set by the verse youre in: for example, i am a misceavian so my behaviours are based on birds, but a miscefelis will have more cat behaviours.

hope this helps, and sorry for the wait! i hope it was worth it :}

Genderqueer, trans masc enby (nonbinary), and novigender are all ones that we tend to use for all of us.

Novigender means a gender experience too hard to read/process/understand or too complex to pin down to one word.

- Shay

random poll time! i was curious about the gender distribution of the alterhuman community so i made this. please only answer if you are otherkin, therian, fictionkin, otherhearted, holothere, archetrope, plural, or any other label under the umbrella

(im very sorry about the lack of options, i hit the maximum which is 12. again, if you are not alterhuman please refrain from voting on the poll. thank you :])

This is so true!!

We don't believe we have DID or OSDD, but we are plural, and it does seem like our trauma affected our plurality.

We won't argue with anyone trying to say that we actually have DID/OSDD. It doesn't even really matter to us that much whether we do or do not. All that really matters is that we are plural.

We have had our moments of thinking that our trauma wasn't "bad enough" and shit like that. So, this post definitely helps a bit.

Remember, comparing trauma is not good for anyone.

- Shay 🐾

"my trauma wasn't bad enough i can't be a system"

whenever I hear people say this I always wonder, what metric are you using? your tolerance for how things affect you now as a teenager, or adult?

something that you experienced as a child is going to use a completely different metric! a child's brain is much less developed than an adult's and what they're able to handle is much less. for instance maybe you like horror movies? you probably can watch them without even getting scared! but if you watched the same film at 7 years old it would likely be a lot different!!

you don't need extreme trauma in order to have DID. it just needed to be extreme enough to YOU as a child, that's all. You got bullied at school? that's enough to develop DID! you had a disorder from an early age that made life hard? that's enough to develop DID! your parents were neglectful? that's enough to develop DID!

there's no such thing as gold star DID you don't need to have gone through the worst of the worst. there's no need for trauma olympics, if you have DID you have DID and that's all!

We are both transgender (specifically genderqueer/enby) and nonhuman (and we actually would love to use the term transspecies more for ourselves, honestly [more so me than my fellow packmates]).

Transspecies beings are not taking anything away from (other) trans people.

People are gonna hate what they hate. If people really try to use transspecies beings as a reason to hate on transgender people, then they were never really supportive of trans people in the first place.

Remember, be yourself/yourselves as long as you're not hurting anyone!

- Shay 🐾 | The host, who always fronts, of the Wildlife Pack

I'm starting to realize my past views about the term "transpecies" don't align with my current morals and I'm kinda playing with the term. To anyone who uses the term, what are your thoughts about it? Why do you think it's an okay term to use or why not?

I've heard people call it offensive to trans people before but ive also heard that take is pitting two communities against eachother for no reason/one identity doesn't discredit another. I can't think of any actually good reasons against the term tbh. It feels like one of those things I heard about through people being like "have you heard some people call themselves trans species and want to become animals??" And out of fear of being ostracized myself agreed with other peoples views of it. Now I think that's a nothing argument and discredits peoples identities because they are "weird". To be honest, I think the only difference between being a therian/otherkin and transpecies is the label and people only disagree with the label because they are worried about trangender people being ostracized or seen as "just as weird" and transpecies people.

Hey random question, does anyone know if there is a word for romantic attraction that's not "sexuality"?

Cause there should be. Cause not everyone's sexual attraction and romantic attraction "line up" (someone could asexual and biromantic, someone could be bisexual and aromantic, etc).

- Shay 🐾

Picked nuance because of multiple reasons.

Firstly, we don't really use system for us [we use plural or pack mostly, lol].

Secondly, a lot of our sources (I am also gonna include my kins in this because yes) may seem "human" at first glance, but none of us have ever been human.

We all are nonhumans.

- Shay 🐾 | The host of the Wildlife Pack [which we commonly will just refer to as the Wild Pack]

survey!!

*if you have multiple fictives in your system answer for either whoever is fronting or whoever wants to answer

*if your source doesn't neatly fit into the nonhuman and human binary pick either what's closest or pick nuance

alterhuman = anyone who identifies as/is not entirely human, whether in full or in part

feel free to share your sources & identities in the replies/tags!!

Thinking about the fact that we need to see a therapist, but we want more that is supportive of alterhumanity and nonhumanity and also the LGBTQ+ community. And so many other things probably.

And we don't really know how to go about looking for a therapist that would fit this category while also being one that our dad would approve of as he is anti-lgbtq+ and shit and he would definitely prefer we get a Christian therapist but no thank you. [We live with our dad and older brother as we are 19 and disabled and shit and don't yet have a job].

- Shay 🐾

Love this post!!!

We ourselves don't have DID or OSDD [at least not diagnosed, and we won't argue with anyone on if we do or do not actually have either of these]. We think that those disorders don't fit us because of reasons related to our own experiences, and arguing with us isn't gonna change shit.

However, we do think our plurality relates at least a little to our trauma, so in that way, we are both under the "endogenic" label and "traumagenic". The origin we describe ourselves as is specifically "quoitraumagenic" which is a mix of "quoigenic" and "traumagenic". We have a post with the definition from a website about plurality.

We don't typically want to talk about our origin(s?) for our plurality. We are plural, and that's all that actually matters.

- Shay 🐾

hey, i saw a post on here saying you guys support non "traumagenic" systems and I was wanting to know if thats true.

You guys are so amazing and have helped me with my identity a lot, but this information is really important to me as a trauma survivor with severe PTSD. If you are pro endos but are open to listening to trauma survivors and phycology sources, I absolutely will provide them. I want you guys to be a safe space for people with PTSD and dissociative disorders so bad, as people who has OSDDDID tend to have more "contradictory" labels in the first place, due to the complex relationship all the different alters identities make combined.

I'm hoping so much that you'll be open to listening if this is true.

hello! i'm good, i don't need any!

if you only have severe PTSD and not a dissociative disorder and do not identify as plural, you should NOT be commenting on plurality at all. like i hate to break it to you, but if you do not deal with plurality, you do not know what the experience is like. reading papers about it will not give you insight into how people actually live.

i'm an inclusive Dissociative Identity Disorder system who is 100% pro endo, and any other type of system. i support ALL plurals, i don't cherry pick. you're correct, this blog is a safe space, especially for people with "contradictory" identities or ones that "don't make sense." why wouldn't i be here for endogenic and non traumagenic systems?

that would go against everything i stand for.

i am a trauma survivor as well. i *have* DID, i don't really need any resources on the matter- before I was diagnosed i spent years researching, and i still do keep up with research. i am aware that DID and OSDD are caused by trauma! generally it's severe, repeated trauma and/or neglect. i have no memories of my life before the age of 10. i too have severe PTSD, i have a diagnosis for C-PTSD in specific. i live with this every day of my life. i still have a lot of trauma and triggers. i black out and lose time and regularly forget who i am or where i'm at.

something to keep in mind is research on DID has literally 0 bearing on other types of plurality. just because there is a lot of research into DID, OSDD, etc. does not mean that other plural experiences do not exist. when ONLY siting medical sources and saying that because there's no other "proof" or "evidence" that other types of plurality "can't" exist, it's an appeal to authority. there is no research data to point toward because studies on DID and OSDD and other dissociative disorders have really only gained traction within the last 10 - 20 years maximum. this is an extremely recent phenomenon! just because there are no (paid, keep in mind that studies have to find funding, and investors are picky) medical papers or studies to point toward doesn't mean something isn't happening.

someone identifying as plural without trauma is not an affront to plurals who do have trauma. someone identifying as a system who doesn't have or know of any childhood trauma is not spitting in your face. i've seen this take around and it's just not it. don't take someone else's mental health as an attack on yours. it's not hurting you at all for people to identify as plural if they don't have trauma. it's not spitting in *my* face, so it's not spitting in yours, either. it's okay to let non traumagenic systems exist. it's not exacerbating your trauma or re-traumatizing you or subjecting you to new trauma.

they're not saying that your trauma is invalid just because they don't have any. i don't like people who get on a high horse because they have a dissociative disorder and act like they get to police how other people's brains work. you only know how your brain works. you do not know how any other type of system works.

endogenic systems are not identifying as endogenic to spite you or dissociative systems. they're not doing it to hurt you. they're doing it because they identify as multiple people. that is not being done with the intention to hurt anyone. this is about THEM, not you. nobody is the protagonist of the plural community. no one.

as a plural, myself, i get to choose who i support. and i choose to support people who aren't hurting anyone or doing anything wrong. i really don't care how offensive some people find non traumagenic systems, but they're not hurting you, me, or anyone else. live and let live. you don't know how someone else's brain works. you will never be able to know how someone else's brain works. accepting that will make your life easier.

being angry at other people for not having trauma will not make yours go away or undo what was done to you. you should never take out your frustrations on people who haven't hurt you. endos haven't hurt you, you just don't agree with them. these are 2 separate things. also you really don't have the right to comment on the nature of how complex non traumagenic plurality is or is not- endogenic systems can have just as many nuanced and complex identities regardless of whether or not they're dissociating. they're still multiple people whether or not you see them that way. they also have complex identities, why wouldn't they? being different people leads to a lot of complexity. you should still see them as multiple people even if you don't think it's legit. that's basic respect for another person who, again, literally hasn't hurt you.

also endogenic and non dissociative systems are still people, and we should still care about them. they're still people even if you don't agree with them, and again: they have not hurt you by virtue of existing.

hope that helps and makes sense. i am not open to changing my mind on this, but i appreciate you giving me a good reason to explain my stance on the matter. i don't have the right to police other people and tell them how their own brains work. you don't have that right, either. i'm not here to police anyone. that goes against everything i stand for. i don't gatekeep.

i'm not a cop.

:3c

- Shay 🐾

rb to have a super gay 2023

Once again, we haven't posted in a while, lol.

Honestly, just posting this so that people know that we are still alive, lol.

- Shay 🐾

We haven't posted in a while, lol.

Pretty sure there's also some posts in our drafts that may or may not get posted at any point.

This is just the whole post, lol.

- Shay 🐾

Same here!!

If people are respectful and shit, they are more than welcome on our account/blog!

- Shay 🐾

putting this out there preemptively, my account is for sure a safe place for any alterhumans coming over from tiktok.

We haven't posted in a while, lol.

Pretty sure there's also some posts in our drafts that may or may not get posted at any point.

This is just the whole post, lol.

- Shay 🐾

LOL

So far, we don't have a specific little alter, but I do age regress sometimes.

Although we don't have a job yet, we will be looking for one in January, though.

- Shay 🐾

If the little fronts on the clock can you sue for child labor

Well, in this current body/life, we don't have an SD [service dog] yet (we need to work on getting one).

But from some of our past lifes, we loved having our service dogs help with grabbing things that we had issues getting.

- Shay 🐾

What is your in-depth opinion of fire?

Depends on who is being asked.

There's Den and Moonfire who love fire, lol!

Most of the rest of us mostly just like looking at fire but not being too close, lol.

Not sure what else to say here.

- Shay 🐾

Thinking about going back and deleting some older posts, we might end up reposting some that we delete, but fixing things but not sure yet.

Some that aren't being deleted are being updated with tags.

- Shay 🐾

Guess we are answering from main account/blog now.

Our hyperfixations tend to be more related to our sources and other games, movies, and shows, lol.

Also, animal related things, especially service dogs.

[Some of these could also be special interests, we aren't entirely sure of the difference for us]

- Shay 🐾

What is your in-depth opinion of fire?

Depends on who is being asked.

There's Den and Moonfire who love fire, lol!

Most of the rest of us mostly just like looking at fire but not being too close, lol.

Not sure what else to say here.

- Shay 🐾

We decided to make some flags just for our plurality. While these flags are technically free to use, credit is actually required for these, as these flags are specifically made for us really.

We used browns and green-blues as those are colors that a lot of us have connections and stuff to.

- Shay 🐾

Made some nonhuman related flag(s).

We don't have a name for them as a term or anything. If anyone can think of a good name for it, then feel free to reblog with said name/term.

We do have a definition for what we want the flag(s) to mean.

The definition is: Beings that are nonhuman/not human fully, even when the body they are in is human. (This can be described in different ways).

We tried to kind of make it based a bit off of nature (greens and browns mainly).

- Shay (They/it) 🐾

Edit: These are free to use! Credit is appreciated but not required! Also, feel free to make alternative versions of these flags!