My Oc, Mercia, But With B00bs. It Was A Request From My Boyfriend For Some Reason Lol

The fact that nonbinary and genderqueer people assigned male at birth (and more people, but it's hard to sum up a diverse group in one phrase) are so hyperinvisible really sucks.

Like the fact that there are so many posts like "oh you thought they were men but they're actually butches" but no one ever acknowledges that there could be femme gays who look like women. Transfemininity is forced into a binary of "cis man who's kind of fruity" or trans woman with no consideration for anyone who lives on the spectrum between the two or outside of it. Like people will make room for "not a woman but yes a lesbian" (dgmw they don't respect trans butches and lesbians, but they'll acknowledge they exist and pay lip service (even if it sucks, I'm talking you "non men loving non men")) but no one ever considers people like me who are the mirror image of: not a man but yes a fag (there isn't an equivalent word even that isn't a slur, reclaimed or not). People effectively deny any nuance or gender exploration to those they view as "male" while patronizingly pseudo acknowledging that of those they view as "female" and it sucks

I'm not a cis man I'm not a woman I exist not every nonbinary person is "woman lite" (and treating nonbinary people like that is shit on its own)

this is exorsexism.

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I didn't know this...reblogging to remember

the terms afab and amab have always belonged to the intersex community

just because perisex people have bastardized their meaning, doesnt mean that it belongs to them now

afab DOES NOT MEAN "person who was born with a vagina"

amab DOES NOT MEAN "person who was born with a penis"

that re-definition is the result of bastardization.

someone who has a vagina is müllerian or close-to-müllerian (and that term is inclusive of trans women/fems/nonbinary people who have medically transitioned)

someone who has a penis is wolffian or close-to-wolffian (and that term is inclusive of trans men/mascs/nonbinary people who have medically transitioned)

someone who was afab can be wolffian at birth

someone who was amab can be müllerian at birth

DOCTORS CAN AND DO FUCK UP, EVEN IF THE BABY IS PERISEX. STOP TREATING THEIR GENDER ASSIGNMENT AS GOSPEL.

This is very relatable

You can pry my AGAB info from my cold dead hands.

(from u/Carousel-of-Masks on Reddit)

"Obviously, I’m exaggerating for the point, but holy hell does it piss me off when someone demands to know my AGAB. “It’s important info!”

FOR WHAT? For u to have an expectation of my genitals and internal sex chromosomes? News flash, any trans person will tell u that AGAB does not = typical presentation of that gender.

On top of this, it’s my CHOICE to reveal my AGAB. I like keeping it a mystery because people are all too quick to assign certain expectations of me based on AGAB.

AMAB? Oh trans woman in denial! Man in dress stereotype!

AFAB? Oh trans man in denial! Completely feminine woman-lite stereotype!

Like. No. I’m just me. An extremely dysphoric non-binary person that actually would love to be binary but has to grapple with an internal gender that does not feel like the 2 binary options. I say I am non-binary to escape those expectations in the first place. AGAB just reduces it all back down to the binary.

Now, other non-binary people can do whatever u want. Not like I can control anyone else’s actions. But a part of me does hate how prevalent it is to write “Non-binary (AFAB/AMAB)” every time someone mentions they are non-binary. I’m not talking about specific tips for transitioning, hrt, etc. But everyday conversation, social media posts about nothing to do with gender, etc."

Something about this rant deeply resonated with me, so I decided to crosspost it onto here. You cannot reinvent the binary to include nonbinary people. It will never work.

people thinking that all afab nonbinary people are inherently moving towards masculinity and all amab nonbinary people are inherently moving towards femininity.

this is exorsexism.

this idea is often used to justify using the terms transmasculine and transfeminine in some kind of universally applicable way, but it's based on a gross oversimplification of the gender spectrum as a slider between male and female/masculine and feminine.

there is an infinite number of directions for an amab nonbinary person to go in. femininity is not the only one just because the gender binary says so. they could transition into an in between space, considering themself androgynous rather than masc or fem. they could transition into neutrality. they could transition into nonbinary masculinity. they could transition out of gender altogether. they could transition into a gender that has no ties to the binary. they could transition into fluidity. they could transition into an infinite number of things. the same is true for an afab nonbinary person.

take xenogenders for example. if an afab nonbinary person identifies as a specific xenogender, they'd be considered more masculine than before, but if an amab nonbinary person identified as the exact same gender, they'd be considered to be more feminine than before, even though most xenogenders aren't inherently masculine or feminine. not all nonbinary genders consist of a balance of masculinity and femininity.

when i came out, i didn't move towards the opposite of my AGAB by virtue of moving away from my AGAB. i am now equally far away from both.

the gender spectrum is not linear.

I drew this. Hes a guy with long hair. I drew it for Sabalad, he's on Deviantart

Oarfish

The Preserver’s Hand

It's a self portrait -_-"