“You choose your toppings that fit you. “
..No, you don’t. That’s not how this works.
More specifically, while different autistic people can have different autistic traits, that doesn’t mean that you get to choose what traits you have. This metaphor implies that autism is a choice, that autism is just a bunch of autistic traits mixed together (in reality, like any neurotype, it is much more complicated than that), and that showing a couple of signs of autism makes you autistic (it doesn’t).
Saying that you get to choose which traits of autism you have is incredibly harmful to the autism community. That’s the same sort of argument used by ABA therapists to try to force people out of stimming. It’s also the sort of thing that makes neurotypicals think autistic people are just special snowflakes who are faking for attention.
In addition, many of the items in this sundae bar have little or nothing to do with autism, and in fact the sundae bar includes many unrelated neurotypes. While some of these may be correlated with autism, they are still different neurological differences. For instance, autism, ADHD, bipolar disorder, depression, and dyslexia are entirely separate things, and some of them are conflated often enough that this kind of misinformation is very counterproductive.
Fundamentally, you don’t get to choose in what ways you are autistic. Yes, different people will have different “toppings,” but that doesn’t make it a choice. I didn’t choose to be hypersensitive to loud noises any more than I chose to be good at math, or I chose to have green eyes.
tl;dr: Autism is not a sundae bar, and autistic people don’t choose which signs of autism we exhibit.
We need to stop seeing autism as some sort of one-dimensional sliding scale. Autism is not a thermometer. It’s not a rating that is “more” or “less”. High-functioning and Low-functioning do not exist in the real world.
Autism is a collection of symptoms and behaviours. Like a sundae bar. You choose your toppings that fit you.
Are you a bipolar extravert that loves socialising, is good at math and bad at remembering time? That’s ONE way to be autistic!
Are you a socially anxious autistic who has meltdowns when your clothes don’t feel right but a genius knowledge of music theory and is great at scheduling? That’s another way to be autistic!
Notice how both of those examples has strengths and weaknesses? Is one more “employable” or “high-functioning” than the other?
There is no one-size-fits-all category or rating for autism.
its so weird how ur gender supposedly dictates which shapes and textures of fuckening cloth u are permitted to drape over ur flesh prison
It has literally taken me 5 hours to find 1 pair of dress pants that even sort of fit.
9 Problems with Women’s Clothing And the worst part is that clothing companies do it because they know we’ll still buy their products. But do we have much other choice?
@allyfallsdownstairs @themoriarkitty
“The 17-year-old, Hunger Games actor Amandla Stenberg has come out as non-binary.
Stenberg – who plays Rue in the adventure film franchise – says she feels like she’s not a ‘woman’ all the time, and non-binary is a term that she feels comfortable using to describe herself. (She is using female pronouns).
Writing on Tumblr, she said she is organizing a workshop on feminism, specifically how ‘mainstream feminist movements have continuously excluded women who are not white, thin, cisgender, able-bodied and neurotypical’.
Something we are struggling with is understanding the intersection of feminism and gender identity…
We’re both people who don’t feel like “women” all the time – but we claim feminism as our movement.
Basically, we’re trying to understand the duality of being a non-binary person and a feminist. How do you claim a movement for women when you don’t always feel like one?”
Read the full piece here:
#1: THANK YOU AMANDLA FOR YOUR CONSISTENT AWESOMENESS AS AN INTERSECTIONAL FEMINIST AND ROLE MODEL FOR YOUTH & EVERYONE ELSE!
#2: YOU DON’T NEED TO BE A WOMEN OR CIS TO BE FOR WOMEN’S RIGHTS. Just like white people can and should advocate for racial equality, everyone can and should advocate for gender equality.
I give Amandla a TON of credit for having to not only grow up in public, but grow up as a non-binary POC in a white / sexist / cisnormative society! She is young and figuring herself and society out. I’m Team Stenberg and am not looking to call her out, I just wanted to make this crucial clarification. As Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie says, We Should All Be Feminists
After all the evenings I spent as a kid at the library or on the internet trying to find stories with a character that would be like me, I can’t find any good enough reason to work on non-trans characters.
By the way, many people don’t know this, but you can ask your librarian to order books by trans authors! Metonymy Press, Arsenal Pulp, Topside Press, Flamingo Rampant… you should definitely talk to them about it, everytime someone I know did it, they were successful in getting trans author’s books in their local library. They can also get mine on http://assignedmale.etsy.com !
Sophie Labelle
Reblog this if you would buy a book with an LGBTQ main character, whose sexuality was not the primary focus of the novel
If you would not, reblog this.
Usually by inquiring why, as this does, based on the definition of feminism, seem a little bit strange.
You mean by saying that sex should be consensual? Because that’s basically all that feminists are saying.
@slatestarscratchpad
My possibly-incorrect understanding of the tax bill is that it doesn’t implement all the deductions at once, which suggests that it wouldn’t add the same amount to the debt this year as it would in, say, 2024. This means that the “x dollars per year” formulation is problematic because it will vary radically depending on which year we look at.
(This seems like it could be solved by “x dollars per year starting in 20whenever, but there might be some reason why that doesn’t work.)
The news I read about the tax plan says it will add $1 trillion to the national debt. Occasionally it ends with “…over the next decade”.
Is there a reason this phrasing is preferable to “will add $100 billion per year to the national debt” or “will add $10 trillion to the national debt over the next century” or “will add $2.50 to the national debt over the next microsecond”?
If not, are headlines like “NEW TAX PLAN WILL ADD $1 TRILLION TO DEBT” completely arbitrary, since they could have made it any number by changing the (unspoken) time course?
satire is “I’m going to take this concept to an extreme or absurd level in order to demonstrate how bizarre/nonsensical/illogical it is” and not “I said something bigoted but just kidding I didn’t really mean it hahaha”
Feminism (n.) The theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes. (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/feminism).
People saying that men can’t be raped are by definition not feminists, therefore it is nonsensical to use them as an example of why you aren’t a feminist.
Yes, men can get raped. But that’s not an argument against feminism
Basically why I’m not a feminist
Spotted on campus today.
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