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Bisexualsexual is a term for individuals who are attracted to bisexuals.
Bisexual Bisexualsexual is a term for bisexuals who are exclusively or primarily attracted to bisexuals.
Pansexual Bisexualsexual is a term for pansexuals who are exclusively or primarily attracted to bisexuals.
Gay Man Bisexualsexual is a term for gay men who are exclusively or primarily attracted to bisexuals.
Lesbian Bisexualsexual is a term for lesbians who are exclusively or primarily attracted to bisexuals.
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Just wanted to let you know febfem isn't just for terfs, I see a lot of ftm trans men that are febfems, it's not about being a cis woman just female. It's trans inclusive. Febfems can have boyfriends if they're trans men
febfem isn’t just for TERFs
it’s not about being a cis woman, just (biologically) female
febfems can have boyfriends if they’re trans men
you’re contradicting yourself, anon. nice try. if by “trans inclusive” you mean trans men but not trans women, then lol lmao. i’ve seen them try to give that false impression before. also i have lots of history with the label so if you’re attempting to fool me with the wrong information here in order to accept bigotry then it’s not gonna work.
personally, i think that if trans men want to identify themselves within feminine orientation labels (i.e. sapphic, lesbian, etc.), then that’s valid as long as it’s an individualistic decision and doesn’t represent or isn’t forced on the whole community. that’s not what y’all are doing, i fear! transphobes externally assign labels based on birth sex for transmascs, transfems, and nonbinary groups.
i’m curious, though — why did you send that ask on this blog, where febfem was never mentioned previously except for a recent reblog of someone else’s old post?
i'm tempted to say "they're dating" but of course the whole point is they're not and that's the tragedy of a century. they are platonic partners, allies in arms, besties for life, love & light in solidarity!
🩷Les4Les🩷 💜Bi4Bi💜
Les4Les:
A lesbian who prefers to date other lesbians rather than other sexualities due to shared experiences. This does not mean they won't date someone of a different sexuality, they just have a preference for dating the same sexuality.
Bi4Bi:
A bisexual who prefers to date other bisexuals rather than other sexualities due to shared experiences. This does not mean they won't date someone of a different sexuality, they just have a preference for dating the same sexuality.
Reclaimed Trope Flags
Depraved Bisexual
A flag for bisexuals who reclaim the Depraved Bisexual trope.
Alluring Intersex
A flag for intersex folks who reclaim the Intersex Allure trope.
what does febfem mean?
@bai-xue-lives and @prismatic-bell both asked me the same question, so here goes nuffink
Febfem: On Bisexual Radfems, Facts Don’t Care About Feelings, and Lesbians Essentialism
Radical feminists describe ‘febfem’ as a bisexual female* who, by choice. exclusively dates females. It arose out of a specific subset of radfem tumblr, which holds some ideas about gender, sexuality, and identity to be self-evident. these facts include:
lesbian refers exclusively to homosexual females. words like bisexual and lesbian are not identities but statements of fact. any person who self-identifies as a lesbian must be a female homosexual. if you’re not a female homosexual for any reason (you’ve dated men in the past, you were assigned male at birth, you’re bisexual but only date women) then you cannot be a lesbian. you need other words.
females who are exclusively attracted to females are the most oppressed group. everybody else needs to protect them; their terminology, and their spaces. they are inviolate. an attack upon them is the greatest crime. bisexual women are their oppressors because bi women benefit from heterosexuality (what these benefits are is unclear)
lesbians are allowed to call bisexual women anything they want, including slurs like cockslut, bihet, handmaiden, etc. a lesbian referring to bi women using these slurs is venting about her trauma at the hands of her bisexual oppressors and is above question or reproach. bisexual women are not allowed to vent about their trauma at the hands of lesbians because they have privilege over lesbians and it would be lesbophobic.
bisexual women are untrustworthy rapists who want to invade lesbian only spaces and abuse lesbians. [please note that in this case, “bisexual women” also refers to trans-inclusive lesbians.] all bisexual women are untrustworthy, cheating cocksluts until proven otherwise.
Bisexual radfems who want to have access to spaces that keep them safe and people who don’t treat them like cocksluts who are only waiting to cheat on the nearest lesbian, must find some way to signal their virtuosity. “Look at us!” They say. “We’re good bisexuals, unlike these other bihet handmaidens. Please allow us into your safe spaces, and make room for us in your rhetoric. We promise to hate ourselves for being attracted to men, constantly apologise for oppressing lesbians, and allow lesbians to target and bully us whenever they like. Look, to make it easy for lesbian radfems to tell when a bisexual is one of the Good Ones, we’ll put this handy word that we just made up - Febfem - in our bios, so you know precisely how to find us.”
It’s almost enough to make me feel sorry for them. If you go through the febfem tag on tumblr, a lot of posts talk about the importance of not talking over lesbians, not infringing on lesbian-only spaces, and not appropriating lesbian terminology, and reiterating constantly that lesbians don’t owe bi women anything (Just be grateful they didn’t call you an abusive slut today!). Of course, all this ground is won at the cost of bisexual women who aren’t female-exclusive, trans-inclusive lesbians, and trans lesbians. So I don’t really feel sorry for them. Except when I do, cause hyperempathy is a bitch that way.
also, they hate mogai tumblr even though they’re literally the radfem version of mogais
*Note: I use female when talking about AFABs (as radfems use female) and women when talking about people who identify as women regardless of AGAB.
can u make barbie a bi butch?? im tryna see sum
What are you asking for? For like an icon of Barbie with the bi butch flag? For a stick figure drawing of Barbie with more visually masculine or butchy clothing? Like do you want me to make Barbie a bi butch like march down to Mattel and create canon bi butch Barbie? Oh if I was a superhero that’s how I’d use my powers :)
if anyone out there would want to make barbie icons with a bi flag background i would be sooo eternally grateful to you 🤲🏼
sorry, and i mean this lightheartedly, but the article title is so fucking funny out of context bc of the wording of “use” instead of “reclaim”
use this reaction image when ur bi bestie starts making jokes and it makes u biphobic 🫵🤨 /j
Bi Dykes have my whole heart + check out this amazing article I read explaining bi sapphic’s (aka selenic’s) reclamation of the slur dyke!
a snippet from the article I adore :3
We have a language philosophy who focuses on slur reclamation on our side. Twitter biphobes who insist selenics can’t reclaim dyke have like no research on their side <3
middle right is genuinely gorgeous omg that’s so pretty!
Pinkie Pie bihet icons 🩷🖤🤍💙
Note: this is not identifying as bisexual and straight or saying that bisexuals are het >:( this is just taking back an insult used against bi sapphics under the guise that we aren’t “queer enough” 🩷🖤🤍💙
The problem with commercial F/M romance is that it's written by the most heterosexual women alive and reading it you feel yourself slowly suffocating from the Gender of it all like a fish in a eutrophying lake. And what we actually need as a culture is F/M written by insane bisexuals violently allergic to heteronormativity
Diana Selenic Icons 💜🤍🌙🤍💜
do u know of any mlm bi terms?? i know this blog is bi wlw focused so if this question is out of line feel free to delete it!!
Hello hello! No worries, this isn’t out of line at all! Tysm for acknowledging my blog is bi wlw focused tho!
Iiiiiii don’t know any :0 AND I took a lookie see on this site AND on Reddit AND Twitter and got nothing :/
I will say tho, are you familiar that sapphic is another word for wlw and achillean is another word for mlm? So bi achillean is a quicker way to say bi mlm right there (not referring to it as an acronym; then it’s shorter to say)
there’s a gorgeous bi achillean flag I saw made by @ akemishka on Twitter!
And there’s this beautiful one by @ryanyflags!
As for any terms, hmmmm… well I have come up with one!
Khonsic! (Pronounced con-sick). It’s kinda the equivalency of Selenic, a term for bi sapphics that I’m obsessed with!
Moon Knight fans will love this lol, so Khonsu is the Egyptian god of the moon! Selenic is derived from Selene, the Greek/Roman goddess of the moon! I figured since moons are so prevalent to bisexual symbolism, keep the theme! I was uncomfortable with the idea of the term for bi men + bi nblm being derived from a goddess, so I googled “male god of the moon” and boo yah!
I stuck the term on the bi achillean flags I showed you!
And then I put some bi men + bi male aligned nonbinary/genderfluid Loki :3
Feel free to use! The icons, the term Khonsic, whatever resonated with you!
Selenic + Khonsic Solidarity
I love bi ppl so much it’s unreal
THIS MIGHT BE ONE OF MY FAVORITE POSTS OF YOURS I'VE EVER COME ACROSS MARI OMG THESE ARE ALL SO GORGEOUSLY PRETTY FUCK I LOVE YOU MUTUAL /P
@xxcalicofemmexx i know you make wallpapers like this, look! 🫶
Various Bi Flag Wallpapers ✨
Pastel Bi (same meaning as OG bi flag) 🩷💜💙
Bi4Bi (bisexual who dates fellow bi’s) 🩵🌙💜
Selenic (specific to bi wlw/bi sapphics) 💜🌙🤍
Bi dyke (selenics who reclaim dyke) 💜💛❤️
Bihet (selenics who reclaim bihet) 🩷🖤💙💜
Camellian (selenics choosing saph4saph) 🩷🌸💜
Bi femme (a bi who is femme) ❤️🩷💜
Bi butch (a bi who is butch) 🩵💛💙
Glitter Bihet Flag 🩷🖤🤍💙
Note: this is not simultaneously bisexual and het (bisexuals AREN'T het :), this term and flag is just reclaiming the insult “bihet” hurled at bi women and bi sapphic who are not “queer enough”. Flag made by @femmebis!
