These-shouldnt-be-hot-takes - Discourse Blog

I mean I know a certain level of projection on fictional characters and situations is inevitable and even healthy, but sometimes you got to step back into the real world to remind yourself that Character X is not your shitty parent/abusive ex/asshole boss/bully from high school, and that people who like Character X are not personally victimizing you.

This is not a hill I’m willing to die on, I’ll hear other takes, but imo the term ‘straight-passing relationship’ is not intended to refer to a relationship with a cis man and a cis woman who are both queer. Straight-passing relationship to me refers to couples like, one or both is nonbinary, gender-fluid, closeted trans and only out to their partner etc. Or a sapphic couple with a butch that often passes as a man or a gnc couple that looks like they might be a cis man and woman but actually aren’t.

Seeing a bisexual man and a bisexual woman call their relationship straight-passing feels wrong to me. They themselves might straight-passing, but there’s a difference between an individual person being straight passing and a relationship being straight passing. Their relationship is actually, by social standards, straight, even though the people in it are not. I’m not invalidating queer people in opposite gender relationships, they are still always queer no matter who they date, but calling a relationship between a cis man and woman queer feels wrong to me.

there’s this certain type of person who learns a bunch of leftist “slogans” but doesn’t bother to actually understand them or learn the context around them so they just blindly apply the statement to a bunch of stuff it doesn’t apply to

Performative feminism is a most annoying aspect of our times.

Mfs will be like “Omg I hate radfems and terfs! They’re awful! Radfeminsim and Terf ideology is bad!!!” And then turn around and be like “All men are evil and bad and all women are pure and good! But it’s okay this time because I’m including trans people!!!!”

There are a fair few faux feminist statements I hate, but “We are the daughters of the witches you couldn’t burn” is one of them.

Such a great, revealing peek into the transmisogynist’s mindset

just a psa

if ur a stud or a butch you don't HAVE to be able to pick up your girlfriend. It's not a requirement. Nor is it a competition.

if you can and you want to be able to lift your gf then that's perfectly fine.

but for those who can't or just don't work out or just choose not to, that's fine too.

being strong isn't a requirement for being a masculine lesbian.

sure it's impressive, hot even, but again it's not a big deal to most. Hell most straight women don't necessarily expect their men to be strong or able to lift them.

making this statement bc, on tik tok, a stud went viral for not being able to lift up her girlfriend (who looked to be about 100-120lbs) and she had to have a man do it for her.

and there is a big post going around saying "why women need men"

women don't need men.

most men are not even strong either and most women even with minimal athletic capability can lift a woman of this size. and I'm glad that there are many lesbians on TikTok there to prove it.

but again, don't feel bad if you can't do it either. 🤍