Since People Were Asking For My Notes From The "Attachment And Boundary Collapse In Sibling Incest"-Seminar

Since people were asking for my notes from the "Attachment and Boundary Collapse in Sibling Incest"-Seminar that I can NOT believe i'm actually taking this semester (Am I in Gallaghercest school???), here are some of my notes from the first two weeks. There's more, it just takes ages to translate it, but if anyone is interested I can post more.

Feel like I also need to point out some parts that absolutely wrecked me, because they feel so Noel and Liam coded to me. Here you go:

-Not always inltiated by one clearly dominant party - this complicates blame but not harm.

-Initiating sibling may turn into safe place for the victim, groomed mentality. Grooming can occur subconsciously influenced by learned behaviour, modelling abuse.

-Survivors often report a deep shame and the need to repress it - not address it. Extremely vague choice of words when talking about their childhood experiences.

-Most come to terms with it but don't seek justice, feeling shame or the need to protect their sibling.

-Childhood incest -> Adult incest where both parties now consent - who decides where manipulation and grooming begins and ends? The phenomenon of "getting used to it" and "growing to like it".

-He really loves her but thinks this is the way you show love. She really loves him so she doesn't fight it.

-Sister never stops seeing her brother as her safe person because he was her first admirer. (little note: this killed me. I'm sobbing and shaking)

-Brother may later express awareness that it was wrong and try to keep his distance to his sister. She misses him but thrives in her personal life for the first time.

-If incest is the only consistent form of closeness or attention it may become scripted into their relational behaviour.

-Impact on Attachment Styles:

-Older Sibling: Risk of emotional isolation, "walls up", torn between wanting closeness and not trusting himself or others.

-Younger sibling: Struggles with commitment, trust and boundaries, may carry ambivalent feelings torwards their sibling (loyalty and love and betrayal and anger).

If this has grammar or spelling mistakes I'm sorry, oops. That's it for now (*≧▽≦) We're writing the academic, psychological gcest bible, just wait until I have to write an essay at the end of the semester... lol.