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bpd culture is the ironic fact that all of your splits are due to misunderstandings which are resolved in the end yet your brain still manages to convince you that "yeah this is a real one. they hate you and you're annoying" every single time

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BPD culture is easily starting to hate someone i thought i liked only because they raised their voice at me or made a joke that was a little too mean and now i want them dead

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bpd question, what exactly is splitting? i hear abt it a lot and i think i might have bpd but i can’t figure out what it is lmao

Splitting is an extreme change in thinking, and this can go both positive and negative (or black and white)

Splitting white is when you idealize and idolize someone, thinking they're the best person ever and nobody can ever compare to them, that they have no flaws, and that they'd never hurt you in any way, intentionally or unintentionally. That they always love you. They make you feel the happiest you've ever been.

Splitting black is the opposite of that. Devaluing someone, thinking that they're the worst person ever or that they've always hurt you. That they're so flawed beyond repair. That they never really loved you. Wanting to insult them and being so angry at them. Or being so distraught and depressed at the thought of them, feeling betrayed almost. Just a complete contrast to the highs you'd get from them.

You may notice it's similar to black and white thinking, but b&w thinking is in a general context, while splitting is specific to a person or group of people.

Hope that helps some!

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nd culture is feeling like everyone hates you and not understanding why

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BPD (+ NPD) is being upset when no one else replies to you on (website) even though your fp will LITERALLY smother her selfish partner (literally selfish not just "grr bpd") with attention when they ask for it.

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Bpd culture is shutting yourself down again because you relearned that whenever you speak up for yourself and defend yourself and explain your bpd symptoms everyone always finds a way turn it into you being the asshole so you regress back to being a palatable opinionless doormat because at least your friends didn't wanna leave you then

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the DSM-5 defines narcissism as being characterized in part by a "need for admiration." while this is true for most of us, i think it's a bit of an oversimplification to identify every narcissist's supply needs as just "admiration."

many narcissists just want acknowledgement. supply may not just mean praise and reverence, but also simple care. not a need to be worshiped and treated as godlike, but to be spoken to and treated as an important human being.

others may not just get supply from positive attention, but also negative attention. i've heard others talk about reveling in the thought of being the subject of someone else's resentment or hatred, just because it makes them an important figure in their life.

some narcissists seek out any attention, regardless of whether it contributes to an idolizing reputation; narcissists who become self-destructive because they know it'll get people's attention.

i think most narcissists appreciate admiration, but narcissistic supply isn't just that. what all narcissists have in common is that we need more attention than most people, be it because we were deprived of it when we needed it most or because we never learned how to live without it.

regardless, none of us really have the innate ability to feel important and appreciated unless we're given as much attention we can get.

"i had straight As in high school i don't understand why college is so hard" get tested for adhd. if you were tested as a kid and they didn't diagnose you it was cause your grades were good then but you've since lost the routine and structure in hs that kept you on top of everything so go get retested. go get tested for adhd. go

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