Demisexual - Blog Posts
SPOILER ALERT
So I started watching this Netflix show Q-Force, and it's really good. It's a bunch of gay spy agents going on missions, except one of them is just a normal straight 'toxic masculinity' guy who !spoilers! is secretly a sensitive guy with emotions !spoilers over!
Mary is gay, Deb is a lesbian married to a woman called Pam, and I think probably trans(?). Twink is, well, a Twink, and Stat is probably a Demisexual Lesbian.
Highly recommend!
Happy Pride Month, everyone! 🏳️🌈🥳
I have another pride month drawing coming up because I’m doing a collab with a friend on instagram, so stay tuned for that! 💖
In today’s news: i have been declared Demi by a bottle cap.
As someone who considers themself somewhere around quoiro/nebula or Aego, i am ok with this.
Disclaimer: do not go around saying this to Ace/Aro ppl.
Danganronpa Characters I Think Are Ace or Aro Because There’s Not Enough Representation
Terms used if you don’t know them:
ace = asexual
aro = aromantic
gray-ace/aro = vaguely ace/aro or not identifying completely with ace/aro
demi, demi-aro = https://www.healthline.com/health/demisexual#:~:text=What%20exactly%20does%20demisexual%20mean,an%20emotional%20bond%20has%20formed. (I’m too tired to explain it)
Trigger Happy Havoc
Byakuya (aroace)
Taka (gray-ace)
Chihiro (demi or ace, gray-aro)
Kyoko (ace, demi-aro)
(Celeste would be on here but she seems more like a blatant ‘I-do-not-feel-love’ kind of character to me)
Goodbye Despair
Twogami (aroace)
Nekomaru (aroace)
Peko (gray-ace, demi-aro)
Fuyuhiko (demi)
Killing Harmony/V3
Shuichi (ace (detective))
Maki (gray-ace)
Gonta (demi-aro)
Kirumi (aroace)
Ryoma (demi)
Keebo (gray-ace)*
*(He had that whole scene with Miu, but I personally think it was just pleasure and not attraction.)
i told my boyfriend i was demisexual so i had to expalin to him that demisexual is the kind of people who feel sexual attraction to someone with an emotional bond, and he said "yeah just like everyone else"... how i am supposed to react to that? i told him that no, because lot of people is alright with one night stands, but he was insisting everyone was like this..
This is a hard one that I’ve struggled with too, because as demisexuals we know that our experience is fundamentally different, but often times harder to pin down than saying we’re strictly asexual. Here’s how I explained it to my mom. I’m not sure how useful this is, especially since it’s about how *I* experience demisexuality, which might be different than how you or others do, but maybe it’ll help.So imagine that sex is coffee right? People love coffee. Coffee is everywhere. There’s a Starbucks on every corner, coffee drinkers in every TV show and movie, and billboards and ad spots about coffee all the time. People who like coffee might be peculiar about how they want their coffee— maybe they like it with sugar or soy milk, or only in the mornings before 10, or only when they’re studying, only from Starbucks or only from their local coffee house, etc. Or they might not care— they might like coffee no matter when or how it’s made. They’ll buy it from anyone and take it in whatever form because they really like coffee. But they all agree that in general they like coffee.
And then there are people who don’t like coffee at all. They can’t stand it. They don’t want coffee at any point of the day, no matter how it’s made or who makes it. Nothing you can do makes coffee in any way appealing to them. Coffee lovers are generally baffled by this, and some might insist that people who don’t like coffee just haven’t had the right cup, but the fact is that people who don’t like coffee simply just don’t like coffee.
And then there are people like us: we don’t generally like coffee, and we wouldn’t choose to have coffee on our own. Like the people who don’t like coffee, we can go years without a cup of coffee and it doesn’t bother us at all.
But we have a friend who loves coffee, and we love that friend. And the longer we’re friends, the more we want to have coffee with them. Not because coffee has suddenly become our favorite drink, but because we love our coffee-drinking friend and THEY make us want coffee. So we go out for coffee with them, and we enjoy having coffee because we’re having coffee with them. If we weren’t with them, we wouldn’t want coffee.
"But everybody feels that way" isn’t true. Coffee lovers still want coffee even when their conditions for having coffee aren’t met. Just because they’re not drinking coffee right now, or because they might have preferences for when & how they drink coffee, doesn’t mean they stop liking coffee. But for people like us, if we’re not having coffee with that specific person, then we don’t care about coffee. It holds absolutely no appeal or value. We have to have that connection before we ever want coffee. Coffee lovers might want that connection when they have coffee too, but they also generally want coffee as a thing in itself.
That’s the difference between being demisexual and being an allosexual who likes to have emotional connections with their partners. An allosexual person still likes and wants sex as a thing itself, even if the conditions for having sex aren’t being met. They think about and desire sex outside of the conditions they set for engaging in the actual act. A demisexual person doesn’t care about sex as a thing in itself, because sex is inherently tied to emotional bonding for them. We don’t think about sex as an act involving us unless it’s under those conditions.
That may or may not be the worst analogy ever, I honestly don’t know, sorry. It seemed to work for my mom, but that might be because she really likes coffee *shrugs*
If anyone following this blog has any resources on how to respond to that type of response they’d like to direct the anon to, please let me know so I can post them!
Hope that helps!
Hey Everyone! To celebrate Asexual Awareness Week, the team at Queer Sounds want to create a video for our song Asexy. BUT We would like your help. We want to put together a video with real asexual spectrum people holding up the lyrics to the song. If you would be interested in helping us make this video, please send an email to queersounds@gmail.com with ‘Asexy Awareness Song’ as the subject we’ll assign you a section of the lyrics to write up signs for and film. You then go off and do it, upload it to YouTube as an unlisted video, submit the video to us here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1mgzlhDmeIYeGY2x2EInl5nSqM7jYnFLqJmWUrJZCT-w/viewform?c=0&w=1 and we’ll take care of the rest. Submission of videos closes on the 22nd of October 2014, so make sure to send them to us by then. Interested? There’s some more detailed instructions and guidelines regarding how to make your video in the linked video. Good luck! [EDIT: Have no idea what this video will look like? Well wonder no more! Here’s Masque with a rough demonstration of the kind of thing we’d like you to do! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nRd-NO7Tr9Q ]
Out of curiosity, could you take a moment to reblog this if you believe that demisexuality exists? I’m demisexual, and I feel like demisexuality goes really under the radar, even within the asexual community umbrella. A lot of people don’t believe that it exists, and even within the ace community, demisexuality is still questioned as being legitimate, although we share the same flag. So reblog this is if you believe it exists.
Happy pride month everyone! I’m currently working on a drawing for it
For now you can have this little doodle of Duo and their flags!
It’s just a simple paper sketch while I work on all the digitals :)
Eat my friends.
garlic bread to share to your aspec friends :)
rb to share
Atsushi: What is it like to be aspec? I don't really get it.
Dazai: Ok, listen up. Mentally I'm very romantic.
Dazai: Physically I'm asexual.
Dazai: Spiritually I'm a fucking slut.
Atsushi: Yep, makes sense.
Drawing No. 2: Koo Chan Sung (Hotel Del Luna) - Demisexual
Pride Stones Day 6: Demisexual & Demiromantic
Since today is my favorite number (twice) we get a double dip of double demi's
These flags are simple but quite striking Im still new to queerness so ill need to do some more research on identities such as these
My Helluva Boss headcanons (despite the pride art)
Main characters:
Blitzo: All pronouns (Genderfluid, Aromantic Pansexual)
Moxxie: He/Him (Transmasc, Bisexual)
Millie: She/Her (Demiroace Bisexual)
Loona: She/They (Transfemme Demigirl, Straight)
Stolas: He/Him (Gay Bitch.)
Goetia Family:
Octavia: She/Her (Asexual Lesbian)
Andrealphus: He/Him (Straight Ally bc sister and octavia. Hates Stolas.)
Stella: She/Her (Lesbian. Hates Stolas)
Siblings:
Sallie May: She/Her (Transfemme, Straight)
Barbie Wire: She/Her (Transfemme demigirl, Lesbian)
Past Villains/ Villains:
Verosika: She/They (Demigirl, Omnisexual)
Glitz and Glam: She/Her (Transfemme, Lesbians)
Striker: He/Him (Asexual Gay— Also Demiromantic but I forgot to add)
Fizzarolli: He/They (Transmasc, Demiaroace Gay)
Chaz: He/Him (Straight man— dated Moxxie before he transitioned/ came out)
Sins:
Beelzebub: She/They (Transfemme, Polyamorous Pansexual)
Asmodeus: All Pronouns (Non-Binary, Pansexual)
Mammon: He/It (Pangender, Demiaroace Straight)
Something I probably should have posted back in Pride month. Hopefully it‘s okay still. Anyway, some OCs and their Pride flags.
Jeremy: Bisexual
Christian: Gay
Gabriel: Nonbinary
Dominic: Demisexual
Happy Pride Month!
2/2 of my pride stickers set!!
Happy Pride Month!
hookup culture is actually wild to me because I have to literally be in love to even hold someone's hand.
FLAGS IN ORDER:
Graysexual
Demisexual
Acespike
Aegosexual
Cupiosexual
I made pride flags with Octavia’s color palette.
FLAGS IN ORDER:
Asexual
Pansexual
Nonbinary
Demigirl
Librafeminine
Demiboy
Libramasculine
Question 1 - About 4 or 5 years.
Question 2 - I don’t identify with any micro labels.
Question 3 - No, but I really want to…
Question 4 - Only to my mother, little siblings, and friends.
Question 5 - I’m thinking that I might be? I’m not entirely sure.
Question 6 - I’m Nonbinary, but more specifically, I’m a Demigirl.
Question 7 - Sleep, Cake, Garlic, and Dragons.
Question 8 - Asexuals are just Innocent, and All Aces are also Aro.
Question 9 - Both please-
Question 10 - Once I learned what Asexual meant, it just slapped me in the face.
Question 11 - Knowing that there was a word for me to describe what I feel, and knowing that I’m not the only one, and I’m not a machine for feeling the way I feel.
Question 12 - People assume that I’m innocent.
Question 13 - YES.
Question 14 - I want to.
Question 15 - Ace people can still feel romantic attraction, we are not innocent, Aces are not broken, and we do belong in the LGBTQIA+ Community.
Question 16 - I think some of my friends are really nice to look at, I guess I’m attracted to the way they look, would that be aesthetic attraction? Maybe Biaesthetic? Idk-
Question 17 - I’m sex-indifferent.
Question 18 - Luz (The Owl House), Octavia (Helluva Boss), Alastor (Hazbin Hotel), Twilight Sparkle (My Little Pony), Frisk, Sans, Papyrus & Mettaton (Undertale), Susie (Deltarune), Dewey, Violet, & Boyd (Ducktales), Cole & Zane (Ninjago), Ice Bear (We Bare Bears), Peridot & Pearl (Steven Universe), Marcy (Amphibia), & Entrapta (She Ra)
in honor of ace week, here's an ace ask game I made! feel free to reblog, but don't repost without credit :)
🖤 how long have you known you're asexual?
🤍 what ace-spec microlabels, if any, do you identify as?
💜 do you own an asexual flag?
🖤 are you out as asexual irl?
🤍 are you on the aromantic spectrum?
💜 are you transgender or on the nonbinary spectrum?
🖤 what's your favorite asexual stereotype?
🤍 what's your least favorite asexual stereotype?
💜 cake or garlic bread?
🖤 what made you realize that you were asexual?
🤍 what's your favorite part about being asexual?
💜 what's your least favorite part about being asexual?
🖤 do you like the asexual flag?
🤍 do you wear an ace ring?
💜 if you could tell allosexual people one thing, what would it be?
🖤 do you experience aesthetic attraction?
🤍 are you sex-favorable, sex-repulsed, or sex-indifferent?
💜 what fictional characters do you headcanon as asexual?
I got bored, so, look at my headcanons! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Twilight Sparkle - Biromantic Asexual Demigirl
Rarity - Biromantic Demisexual Trans Girl
Rainbow Dash - Lesbian Nonbinary
Fluttershy- Panromantic Cupiosexual Trans Girl
Applejack - Lesbian Bigender
Pinkie Pie - Pansexual Agender
(These are just my headcanons, if yours are different than mine, that’s cool! If they’re the same, also cool!)
Is there a way I can beat the shit out of someone on the internet? I just came across an aphobe-
On this ace day I wanna give a shoutout to demisexuality and to the day I first heard of it where I went: "but doesn't everybody feel that way? Who would wanna sleep with someone they don't know well?"...Interesting I should say that
Trans, demisexual, panromantic moodboard
As voted for on the poll Gale was next
The one person who commented a flag for Gale, wanted the Demi flag, which I can honestly see for Gale
Wyll plus my Tav pride chibi
Astarion pride chibi
Pride month baby!
They’re both Bi, and demisexual, change my mind