This Is Not A Hill I’m Willing To Die On, I’ll Hear Other Takes, But Imo The Term ‘straight-passing

This is not a hill I’m willing to die on, I’ll hear other takes, but imo the term ‘straight-passing relationship’ is not intended to refer to a relationship with a cis man and a cis woman who are both queer. Straight-passing relationship to me refers to couples like, one or both is nonbinary, gender-fluid, closeted trans and only out to their partner etc. Or a sapphic couple with a butch that often passes as a man or a gnc couple that looks like they might be a cis man and woman but actually aren’t.

Seeing a bisexual man and a bisexual woman call their relationship straight-passing feels wrong to me. They themselves might straight-passing, but there’s a difference between an individual person being straight passing and a relationship being straight passing. Their relationship is actually, by social standards, straight, even though the people in it are not. I’m not invalidating queer people in opposite gender relationships, they are still always queer no matter who they date, but calling a relationship between a cis man and woman queer feels wrong to me.

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“MAiD was administered” means these people were killed. That’s the terminology they use. They don’t even refer to it as euthanasia because it has to be covered in a less oblique term so the people that allow this to happen and carry it out can delude themselves into feeing a little bit better.

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the phrases "same-day and next-day MAiD" "influence of caregiver burnout" (after preferred request for hospice and palliative care were denied) … truly some of the most evil statements imaginable


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Anti-Trans Activist Nicola Murray Found Guilty of Child Abuse
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Nicola Murray who benefited monetarily from Scotland's "Let Women Speak" was found guilty of child abuse and listed as a child predator.

For anyone who needs to hear it, being racist does not require racist intentions. "They can't be racist because they just didn't know any better!" just... isn't how it works.

The whole race change/ethnicity change thing going on in subliminal/reality shifting/manifestation communities is racist, because it's about fetishizing and appropriating from another (often marginalized) group.

Obviously, don't dogpile children involved in this with hate, because kids generally lack the context to understand how and why these things are a problem. That said - kids do need to be educated about racism in a calm and compassionate manner, because they are still absolutely capable of perpetuating it whether they mean to or not.

DON'T PUT YOUR TRIGGERS AND/OR PHOBIAS IN YOUR WEBSITES/PINNED POSTS/BIOS/ETC. FOR EVERYONE ON THE INTERNET TO SEE. ONLY TRUSTED PEOPLE SHOULD KNOW THAT INFORMATION, NOT THE WHOLE INTERNET. YOU WILL GET HURT!!! MEAN PEOPLE WILL USE IT AGAINST YOU!!!

DON'T PUT YOUR TRIGGERS AND/OR PHOBIAS IN YOUR WEBSITES/PINNED POSTS/BIOS/ETC. FOR EVERYONE ON THE INTERNET

Unfollow this account if you're transautistic, transadhd, any of that bullshit. (Not talking about people who're trans and autistic, talking about transid people)

"But it's how I-" No.

"You can't control how I-" No.

You are neurotypical, calling yourself an identity that is for neurodivergent people. That's fine, except when neurodivergent people tell you to stop. Then you should stop. You have no argument for not stopping.

"But self-diagnosis-" No.

There's a difference between self-diagnosing and being transautistic.

Transautistic is saying "I'm not autistic, but I feel like I should have autism, and now I'm one of you!" And then I will respond by calling you ableist and punching you in the face.

Self-diagnosing is saying "Hey. I'm not diagnosed, but if I went to a good doctor, I think they would diagnose me with autism." And then I go "Oh, what are your symptoms? I have autism, I can help."

If you think you have autism, just self diagnose.

If you want to have autism, fuck off.

this speaking as a cis person. Nothing brings me more joy seeing people find gender euphoria in becoming a mediocre representation of humanity. And I mean that so genuinely. Local boy finds joy and fulfillment wearing a cargo shorts and t-shirt combo. Local girl has transitioned to look like someone's disheveled aunt, has never been happier. Local person experiences gender euphoria rocking the world's worst bowl-cut. Without a scap of irony, this shit makes me see the wonder and whimsy in just, being a human. An average, person going through their day-to-day, is a wondrous thing? That's amazing. And heteronormativity has stripped these experiences of their joy. Like you're right, wearing a basic girlypop skirt should make my heart sing. Why not? Why are these expressions lesser because they're normal? All this to say. Shoutout to all the basic bitches out there. Yes that polo shirt does make you look like a divorced golfer dad. Yes, that too is kind of a slay, now that I think of it.

i've been on this site for 10 fucking years and the fact that black people and trans women are systematically chased out and have been chased out one by one from this website is really fucking gross. I hate this website. Racist fucking website.

I mean I know a certain level of projection on fictional characters and situations is inevitable and even healthy, but sometimes you got to step back into the real world to remind yourself that Character X is not your shitty parent/abusive ex/asshole boss/bully from high school, and that people who like Character X are not personally victimizing you.

Performative Feminism Is A Most Annoying Aspect Of Our Times.
Performative Feminism Is A Most Annoying Aspect Of Our Times.
Performative Feminism Is A Most Annoying Aspect Of Our Times.

Performative feminism is a most annoying aspect of our times.

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