I Too Have Started Rewatching Downton Abbey, As It Appeared In My Netflix Suggestions/new In.

A slightly overdue scene between Elliot & Eli.

Elliot telling Eli about how to be a cop and a father in one conversation and every reply Eli gives him is appropriate for both is a lovely moment, but while Elliot is clearly trying to tell him about how scary the IAB stuff can be without saying it because he's not allowed to, I'm not sure Eli is quite getting it.

The scene where he tells Elliot he can go and that he's got this is bittersweet. He's trying to be a man and stand on his own two feet but Elliot looks a little deflated in that moment.

1) angel 😇: my creativity and empathy

2) doll: pretty wrap dress with a long cardigan and leggings in one of the print colours, if it’s patterned, a scarf ( either plain if the dress is patterned and patterned if the dress is plain), a bag and hair accessories in a matching colour. Think Penelope Garcia from Criminal Minds or Bernadette from The Big Bang Theory!

3) pumpkin 🎃: either a fairly warm spring day (20 C and sunny) or a crisp winter day ( clear skies, sunny and about 10 C).

4) baby 👶🏼: a really bubbly bubble bath 🛀, my favourite foods, a good book, film or TV show to get into, writing a letter, doing something creative. Either really happy or sad music to dance around to or have a healing cry!

5) sugarpie: a chocolate eclair, or a chocolate and meringue dessert. Mont Blanc: vanilla and/or chocolate ice-cream, meringue pieces and sweet chestnut purée, sometimes topped with whipped cream! Yes, I have a sweet tooth!

6) kitten: cat 🐈 person in theory, but dog 🐕 person in practice, as I am very allergic to cats!

7) princess 👸: the 60′s and 70′s for the music, otherwise some time in the future!

8) peach 🍑: I like cosy, comfortable places and clothes.

9) darling: a lovely note detailing how wonderful/special/talented I am, or someone cooking for me.

10) button: oh yes! Tall, dark-haired, slim build, blue eyes, funny, well-read, generous and preferably rich!  11)sweet pea: I love sunflowers 🌻 and deep red roses that are so dark they almost look black

12) petal: no sense of smell so N/A

13) sunshine ☀️: That I’m a magician ( as a nanny), that I am very empathetic and that I am the best ever at drawing, according to the girl I nanny!

14) baby girl 👧: I like to cuddle up to someone and tuck my head under the person’s chin as they hug me.  15)lover: by flirting extremely badly, oops! In friendship: little ( or big!) gifts ( even better if they are themed!) for birthdays or no reason, just because I thought they would like it, or something we’ve talked about that they’d shown interest in.

16) buttercup: lover of the arts, food and travel.  17) boo 👻: a drink at a coffee shop where we would talk about films, books and art!  18) take-out meal, a favourite film, TV series or book, my favourite snacks, shopping for clothes/makeup or presents for other people.

19) wild thing: that I will stand up and fight fiercely for those that I love!  20) bubba: my sister drinking a sip of wine at a party as she thought it was blackcurrant juice, oops!  21) honey 🍯: hot chocolate with caramel syrup, marshmallows, whipped cream and a chocolate flake.

22) love bug: something funny and/or romantic, preferably from a musical!

23) cutie: Donkey Skin, Cinderella, The Little Mermaid and Beauty and the Beast

24) dumpling 🥟:The 3rd film of To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before was super cute, and I adore the most recent version of Little Women, it was perfect!

25) my love 😍: somewhere comfy and cosy with a kitchen with all the appliances, two ovens, plenty of bedrooms, a lovely dining room for entertaining, some great views, in the countryside but close to town, beach and forest. en-suite bathrooms with baths and showers and walk in wardrobes for each bedroom.

cute nickname asks!!!!

angel - what’s one character trait you like about yourself?

doll - what’s your favourite outfit? 

pumpkin - what’s your favourite weather and why?

baby - what makes you feel better when you’re down?

sugarpie - what’s your favourite sweet treat?

kitten - are you a dog person or a cat person?

princess - if you could live in any other time period, which would it be?

peach - what’s your ideal aesthetic?

darling -  what romantic gesture makes you feel the most loved?

button - do you have a type? what is it like?

sweet pea - what’s your favourite flower?

petal - what’s your favourite smell or perfume?

sunshine - what’s the nicest compliment you’ve ever gotten?

baby girl - how do you like to be held?

lover - how do you show someone you like them?

buttercup - what does/would your online dating bio say?

boo - what’s your dream date?

cupcake - if you’re treating yourself, what do you do?

wild thing - what’s something about you that surprises people?

bubba - tell me a funny story from your childhood. 

honey - what’s your favourite hot drink?

love bug - what song would you love to have sung to you?

cutie - what’s your favourite fairytale?

dumpling - what’s your favourite movie right now?

my love - what would your dream home be like?

dear - pick whatever question you’d most like to answer!

One of the many reasons I cannot picture JJ and Reid together romantically! Even as a friend, I think that she is quite unkind in that scene. Love Emily’s dynamic with Spencer though, very supportive and like a big sister to him!

“I don’t know how to be anyone else.. I can’t help it” (insp)

Finally, a good shot of Stabler's desk and as suspected, it is his personal family images on the desk with Chris' wife Sherman and kids Sophia and Dante.

Also, looks like a picture from a magazine of Meloni & Hargitay going in for a kiss while filming, like they mess about and do often. lol!

This is one of my favourite episodes. It never fails to make me cry every time I watch it, but at different moments or for different reasons.

Elliot being all brash and writing off the crazy perp/suspect at first, but then shutting up and listening to Olivia telling him it’s Kathleen.

He immediately goes from judgemental cop mode to concerned dad mode, and he is right, Kathleen’s girlfriends have abandoned her.

Going to see his mother is such a poignant moment.

I love that their different accounts of the same event show their different personalities/the choices they’ve made in life.

She’s talking about making sandcastles on the beach, how it was blissful and idyllic, he remembers being scared out of his mind and thinking his mother wanted him dead.

She remembers wanting to go on an adventure to Paris to become a painter, while he remembers a chaotic trip that probably involved being woken up in the early hours of the morning and his mother being loud and embarrassing.

Elliot has definitely chosen to parent very differently from the way he was raised, which in some ways is great, as he tells his kids he is proud of them, that he loves them, gives them hugs and reassurance when they are afraid or upset as well as giving them rules and structure. He tries very hard to be patient and gentle with them, to not be physically or verbally abusive, but can be too over-protective sometimes and not trust his kids to make their own choices and mistakes, then face the consequences of their actions.

His parents were emotionally and physically absent ( dad working double shifts and mum who would take to her bed for days/weeks at a time), so while Elliot does work long hours, we see him actively trying to make time for his wife and kids, doing tasks that his father would have considered Bernie’s responsibility like preparing dinner. He also tries to go out for dinner/to a picnic with his family , playing at the park, driving the kids  to school, reading them stories, doing their hair…

Something he always does is apologise to his kids if he’s been too controlling/come down too hard on them/made a bad parenting decision, which I can’t imagine his parents ever did. 

Olivia going to see Bernie is just an incredible moment, we can see how much she loved and still loves her son, and her experience with mental health facilities in the late 60’s/early 70’s is just heart-breaking. 

The scene really shows Olivia’s deep ability to empathise and not judge, it really made me love her more than I already did. It also showcases just how much she cares about Elliot and his family.

Bernie’s exchange with Kathleen and when she tells her the story of driving in the ice and snow which causes her to crash the car and break Elliot’s arm ( he would have be3n about 3 at the time) is just a perfect way to explain that her actions are hurting the people she loves. 

Kathleen thinking her dad hates her breaks my heart.

This episode makes me wonder when Joe Sr died, as Kathleen is able to remember stealing his hat and cigars for a snowman she made with Bernie, but no actual dates are given.

The accounts of Elliot’s childhood also very much make him sound like he was an only child, but I know in earlier episodes he references siblings as he says his parents didn’t praise or say I love you to us growing up, it was just the typical Irish way of doing things at the time. 

In later episodes ( the more recent ones, in L and O OC), we find out that he has 3 brothers and two sisters. From what I have heard, he is the second oldest, which just seems weird to me. 

If he were the eldest, I think he would have stayed in touch with his mum to make sure his younger siblings were safe, so I like to think he is the youngest, by 10-15 years. Bernie and Joe Sr had the first 5 kids within the first 5-10 years of marriage, then they had a big gap, and as Joe Sr got progressively more violent/abusive and started cheating more and more, Bernie thought maybe a new baby might help him be faithful/get his act together. Hence no mention of siblings being around during Bernie’s episodes or Joe Sr beating Elliot ( Ripped, Season 7).

All in all, this is such a powerful episode about mental health, families, parenting and how the choices you make can affect those you love. 

Bernie to elliot: But it wasn't your life. It isn't your life. You living your living your father's life all over again. If you can only find a way to be your own man.

I love how the two of them are so different. He's weighted down by responsibility and how much that shaped his life. How stability is something he didn't have as a kid. And how much he craves it and how much he fights for it for his kids.

Bernie is so uncombered by responsibility she is a free spirit and lives her life by her own rules. But it cost her a great deal to chase her own heart. So Elliot went the other way. He chose responsibility and stability over what he wanted in his heart.

Bernie just wants him to go out there and be himself. And now finally he's had time to get to know who he is away from the job. In Rome. He's gotten more comfortable with his emotions. He expresses them much easier now.

So what's going to go down with him and his mom in the new episodes? Did she know about Kathy's murder? I can't think she didn't know by why was she not there?

This was such a vital relationship to elliot. His mother. Who shaped the man who he became. I wanted so much for them to delve me into this relationship and so hopefully they will in oc.

I just think that the two is them are opposite sides of a coin. Both need to learn from the other to be a better person. Elliot needs to live more for himself and Bernie needs to own up to her responsibilities, obligations and her family.

Building a Home, my SVU AU ideas/general plot

Elliot Stabler is an architect with his own firm. Does lots of projects to build schools, hospitals etc for the less well-off/the local community. He was travelling and doing that in other countries before, then decided he could also make a difference at home, wants to meet someone and settle down, have a family snd be an involved/present dad and he really missed his family.

Big, loving Irish family: siblings Shannon and Dee, Randall, Benjamin ( deceased after fighting in the armed forces) then there’s Elliot after a big gap and another big gap before Joe Jr. Dad Joe is a cop and basically parents like Elliot does, and Bernie teaches art at school and to adults/the elderly. Her bipolar is spotted early on and she goes on medicine that works for her and is supported by her kids and husband. His sisters and older brothers all have kids from more or less good relationships. One is  Aisling, she’s a young adult who interns/works for her Uncle El ( answers the phone, makes appointments, opens mail).

Olivia is paired with Munch and they have to investigate a crime, one of Elliot’s former employees/clients is involved/the victim so they talk to him. Aisling calls him Mr Stabler at work, keeps things very professional but later Liv and Munch go through his texts/e-mails and/or see him having dinner with his niece, they see them laughing/hugging/using her first name or an endearment like honey or sweetheart/he kisses her cheek so they think he’s dodgy. After some questioning, he is found innocent and Olivia offers to take him out for a drink as an apology ( they both had major heart eyes for the other when they met), which turns into dinner then dating. 

They get pregnant fairly quickly but Olivia miscarries. They call the baby Aidan Michael. 

They get married as Olivia rises through the ranks, and go on to have Charlotte Olivia, Sophia or Stella Bernadette, twins Matthew Joseph ( Mattie) and Margaret Joy ( Maggie) followed by an anniversary celebration « oops baby » called Elinor Grace. They could also adopt Calvin and/or Noah. 

Olivia makes Captain and Elliot mostly works from home and has some help from his parents/family/a nanny. 

Liv’s partners all stay in touch with her and are honorary aunts and uncles. Elliot becomes great friends with Carisi. 

and he will come back home

because these people are his family. and this place is his home. 

or, six times out of many aaron hotchner realised that other things may change us but we do indeed, start and end with our family because they are the people that love us, without any conditions, and not in spite of, but because of, our flaws.

this is literally pure fluff because someone *ahem* @whump-town *ahem* has been posting sad things which made me want to write something sweet.

nobody asked for this. literally nobody. however, it made me happy, so now everyone else has to put up with it. 

trigger warnings: references to child abuse (physical and sexual) as both hotch and morgan’s pasts are mentioned very briefly

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SVU Season 6 episode thoughts

Since Netflix will be removing Law and Order SVU in a couple of week, I decided to have a rewatch. The only Seasons available are 6,7,9,10 and 11, so I started with S6 and it is still one of my favourites to date!

In one of the episodes, there are a couple of junkies, who I think are married. The husband’s mum lived with them, she is called Jenny, and is seemingly being abused by her son and his wife. 

Stabler is the only one who seems to pick up on this and gets really protective of her, more so than he would normally, at least to my eyes.

We know Joe St was physically and verbally abusive to his kids ( multiple examples in OC and in S7 Ripped) and, in OC, it is revealed that he physically and verbally abused Bernie every single day they were married. This comes as a surprise to Elliot, but I think that this episode shows that he subconsciously knew his mother was being abused by his father, although maybe not the full extent of it .

I think this is one of the main reasons he wants to be a cop: so he can help/save people ( especially women and kids) from abusers like his dad.

Season 6 is so hard-hitting for Elliot, as the brilliant @ocstabler worked out, a lot of the really bad cases this Season have a lot of overlap: the one with Abraham the cult leader, who is marrying pre-teens and getting them pregnant, Contagious with Holly who has been sexually abused by someone in the community, then I think there is a missing child case too. This is when Kathy leaves Elliot too, so I think he is thinking about his family a lot, even more than usual. 

I love this show, and their relationship is so great.

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