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The problem with commercial F/M romance is that it's written by the most heterosexual women alive and reading it you feel yourself slowly suffocating from the Gender of it all like a fish in a eutrophying lake. And what we actually need as a culture is F/M written by insane bisexuals violently allergic to heteronormativity

Happy 10th anniversary to the bi queens korrasami!!! Here are a few bisexual korrasami icons 🩷💜💙

☆ All of these arts are official and/or are drawn by Irene Koh, the artist of the comics ☆

You can find more here one and two!

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Controversial take (that shouldn't be so controversial)

OK, this applies to average people/normies, celebs and sometimes fictional characters alike (I debate these latter ones in a different manner). You know, sometimes I suspect someone is bi, but if I find out they are/identify as gay (or even straight, but this is less frequent), I just say "Oops, OK," shrug and move on. If it's someone I like, I don't stop liking them. But when someone shows queerness and I -and others- suspect them as bisexual (or multiple gender attracted), some people get angry, offended even. They just read "heterosexual" when multiple genders attraction also include queerness; homosexual (and scoliosexual) attractions; the possibility of preference for similar genders/same sex and/or the other possibility of ending up in the queer pairing you can feel represented by. It's as if some people feel threatened or discredited by someone identifying as bi/pan/queer; or use no labels but acknowledge or at least seemingly show attractions to different genders. As a bi woman, I have had past relationships with women and I feel happy when another woman in a same-gender relationship identifies as Multiple-gender attracted. That might be why it bothers me when people who insist these women are "gay all along and lying" get mad at me for the mere pointing out at them talking about their bisexuality. And as a normie example, I have a friend who after a lifetime of dating men she ended up marrying a woman and for her, while comphet affected her in the way it affects all women, it never affected her in the way it affects lesbians. Her attractions and love for these men were genuine to her.

Also, it seems that nowadays some people in Social Media seem to get a pass to men who had girlfriends or casual sex with women as long as they identify or are perceived as gay. Granted, some gay identified men do that for a variety of reasons, but how about those who make obvious their attraction to women as well as men, and acknowledge attractions? I have also come to the conclusion that how you identify your sexuality might be a personal thing. I know people who identify as gay because they are not attracted to all genders equally; or they base it on who they prefer to have romantic relationships with. And there are people in these same situations who identify as bi/pan/queer... And that seems to offend those who identify as gay. Maybe take a closer look and see what their reasons are? Same with bisexuals being offended at someone who identify as pansexual. Or viceversa. Maybe there are particular reasons for each to identify the way they do? Sometimes I admit I struggle with that, or with Multiple gender attracted people who choose not to label themselves, but I don't let that bother me. I'd rather live and let live and listen to individual experiences. Anyways... I am just pondering as I go.

I got inspired by starpyrate sparkly frame and decided to make one for me! and if you want that extra sparkle on your bi pride, feel free to use it!

happy pride!

Recently I’ve been thinking about different components of sexual orientation, and how it is effectively formed of both internal identity and external behaviour. It’s interesting that, without a detailed conversation with other individuals, we can only assume their orientation and identity on the basis of their external behaviour, which is all that is visible to us.

For example, if someone is in a long term, committed, monogamous relationship with a member of the opposite sex, they are assumed to be straight, and their behaviour is interpreted as representative of heterosexuality. But they might be bisexual. If someone is in a long term, committed, monogamous relationship with a member of the same sex, they are assumed to be gay/lesbian, and their behaviour is interpreted as representative of homosexuality. But they might be bisexual.

In this context, what external behaviour could someone exhibit that would lead to the assumption they were bisexual, and therefore that their behaviour is representative of bisexuality? They’d have to be engaging with the same sex and the opposite sex more or less simultaneously in order not to be assumed to be straight or gay/lesbian. How might that work?

They could be having regular sex with multiple people of both sexes (bisexuals are promiscuous, bisexuals are easy, bisexuals are sluts). They could be having multiple concurrent and short term relationships with people of both sexes (bisexuals can’t commit, bisexuals will leave you for a member of the other sex). They could be having sex with people of both sexes at the same time (bisexuals are kinky, bisexuals have group sex, bisexuals want to have threesomes all the time). They could have a committed relationship with a member of one sex, and affairs with members of the other sex (bisexuals CHEAT). They could be non-monogamous and having various relationships with members of both sexes (bisexuals can’t be satisfied with just one person).

So. In order for other people to recognise you as a bisexual person, you have to be engaging in some form of stigmatised and nonconforming sexual activity, all of which just happen to be typical stereotypes about bisexuality. The only way to be perceived as a bisexual person is to conform with bisexual stereotypes. A bisexual person who doesn’t conform to a single bisexual stereotype cannot be perceived as a bisexual person, and therefore cannot disprove or undermine those stereotypes in the mind of the person perceiving them. Because if they don’t conform to a single bisexual stereotype, they are perceived as heterosexual/homosexual, and their nice, conforming, virtuous behaviour is ascribed to that perceived monosexual identity. Even if they had previously exhibited bisexual behaviour (bisexuality is just a phase, they’ll eventually pick a side).

Alternatively, they could verbally assert their identity regularly enough to offset the assumptions others make on the basis of their behaviour (bisexuals are self-obsessed).

There is no way of being consistently perceived as a bisexual person, in the current landscape, without reinforcing bisexual stereotypes in the minds of those perceiving you, because if you don’t align with and reinforce those stereotypes you are unperceivable as a bisexual person.

Photos not mine, from Pinterest, except the handholding, Love is Love, and hearts photos are all made by me, and the filtering of all images are done by me

Lupin Field

Lake Tekapo, New Zealand

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The Mermaid x Pirate bisexual couple! <3