Aromanticism - Blog Posts
seeing my friends get into relationships/situationships around me is so weird like, what do you mean you actually want all that stuff?? werent we talking about cool books a while back and how we will live in a mansion together as besties forever together?? WHAT DO YOU MEAN THERES A MAN IN THE EQUATION??
WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU HAVE A LOVE OF LIFE-
And in a more serious vein, when that happens- you simply stop being the first priority. For allo people, their relationship will always be that. the top priority. And that. that my friends, is the only part about being aromantic I always hate. "Everyones falling in love and im just falling behind."
As more and more time passes, I feel more and more attached to the few representations in media we have. Being on a-spec is awesome in its own way, but I only wish if I could see more of it in media. Not because I wanna feel seen. But because I wanna see what future might look like for someone on a-spec who doesn't want any sort of partnership. I saw some posts earlier talking about how a "single" life is extremely hard to sustain in current economy and that's extremely true. I also remember my friend saying "you can always adopt kids! You need someone to look after you in old age!" And... she was somewhat right, in a way. I don't want kids, but... what exactly is my future going to be like? Who is going to be there for me in a world where romantic relationships are prioritized before anything else? Its just all very very... in dark. There is no movie or book to look at and say "hey! Thats the kind of life I want!" Because every single media shows a version of life that isn't for me. I talk to my friends about wanting to live as a "single queer cat lady" but... realistically, how sustainable and possible is that?