what do you do with the 3d?
let's clear the floor. let's slit it open tile by tile. let's sweep the shards into our palms and try again. let me rip the carpet up while we're at it, dig my hands into the marrow of the matter and ask, what are we doing with the 3d, really. are we making it our girl friday or our ghost. are we ignoring the curtain or stepping through it. the question is, do you even recognise what you're looking at.
but let's step back. what is the 3d, anyway. physical reality. consensus hallucination. not sacred, not sinful. not a riddle to be solved nor a cage to be broken. just a card in the deck, drawn with shaky hands. the one everyone agrees to pretend is real. you can treat it like an omen, if you want. or a person you absolutely abhor. but don't mistake it for the author. it's only ever the copy, the imprint, or the last known address of a belief. yesterday's ink on today's page, and even that can smudge.
because everyone has an answer and most of them feel like used tissues. soggy with someone else's satori. should we ignore the 3d. befriend it. spit at its feet like it called us boring. the answers all sound like someone else's language. someone else's idea of what devotion is. someone else's diagram of control. and most of them are at war with nuance.
the 3d is your echo. it's a feedback loop, a dog who learnt the tricks you taught it. it moves like you do. it learns what you reward. it listens to what you repeat. it's not speaking, it's mouthing back. and yes, it has weight. like wet fabric or a hospital corridor. it has textures. grit. gravity. but weight is not truth. it's just density. what you believe has mass. not because it's real, but because you've given it rehearsal time, memorised the script, built sets around it, fed it from your own bowl.
so here's what the 3d is: a tarot card. upright or reversed, depending on the day. never the deck itself, never the hand that shuffles. it's a reading, not a sentence. a reflection, not a law. its power is borrowed. it's never permanent. it's never personal. it is what you thought yesterday, blinking back at you in today's light. you don't have to ignore it. you don't have to kneel at its altar, either. the 3d can be your chorus girl or your case study. it doesn't mind. it has no ego. it doesn't need to win. it just needs something to reflect. and if you change your face, it will too.
treat it how you want. name it. reframe it. pin it to the wall or forget it in a drawer. pet it like a cat or argue with it like a brother. none of it matters. what matters is remembering that it follows you. it always does. not because it loves you. because it has no other choice.
just remember: the card is not the future. it's a translation. and all translations are subject to error, to bias, to mood. the 3d isn't fact. it's rendering. if you want a different reading, shuffle again.
it's a ghost. and it only haunts what you've already abandoned.
ughhh i wanna have a mini skirt, platform flip flops, coconut body mist, pigtails, gold anklet, glitter tattoos, daisy dukes, french tips, tan lines, body glitter, fruity drinks, key west kitten summer🐬🫧—but realistically, it will probably be more like a teen idle summer iykyk
Do you want to change your appearance? Your voice, energy, beauty, and entire perception of yourself?
You wake up one morning...and
You have the body you feel is yours.
The voice you love.
The skin that glows.
The energy that conquers.
➥You can do it. But not by changing your body. By changing who you are inside when you look at it.
➥The truth they don't tell you: The body you see now is not real. It's just a form held by your attention, your "I am this way." As long as you observe it as true → you confirm it. Even if you hate it. Even if you want to change it.
🍒How to break free:🍒
➥Stop trying to improve. Don't say "I'm becoming beautiful." Say: "I'm stunning. It's obvious." And live like that.
➥Stop reacting to what you see. The mirror, photos, your voice? They're no longer "you." They're just echoes of the old version you're leaving behind.
Treat your new body as already yours. Move like it's already yours. Breathe like it's already yours. Don't wait to see it. Just be. Let go of all struggle. If you're still thinking "but why hasn't it changed yet?" → you're still stuck in the version that's waiting. Stop it. Don't give it any more attention. No explanations. No justifications.
Thoughts don't manifest. It's the state you think from that creates. "I have the perfect body" said by someone who still feels insecure = doesn't work. But said by someone who no longer doubts, who already lives like it's true = BOOM. Reality bends.
Your reality is just a reflection of your perception, so change your perspective and your life will change.
Kisses kisses beauties ♡
Gossip Girl 2.06 | "New Haven Can Wait"
(I don’t own these photos!)
“Most importantly, you must always have faith in yourself.” - Elle Woods
What does being embarrassed feel like? Well, our first feelings are always insecurity and to overthink. We worry about what others think of us. We worry about getting judged, to even overthinking what we said. I promise you that these people are too focused on their own life. They could even be just like you and overthinking what they said or did.
Why do we get embarrassed? A big part of our population are most likely people pleasers. We all care about what someone thinks about us. Whether it’s your parents, relatives, friends, bf/gf, etc. We also get judged a lot, from the day we came into this life. It’s hard to go from a pure and innocent child to a child scared of being judged. In conclusion, being scared of getting judged is why we get so embarrassed.
The mindset! In order to truly realize being embarrassed is an illusion, you have to walk with this thought. It has to become a life motto, not just that but a rule for yourself. You have to become committed and make sure you’re aware of this. If you get embarrassed and forget it’s an illusion, brush it off.
Validating yourself! One of the main reasons why we get embarrassed or afraid of being judged is, because we love praise. Praise from others that is, so start praising yourself. When you see yourself in the mirror, compliment yourself. Tell yourself the things you want to hear so badly from.
Love you dolls! Thank you dolls for reading 😘
* i’ve made posts about some beginner pilates routines in the past, but i keep getting asks so i thought i would just make a masterlist for you guys!
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10 minute full body hourglass pilates by lidia mera
10 minute full body hourglass pilates by lidia mera
10 minute everyday full body hourglass pilates by lidia mera
10 minute waist pilates by shirlyn kim
10 minute everyday hourglass pilates by lidia mera
15 minute full body pilates by lidia mera
15 minute pilates for beginners by flow with mira
15 minute beginner pilates for weight loss by rachel’s fit pilates
20 minute gentle beginner pilates by flow with mira
20 minute express pilates workout by move with nicole
20 minute full body pilates by isawelly
20 minute hourglass full body pilates by lidia mera
25 minute full body beginner pilates by move with nicole
30 minute full body workout by move with nicole
30 minute pilates for beginners by move with nicole
30 minute pilates and stretch by livaligned pilates
30 minute full body hourglass pilates by lidia mera
30 minute gentle pilates flow by move with nicole
30 minute full body workout by move with nicole
30 minute pilates for beginners by move with nicole
35 minute gentle pilates by move with nicole
35 minute beginner pilates by move with nicole
you know i had to include the ultimate form of social media. pinterest is one of the only truly peaceful social media apps out there and focuses on sharing photos to your themed boards. this app is everything if you’re into making vision boards, moodboards, beauty, productivity, and really anything else. there’s something there for everyone!
finch
this is a wonderful self-care app, in which you take care of a bird while taking care of yourself! this is my new favorite app. i use the free version and it is adorable. the app asks you some questions about your goals and how you feel about self care, and gives you some daily goals based on your answers, but you can delete and add goals of your own. the more you log in and track your goals, the more adventures your bird can go on and the more they grow. i recommend this app to absolutely everyone and i will never shut up about it.
gymshark training
this is a free training app including many different types and styles of workouts. you can search for workouts based on duration, equipment used, the targeted muscle, and so on. you can also add workouts and plans of your own and track your progress.
i am sober
this is my favorite app for if you have something you want to quit. this isn’t just for substances or alcohol, but can also be used for quitting sugar, skin picking, caffeine, fast food, and so many other things. you can track your progress, review your days, make pledges, and connect with others who are struggling with the same thing you are. you are also given motivational quotes and reminders when you log into the app. there is an option for a subscription, but i use the free version and have had no problems with it at all.
study bunny: focus timer
an adorable focus timer where you gain coins with every goal/time you accomplish something with your focus timer and you can spend your coins on cute little accessories for your bunny! the only real issue with this app is that the ads are kind of crazy, and it’s $15 a month to go ad-free.
flora - green focus
this app includes a pomodoro timer and plants a tree in a rural community based on how often you stay focused using the timer on the app. the app does not plant a tree unless you opt for their subscription, which is $2 per year and allows you to plant one tree for 120 hours of focused time. you can also plant a tree every 24 hours with the $10 plan.
focus to-do: focus timer&tasks
this app combines a pomodoro timer with a daily to-do list. the app is free to use, but includes additional features for those with a subscription, which is $3 for every three months or $9 for a lifetime membership.
balance: meditation & sleep
a great app that includes nightly reviews, meditations, and sleep sounds. this app has great reviews, but it’s worth noting that it’s not completely free. it includes a trial, after which is $12 per month, or $70 per year.
insight timer - meditate & sleep
just as it sounds, this is another great app for meditations, ambient sounds for sleep, and progress tracking. there are tons of free things included in the app, but if you want to unlock everything, the premium plan is $10 per month or $60 per year.
structured - daily planner
an app with great reviews intended to help organize your daily tasks into achievable goals and track your progress. the app has basic features for free, but also includes a premium subscription if you want to unlock all the features.
routineflow: guided routines
this app caters to those who have difficulties staying focused and maintaining a set routine by guiding your routine for you and managing your progress. the app gives you one routine for free, but if you want another, you would need to pay for the $30 annual subscription.
how we feel
a wonderful free journaling app developed by therapists and scientists for logging your emotions, talking to other users, and tracking your mood patterns.
gentler streak fitness tracker
if you’re tired of the constant work and grind mentality, this may be the app for you. this app takes a gentler approach to fitness by tracking exercise, giving encouragement, and notifying you if you are overworking yourself. the app itself is free, but certain features require a subscription, which is $8 per month or $50 per year.
glo | yoga and meditation app
glo is a highly rated app for yoga, pilates, and meditation. unlike most of the other apps listed, you can’t really access much on glo for free. to access the full courses, they offer two plans: $30 per month or $245 per year.
waterllama
another adorable app that lets you track your water intake with a cute llama! super motivating and is free for basic features. if you want to unlock all features, the subscription is $7 per year.
mindllama
made by the same people as waterllama, this app allows you to practice and track your meditation and breathwork practice with a cute llama! like waterllama, the app is free, but some features require a subscription, which varies depending on whether you want the premium plan, the anxiety relief plan, or the sleep focused plan.
daily bean - simplest journal
another super cute app that helps you track your days and moods. the app itself is free, but a premium plan is also offered, which is $20 per year.
schmoody: mood & habit tracker
this app aims to help you through depression, anxiety, and/or adhd by helping you track your habits, talk to other users, and give you the resources to get you back on track. the free version includes the “essentials” to support mental health and well-being, but they also offer a premium version, which unlocks more resources and personalized options. the subscription is $15 per month, $60 per year, or $100 for a lifetime membership.
meditation timer - zenitizer
this is a meditation timer that focuses on simplicity and organization while tracking your meditation practice. a free version is available with a limited amount of content, but a premium version is also offered, which is $3 per month, $20 per year, or a $50 one-time payment.
mineral - gratitude journal
this is a free journaling app that is secure in the fact that you have to use face id in order to access your journal. this app is definitely more simple, but effective nonetheless.
focus keeper: productive timer
this app is a popular pomodoro-style timer app. i’ve heard that this app works wonders for many people with adhd. the app is free, but includes additional content and features for those with a subscription.
Reading. Reading. Reading. Being well-read is so valuable!! Get cosy, pick up a Jane Austen, Emily Brontë, or maybe a Charles Dickens and spend some of your free time indulging in literature. <3
Soft-spoken and kind expressions. No one likes being around rude people. Being a bitch doesn’t make you look confident. Instead, be kind, make conversation, pay attention, engage, etc… trust me.
Dainty jewellery. Find some high-quality signature pieces.
Think before you speak. Take a moment to reflect on your thoughts so you can speak confidently and with intent without stumbling over your words!! <3
Quality over quantity. Stop buying large amounts of cheap clothing; instead, save up and invest in higher-quality pieces that will actually last you. :)
Practice your handwriting. Having pretty and neat handwriting is a lovely little detail; extra points if you write in cursive. ;)
Drop the tiktok slag. “sticking out your gyat for the rizzler”… just stop, please.
Keep to yourself. Small circle, no bragging, gossips only with the closest, keep your plans to yourself.
Watch your posture. Straighten that back, honey. I see you. :))
Manicured nails. I do mine every two weeks. Almond-shaped, always dark red. <3
As always, Please feel free to add your own suggestions and tips in the comments!! ♡ ₊ ⊹
✩‧₊*:・love ya ・:*₊‧✩
(I’m looking for something prettier to name this so if u have ideas spill!!)
Stop trying to impress people you don’t even like
Stop caring about being judged by the most boring, lame human beings ever (there’s 8 billion people on earth)
It’s immature to keep hating on yourself or others. Like what’s the point? It’s just making u miserable
Always give kindness and love.
It’s the small choices and actions you take everyday that make huge differences
Try to get into the flow state more
Get a diary and write all ur girly nonsense in it
Stop wondering if you’re good enough for others and start wondering if they’re good enough for you
You shouldn’t assume someone doesn’t like you unless they’ve directly told you.
Learn to observe and not absorb
Remember you don’t need to accomplish something in one sitting- whether it’s learning the guitar, crocheting, let yourself take time.
Even if you think ur life is boring and there’s nothing exciting abt it: would u rather mope and sulk or get unreasonably happy about the small mini things?
Life is 20% what happens to you and 80% how you react to it.
Be your own best friend! Push yourself on, cheer for yourself, be there when you cry.
Consciousness if everything.
You may be more inclined to reach your goals if you know someone else is depending on them.
If you don’t want to dwell on things, have things that get ur mind of it. Be busy.
drink water
this is an absolute game-changer ! bonus if its warm or room temperature, really gets the metabolism going as well as soothes your throat !!
make your bed
this makes my room look MUCH neater, and gives me peace of mind + incentive not to get back under the covers and doze off again TT
meditation
another thing that calms me down greatly and gets me focused and set for the day, i really recommend lavendaire, her meditations are top-tier and she has several lengths to pick from
morning yoga
debloat yoga or stretching is a must for me, it helps aid my digestion as well as reduce bloating in the morning.
exercise
i like to do either shirlyn kim, april han, chloe ting or momomi workouts in the morning ending with a hinafit's full body stretch that's twenty minutes long. i use chloe ting's workouts as cardio mostly and then a set of targeted hiit from momomi and relaxing pilates from shirlyn kim and april han.
i am also trying to go on walks in the morning as well TT
skincare + dental care
my skincare routine in the morning is cleanser + toner + hydrogel + sunscreen + matte sunstick + lip balm and my dental care routine is herbal toothpaste + fluoride toothpaste + mouthwash. i wash my hands between and before/after steps.
shower routine
i use a pumice stone and sugar scrub in the shower to exfoliate along w baby soap and shower gel to clean up. i apply three layers of moisturizer + coconut oil on getting out !!
reading
in the mornings, i like to either annotate classics or read my weekly self-help book or just read educational nonfiction and take notes in my commonplace journal about them.
journalling
i fill out five affirmations, five things i'm grateful for as well as my intentions for the day. i also write down what would make my day great, as well as habits to focus on (at least three)
planning
i plan w/ my planners, notebook and wall calendar spread as well as notion and a habit app, as well as google sheets.
that wraps up this post, and here is the printable checklist spanning four days
a guide to looking effortlessly perfect
"You’ve got the false narrative of a girl who spends 30 seconds on her appearance, when, in fact, you probably spent hours.”
1. basic hygiene:
having clean teeth and good breath
smelling good 24/7. i highly recommend finding a signature scent as a scent is associated with memory, id suggest something sweet yet not too overpowering like vanilla.
being clean in general. regularly shaving and exfoliating your skin to get rid of bodily hair and dirt that accumulates on your skin to make your skin glow.
clean nails. having clean and maintained nails (with a simple design if you wish) looks better than having acrylics that are wayyy too long and appear tacky.
2. hair :
having smooth healthy hair looks much better than dry and damaged hair. take care of your hair by finding the best products for your natural hair. get rid of your split ends as they make the hair appear really damaged.
in my opinion, loose waves look the most effortless yet pretty. but don’t ruin your natural hair by applying too much heat! you can try heatless styling methods to achieve this look.
3. diet and exercise :
being toned is the way to go to fit this aesthetic
avoid oily foods or sugary foods that damage your skin. don’t completely get rid of these as we all have our cravings, but try your best to avoid it
find a workout plan that works best for you, keeps you healthy but doesn’t burn you out! moreover exercise releases endorphins that improve your mood.
4. makeup and skin care :
natural makeup on clear skin fits this effortless aesthetic perfectly!
take care of your skin by finding a routine that fits you the best, consult with a dermatologist for the best results.
having smooth, blended makeup creates an illusion that you aren’t wearing any at all! this appears much effortless than a full face. also try to avoid those really huge false lashes that make you look tacky.
maintain your eyebrows and find a shape that fits you best!
5. outfits :
having a signature style which suits your body type is essential. experiment until you can find what suits you best! you can use a body analysis app for this.
wearing outfits you’re confident in, hot but not too revealing goes a long way. confidence is key. wearing overly revealing clothing might seem like one is trying too hard, but if you can carry it with confidence then that’s great!
jewellery : having dainty, signature pieces is key! find out which suits you better (gold or silver) through an ai analysis and invest in timeless pieces. personally, i think minimalistic pieces such as solitaires, simple pendants, classic hoops etc. look much more effortless.
6. personality :
don’t be too judgemental towards anyone as you don’t know what they’re going through and this makes you seem unapproachable
don’t talk too much or overshare! this creates a mysterious aura which draws people to you more
confidence is key! posture is very important too, carry yourself with confidence and walk with your head held up high.
7. examples and references :
serena van der woodsen (gossip girl)
mia thermopolis (the princess diaries)
cher (clueless)
elle woods (legally blonde)
rory gilmore (gilmore girls)
robin scherbatsky (how i met your mother)
gigi hadid
• Remind yourself that you can literally just change whatever you want about yourself
• Make a plan: How can I achieve this? Which steps should I make? How long does it take to achieve this?
• Ask yourself why you want to change your personality: Are you doing it for career opportunities? Do you seek validation in others?
• Remind yourself that you can literally change any thoughts, feeling and emotion. You can decide to not be angry or sad anymore. You can decide to not overthink anymore.
• Inner mind first: You can change your style, makeup or hair all you want, but if you don't work on your triggers, trauma or insecurities, you will still be the same person. Work on your mind first, then the rest will follow.
From Morning Routine to Nighttime Rituals | IT GIRL DIARIES
Becoming an IT Girl means embracing a lifestyle that balances beauty, productivity, and mindfulness. Let's take a look in the daily life of your ideal IT Girl...
Morning: Energizing Start 🎀
The IT Girl starts her day early, around 6 AM, with a refreshing glass of hot lemon water to detox and hydrate. She follows this with a quick workout, like indoor cycling or yoga, to get her blood flowing and boost her energy for the day ahead. After her workout, she treats herself to a skincare routine with gentle cleansers, serums, and sunscreen, focusing on achieving that effortless glow.
For breakfast, she enjoys a nutritious green juice, packed with spinach, kale, and ginger, which supports her clear skin and nourishes her body from within. She also takes a few moments for mindfulness practice, like journaling or meditation, to set positive intentions for the day.
Mid-Morning: Work Mode 🎀
By 9 AM, she’s in full productivity mode. To stay organized, she uses a to-do list or productivity app to break her day into manageable tasks. Whether she’s running a business, working on creative projects, or attending meetings, she prioritizes efficiency while taking short breaks to prevent burnout.
Lunch: Balanced and Light 🎀
For lunch, the IT Girl opts for a light, clean meal, like a salad with lean protein or healthy fats. She avoids processed foods and sugars, sticking to a nutrient-rich diet that keeps her feeling energized. During her break, she might catch up on reading or listen to a podcast that aligns with her personal growth goals.
Afternoon: Social and Active 🎀
In the afternoon, she may meet with friends, colleagues, or network with like-minded individuals. Socializing is a key part of her lifestyle, but she also remains selective about the company she keeps, ensuring her circle is supportive and inspiring.
To stay active, she might sneak in a quick walk or stretch, especially if she’s been working at a desk. Physical movement is important, even during a busy day, to maintain that IT Girl energy.
Evening: Wind Down in Style 🎀
As the day winds down, the IT Girl prepares for a relaxing evening. After finishing her tasks, she switches to self-care mode with an evening skincare routine, focusing on cleansing, moisturizing, and perhaps a face mask. She also enjoys a warm bath or some light stretching to soothe her body.
For dinner, she sticks to whole, unprocessed foods, such as grilled vegetables and lean proteins. The evening is her time to unwind, reflect, and recharge for the next day. She might do some light reading, indulge in a creative hobby, or spend time with loved ones.
Nighttime: Sleep Rituals 🎀
By 10 PM, it’s time for her nighttime rituals. The IT Girl knows the importance of quality sleep for her beauty and productivity. She turns off screens at least an hour before bed and enjoys a cup of herbal tea. Finally, she practices gratitude journaling to reflect on her day, setting a positive tone for the next morning.
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xoxo, @colebabey888
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I literally cannot oversell this at this point. I mean it's just that easy. All you have to do is accept that it is already yours rn. LIKE RN. I mean that's it. And it's that simple. And there isn't any catch to it. This isn't an eye for an eye kind of a thing.
Accepting that you have something when you don't (in the 3d) can seem daunting at first but trust me it isn't. Everything in your life till now are a result of your assumptions in the past. You have never not been creating your life. This wasn't something you just started when you first learned about loass, nope. You've been doing this since the minute you started thinking consciously. Your thoughts have been shaped by your parents, family, society and other surroundings which is why every one of us lead such different lives. Now you may not have had control over which family/circumstances you were born into but you have total and complete control over changing each and every thing about it now. It's as simple as that.
It's complicated only if you say it is. It will become complicated only if you assume so. Every single time you tell me how it's not working for you why don't you fucking understand that you're the reason why it isn't working for you??! Why you're the only one making it complicated!!!! Every single time you dwell on your so called circumstances, you're the one reaffirming it. Telling yourself how this is true in your reality when you could be completely rejecting it as nonsense and instead choose to accept what you want as true in your life.
There is no shortcut to this and there is no magical formula to this as well. And it couldn't be more easier. You either have it or you don't. YOU DECIDE.
Love, SHRADS ❤️
ughhh dummy you CAN manifest!! you've already GOTTEN results!! maybe they're a little different than what you expected, it's okay, you're still learning, but it WAS that easy!
when you were thinking "i wanna drink a soda rn!" and some appeared in the fridge for you a few days later, you did that baby!!! there's no such thing as coincidences. did you forget that you're pure consciousness? you Create this Reality.
i mean, look closer. it's human to want to check the 3d, factually stupid but totally human. have you considered you might have already gotten results? they might be different from what you expected for whatever reason, but like i said, there are no coincidences.
this post is dedicated to the fact that i keep accidentally manifesting soda in the fridge but not always in the right flavour
bunny's 60-day glow up challenge ❤︎
hi my loves! my birthday is right around the corner and i want to end the year strong, so i thought it would be a cute and encouraging idea to host a challenge for all of us glow-up girlies! the steps for the challenge are very simple and customizable, and they give plenty of space for low-energy days. this challenge is all about trying your best to remain consistent in your goals, not to strive for an impossible "perfection" but instead to build trust in yourself that you can show up for your beautiful self and achieve the glow up that you deserve!
steps for the challenge:
pick three habits or things you want to dedicate time to every day
write a sentence or two on why you want to focus on these habits so that you have motivation and inspiration to complete them on hard days; this could include a basic "why" or you could write out specific goals you'd like to achieve through these habits
write out three different energy level variations of the habits so you can achieve your habits even on low-energy days
optional step: write an intro post sharing your habits and goals with everyone! you can use the tag #bunny60days to connect with others doing the challenge and hype each other up with accountability and love - you can also tag me and i can cheer you on hehe! 🥰 otherwise you can simply keep track on your own using a journal or planner or whatever works best for you!
optional step: write daily (or weekly) check-in posts sharing what you accomplished on the different days of the challenge, what you'd like to improve on the next day, or just a general update on how you're feeling. remember that this is a feel-good challenge, not a shame-filled one, so be kind to yourself and use this reflection as a way to show compassion and empathy to yourself 💕 again, you can use the tag #bunny60days to track your progress and see how others are doing!
the only very important rule for this challenge:
if you fall off and don't complete every habit you've written down in a day, do not start the challenge over, just pick up from where you left off! remember, this challenge is about building self-trust and resiliency - this means that you won't let one bad day or break in a streak stop you from continuing your habits. being "strong and hardworking" doesn't mean doing everything perfectly from day one, it means picking yourself up when you fall off course and trying again even though you may feel imperfect.
why only three habits?
when we do challenges, it's so easy to want to accomplish everything all at once, from working out to sleep schedules to everything in between. however, when you eventually burn yourself out or don't complete everything on your super long list of habits, shame is bound to follow, and shame does not make healthy soil for a beautiful plant to grow. starting off with three habits with different energy levels is a good way to ease into habit building while still feeling challenging enough to be interesting.
i don't know where to begin! can you give me an example of some habits or goals?
absolutely! if you'd like an example, you can check out my own personal goals for the challenge here. i'll be participating too, so you know that you have at least one person joining you in your glow up! 🥰 there is also a blank template below for you to use for your own glow up adventure.
blank template for you:
my chosen habits:
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my goals and why's:
habit one:
habit two:
habit three:
my habit energy tiers:
habit one:
low energy:
medium energy:
high energy:
habit two:
low energy:
medium energy:
high energy:
habit three:
low energy:
medium energy:
high energy:
let's do this! bunny xoxo
Best revenge: doing and looking better
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20 NIGHT JOURNAL PROMPTS TO CLEAR YOUR MIND BEFORE BEDTIME
1. what's on my mind right now?
2. how am i feeling right now?
3. write down one word to describe my day (calm or hectic, productive or unproductive, etc.) and write a sentence about it (today was calm because i did my morning routine and that helped me stay in the present moment)
4. what am i grateful for today?
5. emotions i felt today include...
6. what did i do today to make myself proud?
7. what did i learn about myself today?
8. what is something I accomplished today, big or small, and how did it make me feel?
9. something that bothered me today was...
10. how did I handle any stress or anxiety that came up today?
11. have i done anything to make someone else happy today?
12. write one thing that made me feel loved today.
13. what do i want to take from today into tomorrow?
14. what's my word for tomorrow?
15. what would i like tomorrow to bring me?
16. if i could change one thing about my behavior today, what would it be?
17. what is a meaningful conversation I had today and why did it stand out?
18. what are my top three priorities for tomorrow?
19. what's one thing I can do to improve tomorrow based on today's experiences?
20. how do i want to feel when i wake up tomorrow morning?
lacy bras and pretty lingerie
oatmeal and HOT coffee on rainy days
layering perfumes
putting notes and annotations in books
coming up with code names for the guys that we are talking to
writing letters to my friends even though we talk daily
making playlists for every occasion but its all just Lana
starting chats with "GIRL" to signal urgency
big earrings and too many bracelets
hosting brunch and dinner at my place
shitposting on main
trying a new makeup and actually liking the result
wearing sweats and a bra as my at-home fit
seeing results when dieting and working out
boy gossip after long days of studying lmao
posting ig stories and yapping
making tumblr gifs of myself
decorating for holidays way too early
going to the store and smelling every scented candle until I find the perfect one
same for the tea section. I love tea.
being asked where my clothes are from
when I smile at old people and they smile back
the feeling of your brain being slow and numb after a good study session
staying up to talk to my girls
doing my skincare after a day of not wearing makeup
floortime
having a cold and therefore not feeling guilty for being lazy (unfortunately, I am a workaholic)
tiktok tarot readings that feed into my delusions
these are just things that I PERSONALLY love, and if you get it, were besties. <3
my insta -> @ malusokay
stop ignoring yourself. fix your posture, get a new hair cut, do your nails, take care of your skin, brush your teeth, drink water, eat foods that give you energy. get strong, stop looking sloppy. when you feel good, you do good. invest in yourself.
Why being delusional is the best solution | IT GIRL DIARIES
"being delulu is the solulu" - a pretty bitch
In today's world, being labeled delusional may often be seen as a negative insult, usually implying someone is out of touch with reality, which isn't wrong i mean.. ,but what if i told you embracing a form of delusion could actually be a powerful tool for manifesting your goals and changing your life?
Being delusional, in a positive sense, means creating a new belief or fantasy in your mind and living as if that is your reality. Over the years, I’ve realized that this type of thinking—where you treat the fantasy you create as your true reality—can lead to life-changing transformation.
View life as a game—one where you can choose who you want to be, like changing a character in a video game. I was fat and I didn't like that so, I decided to see myself as a "skinny girl" and live out that reality. I programmed my mind to believe this new identity, and my actions followed. The mind drives our actions; once I embraced my new self-image, my choices and behaviors naturally aligned with it. Eventually, I lost the weight, and that once “delusional” thought became my reality.
The key is to truly believe in the version of yourself that you want to become. By continuously reinforcing that belief, your mind will start sending signals that influence your actions to match this new identity. Whether you aspire to be wealthy, successful, or fit, the process remains the same. Create the fantasy, immerse yourself in it, and allow it to guide your actions until it becomes your truth.
So yes, being delusional is the solution. It’s about harnessing the power of your mind to reprogram your reality. By deluding yourself into the person you want to be, your actions will start molding you into that person, whether it’s the fit version of yourself, the wealthy version, or whatever else you desire. When used intentionally, delusion isn’t madness—it’s manifestation.
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• Complete a task
• Doing self care activites
• Eating some food
• Celebrating your little wins.
• Playing with a dog
• Playing with a baby
• Holding hands
• Hugging someone
• Giving someone else a compliment
• Meditating
• Running
• Be in the sun
• Walk in nature
• Swimming
• Laughing exercises
• Essential oils
• Eating dark chocolate
• Running
+ morning coffee or tea ritual: start your day with a carefully prepared cup of coffee or tea, and if you can, enjoy it slowly somewhere cosy, with a book or soft music in the background.
+ journalling ritual: whether it's morning pages or an end-of-day debrief, consider free-flow journalling to unclog your thoughts, face any problems, and deal with your emotions.
+ skincare ritual: develop a luxurious skincare routine, slowing down to pay real attention and care to your body. consider adding in lymphatic massage, too.
+ mindful cooking: allow cooking to be a meditative process, taking time to choose fresh, seasonal ingredients, explore new recipes, and enjoy the hands-on experience of being in the kitchen. set the table with care, even for simple meals, using beautiful dishes and linens.
+ midday break: decompress and take a quiet break in the middle of the day, perhaps with a short walk through a nearby park or a few minutes of journaling. pause and reflect on how you are feeling and how you want to feel for the rest of the day.
+ afternoon tea or snack: enjoy a piece of dark chocolate, some fresh fruit, delicious cheese, or a small pastry, served on a delicate tray or vintage plate, for a moment of indulgence.
+ evening wind-down: in the evening, unwind with a bath or hot shower, surrounded by soft candlelight and soothing music, followed by changing into comfortable, elegant loungewear or pyjamas. this could be a time for reading, listening to music, spending time with your partner, or enjoying a classic film.
+ home care: pay daily attention to your living space and cultivate a serene and inviting atmosphere by tidying up, clearing away clutter, arranging fresh flowers, and lighting a candle or two.
+ gratitude practice: take a few moments for reflection and gratitude, appreciating the small, beautiful moments that made your day special.
Accepting my sleep schedule. I'm a night owl; I focus at night, I'm calm at night, I'm motivated at night. For a long time, I tried to fight this since everyone always preaches getting up early, but since I started accepting my natural sleep schedule, I've been feeling a lot better and have become way more productive.
"drink more water". TEA. Tea is the secret here. I will be honest, I hate drinking water; it doesn't matter if I have a cute water bottle or a cute glass, I still hate it. TEA.
Replying quickly. I used to be one of those people who get a text message and think, "Oh, I'll reply to that later", and then just forget about it entirely. Now, I text back as soon as I see the message. This has not only improved my texting anxiety (which I cause on my own by now replying and then feeling bad) but also deepened my connection to my friends. <3
Keeping my circle small and being okay with that. Over the past months, I've had this sudden urge to expand my social circle and get to know more and more people, especially after I moved in August. However, this quickly ended in what I like to call my "social burnout". I was tired, annoyed, and overwhelmed. It took a few weeks for it to settle, but I've come to the conclusion that I would much rather have a smaller circle of people who I trust and love deeply than a huge group of friends, and that's totally okay.
Wearing what I like. Even though I live in a big city, I'd still say that my style can sometimes be a bit more extravagant than what most people wear, another point is that I'm very uncomfortable with pants so I only wear skirts, which is also considered a bit odd where I live. But over the past years, I've come to accept that and have become so sure of myself and found such comfort in my style that I now just wear whatever I like, and it makes every day a little bit nicer.
Reading and writing for pleasure. Reading books outside of my studies and spending time researching topics that simply interest me is such a great way to calm your mind. Same for writing, I always like to say that to write is to think; putting your thoughts on paper in cohesive and well-crafted sentences that you can then reread and think over again is such a liberating thing to do.
Reaching out more. fuck the whole "double texting" and "no contact" thing. If you want to speak to someone because they mean something to you, then just do it. Unless they specifically asked for space, you shouldn't feel bad about wanting to be in touch with them. Many even really appreciate it when you show that you truly care. Let's stop the nonchalant act, and instead, let's face deep emotions and true vulnerability. <3
As always, please feel free to share your own little insights and things that helped you improve comments! <3
my insta: @ malusokay
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negative self talk: tune into your inner voice and turn mean thoughts into kind ones
prioritising comfort over progress: you have to actually do the work, then enjoy your rest and comfort (with less anxiety too)
hanging around the wrong people: you are the sum of the people you spend the most time with, choose your friends carefully
never taking responsibility: tough stuff happens to everybody, focus on what you can control (you) rather than blaming outside circumstances (not talking about trauma here obviously)
expecting praise for 'being yourself': you're good enough as you are in a spiritual sense, but if you want to be excellent at something you have to actually do the work, not just expect praise and reward for just showing up
liking the aesthetic more than the work: do you want to achieve that goal or do you just like how it looks on pinterest??? make sure you derive some level of pleasure and satisfaction from the pursuit
overthinking: seriously just tell your brain to shut up. stop over intellectualising and over thinking every single thing. find your heart to guide you and save your brain power for working on your passions...
SHOW. UP. AS. HER. Not next week, not next month. Not next year. In real-time, in the present moment right now. Each time you delay your very best self in the future you’re screaming to the universe ‘I am not worthy as I am right now’. I am not worthy of investing in me, in how I look, in going to the pilates classes, in taking myself out for the nice lunch I promised, on going on the trip that’s been on my bucket-list for years. On waking up early like I promised myself. Delay, delay, delay. There will always be delays unless you DECIDE to take control. Unless you decide that the version of you in this moment IS WORTHY of the investment. Each of us has in mind this higher, elevated version. The 2.0. The upgraded you. Your job is to build habits that bridge the current you to the elevated you. What needs to change to get you over the bridge? What do you need to do? What do you need to stop doing? These are the daily questions. Do some reflections. Make a plan. Stick to it.
daily
- AM and PM skincare
- shower (cold shower for the last 3 minutes)
- moisturize !!!
- floss, mouthwash, brush teeth, clean your tounge
- walk 6-10k steps
- 7-9 hours of sleep
- take your supplements
- drink 1,5-2 liters of water
weekly
- shape eyebrows
- wash hair 2-3 times
- exfoliate your body
- face, hair, feet and hand masks
- hair oiling
- full body shave (face and body)
- change bedding
- clean your room
monthly
- deep clean your room
- everything shower
- mani and pedi
- hair trim (every 3 months)
- teeth withening
- hair glossing
- laser hair removal
annually
- dentist appointments
- doctor checkups
- clean out your closet
- set goals for yourself
♡ abao in tokyo - study with me’s & playlists
♡ advika singh - study & productivity vlogs
♡ allie c. - medical school vlogs
♡ carrot td - study with me’s
♡ celine - study with me’s
♡ deaana - medical school, study with me’s, stationary, etc.
♡ dear mimi - study vlogs
♡ dia - medical student vlogs
♡ dr. rachel southard, do - medical school & residency vlogs & talks
♡ emily feng - medical school vlogs
♡ emilystudying - dental school & study vlogs
♡ emma grace - nursing school vlogs
♡ emmalilyn - study with me’s
♡ ginny - study vlogs
♡ hyobin - medical student vlogs
♡ leighton sanders - nursing vlogs
♡ lucky penny - study with me’s
♡ lunardazes. - uni study vlogs
♡ madi’s nursing journey - nursing school & nursing vlogs
♡ mango oatmilk - study with me’s
♡ maria silva - study & hospital interning vlogs
♡ merve - study with me’s
♡ mishujo - study & productive vlogs
♡ nada - study & productivity vlogs
♡ ray hon - study with me’s
♡ sab yang - medical school & study vlogs
♡ sean study - study with me’s
♡ sierra lyn - nursing vlogs
♡ studymd - study with me’s
♡ study to success - stationary, study with me’s, study hacks, etc.
♡ tani study - study with me’s
♡ yours truly, chloe - study vlogs
♡ yulma - study with me’s
Go to bed telling yourself nice things, "I had an AMAZING day today." "I am thriving" even if in the physical reality you had the worst possible day, YOURE GONNA FLIP THE SCRIPT and tell yourself that you had the most AMAZING day,
Wake up in the morning telling yourself nice things "I am beautiful" "I am happy and healthy" "I am abundant". When you're at work/school tell yourself nice things "I am prosperous" "everything is ALWAYS working out in my favour" "whatever I want I get 10x better" "God has my back" ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS!!!
check in with your mental diet every single moment of the day. Because I can't stress this enough, THE MOMENT I stopped talking Ill about me and saying nice things to myself whenever I caught myself saying things that disapproved of my self worth, I flipped the dialogue exactly the positive of that. And I promise you, each and every single time you do this, even the littlest of "flipping your internal dialogue" will build up to your confidence.
The moment I started doing this, my hair grew thicker, my skin got clearer, my confidence got higher, people started to complement my aura, even teachers were complimenting my beauty. I caught MULTIPLE men wanting to have a chance with me ( but I'm sooo picky of who I allow into my life and I'm gonna get to that on my next post) EVERYTHING started to align FOR ME as if life was happening THROUGH ME. animals started to love me more, my cats got closer to me, birds started to live with me, I GOT SPECIAL PRIVILEGES from around me. When I say FLIP YOUR INTERNAL DIALOGUE? I'm not even kidding guys. Even my grades got up!? TRY IT!!
workout posts
🎀 30 day workout plan
🎀 “how much exercise should i be doing?”
🎀 ab & core workouts
🎀 all about mobility
🎀 all about yin yoga
🎀 barre workouts
🎀 beginner guide to pilates
🎀 beginner pilates routines
🎀 cardio and hiit pilates routines
🎀 cardio routines
🎀 christmas-themed workouts
🎀 december 2024 workout plan
🎀 february 2025 workout plan
🎀 fitness tips from adriana lima
🎀 full body workout routines
🎀 how to build your own workout routine
🎀 january 2025 workout plan
🎀 lower ab workout routines
🎀 lower body workout routines
🎀 mat workouts
🎀 mat workouts pt. 2
🎀 non-yoga stretch routines
🎀 november 2024 workout plan
🎀 pilates routines
🎀 short workouts, add-ons, and finishers
🎀 standing workout routines
🎀 stretches to get your splits
🎀 tone and flexibility workout routines
🎀 upper body workout routines
🎀 workout plan for beginners
🎀 workouts and stretches for your period
🎀 workouts and yoga for women’s health
🎀 workouts and stretches for posture
🎀 workouts and stretches you can do in bed
🎀 workout youtube channels
🎀 workout youtube channels pt. 2
🎀 yoga routines
study posts
📖 study like blair waldorf
📖 study like elle woods
📖 study methods
📖 study like paris geller
📖 ways to romanticize school
📖 ways to stay organized in school
📖 youtube channels for study motivation
bookish posts
🍵 december 2024 book journal
🍵 january 2025 book journal
🍵 november 2024 book journal
🍵 youtube channels for the book girlies
miscellaneous posts
🍸 2025 goals and plans of execution
🍸 2025 quarterly overview
🍸 a guide to blair waldorf
🍸 youtube channels to replace mindless scrolling
🍸 christmas gift ideas
🍸 cycle synching
🍸 how to build a routine
🍸 it girl spring cleaning
🍸 it girl youtube channels
🍸 it girl youtube channels pt. 2
🍸 meditations and tips for anxiety
🍸 productive ways to fill your notebooks
🍸 productivity apps for self improvement