Someone Who’s My Friend: Actually Verbally Says We Are Friends Or Tell Me They Enjoy Being With Me

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Shigaraki, despite his claims of hatred for hero society, and calling out some of the oppression inherent in the system, is, in fact, no different in his actions. He performatively attempts to be better, but his entire arc is one of replicating abuse rather than making any meaningful attempt to change the system he laments. The clearest example of this is during his kidnapping of Katsuki, where he claimed to offer freedom to Katsuki, but had, in fact, forcibly kidnapped him and held him in chains. While he did remove the chains, claiming Katsuki needed to be treated as an equal, it was an entirely performative action, as he didn't actually let Katsuki refuse him. When Katsuki attempted to, Shigaraki returned to replicating his own abuse by attempting to recapture Katsuki and force him into doing what he wanted. In this essay, I will-

The first set of duels all involve seeking a return to a comfortable stagnation or projection. The character has left a state that they wish to return to. The second set all involve seeking to reject the current surrounding world for one that matches their desires. The third set of duels is finally closest to the truth of what 'Revolutionizing the world' is - seeking to prove a change exists in the perception of the duelists - that a level of maturity has been reached and the duelist has grown up - but this change only occurs upon the duelist losing the duel. Without the loss all the third duel accomplishes is the completion of a Rotation on the Revolution. The duelists seek ‘adulthood’ in the belief that doing so will grant them the power to continue to exist unchanged even in new circumstances. Revolution has two meanings within the narrative - a break from stagnant conditions or states, and the completion of a cycle that returns to the start - like a carousel’s spin.

I think that the power to Revolutionize the World that all the characters fight for in Revolutionary Girl Utena is primarily a power to change oneself and break free of the eternal revolution offered by Ohtari and embodied by Akio. Part 1/2 - Mikage & the Black Rose Duelists, Saoinji, Miki, and Juri.

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Black Rose

Mikage in the Black Rose arc keeps trying to kill the Rose Bride and win the power of Dios, but he fails every time since every duelist he chooses is attempting to Reject the world and revolutionize it based upon changing other people. A miracle achieved though sacrificing other people - they pull their swords from others and bear the rose crests of others.

Mikage and the duelists are working on an entirely flawed premise - so each duel ends with another corpse in the crematorium and another chick that failed to break their shell and a return to status quo. Each person dueling is attempting to seek a revolution entirely defined by the perceptions or actions of others - Kaene wants Anthy’s judgement of her (perceived or not) gone. Wakaba wants others to look at her as special (especially Saionji). Kozue wants to protect Miki's innocence, but she also keeps wanting to taint it - her sweet love towards her sibling has turned curdled and she also wants to return to the 'Sunlit Garden'- so everyone who can taint it needs to go. Shiori wants to 'Win' over Juri because she can't believe in Juri's feelings in their clash with her abysmal self-worth and she can't accept her own feelings towards Juri. Tsuwabuki wants to be perceived as an adult and grow up already - though he isn't sure what it entails. Keiko wants to know Touga, and perhaps it is a plain desire common to most of Ohtori, but it’s not one that can be fulfilled while she is the lowest girl on the totem pole and Nanomi is in the way. Mikage himself seeks connection but the person he wants to connect to is terminally ill - so in the ultimate conclusion of this theme of rejecting the world he is seeking Eternity in these memories and reliving the past literally - he is a trapped ghost in a burned down building. The one person rejected is the Onion Prince boy whose basal confession is that he believes the problem is in him - not others.

Saionji

Saionji wants his status symbol back and to have something special that his 'friend' Touga doesn't have and Utena confronts him in revenge for her friend Wakaba first and revenge for Anthy's treatment once she is already committed - later episodes make it clear Wakaba still loves Saionji so it is doubtful that she would have wanted the duel in her honor. As Saoinji scoffingly points out - Utena is the archetypical prince protecting the honor of princesses here. Saionji's 'revolution' is related primarily to his status in the system - without Anthy as his rose bride he is no longer special - just an average upperclassman. His second duel is much the same because despite his belief that he has changed - he utterly fails to articulate 'how' and no other character can even notice how or if he is different. He still seeks to possess the Rose Bride as a status symbol of being 'an Adult' and gaining something that designates him as special - most specifically in regard to Touga. He is the only 2nd time duelist that comes without their own Rose Bride. He's not fighting with his own power/strength of will at all. He's repeating lines said by Touga in the first set of duels, Saioinji is an imitation of an imitation, and it's not very surprising he missed the memo on the change in duel format.

But he seems to have found the route start for the process of growing anyways after being beaten again. Refuting Touga in his desire to be like Akio and accurately pointing out the central premise of Ohtari. He repeats with Touga there is no such thing as True Friendship- but it is still evident that his relationship with Touga only improves again after they fail to complete their revolutions on Akio’s stage.

Miki

Miki wants to recapture his “sunlight garden” through Anthy. He is seeking a return to a state which was simple and joyful for him and believes if he can possess Anthy then he can return to that state. Of course, this simple state in his memory doesn't exist. He loses the duels both times because his illusion of how things were was shattered - first by realizing Anthy was cheering for Utena - she was not an empty vessel for his fantasy, second by realizing that both his sister and Anthy had elements of 'adulthood' - he thinks that he is ready to 'get dirty to get what he wants' in regards to maturing his relationship with Anthy and finally the stability and strength to make his place in the world secure. Both he and Kozue wants to have the strength to return to the Sunlight Garden, but only Kozue seems prepared to grab the power to hold the illusion together - in which case she chose an excellent model. Akio is a professional in the art of maintaining an illusion.

Miki ultimately seeks to return to simpler times because he feels estranged in the present - a chick without a home.

The problem is that his Sunlight Garden is a fragile thing since it is only a facade. Kozue seeks to grant her brother the power of 'Revolution' and take him to the 'world of adulthood' but his sword is still a 'child's sword'. Realizing that he can't return to the past he sought the ability to create a comfortable present - but he can't follow-through with the 'adulthood' embodied by Akio and complete his revolution on the carousel. Perhaps his Revolution requires him to stop trying to fit himself to the dichotomy of either a powerful prince ‘who takes what he want’ or an innocent and pure child ‘who has what’s his taken’ since no such thing as a 'pure prince' who exists without subjecting others or getting subjugated. Perhaps hope exists, he does know a friend or two who also don't fit comfortably into the defined archetypes of princess or prince.

Juri

I understand Juri's issue in regard to her personal coffin - but I'm not actually sure the motivations behind her duels with Utena or what she is hoping to achieve. Juri's issue is that she doesn't believe in miracles (Shiori returning her feelings) but she really wants to believe in miracles (She can't give up her feelings for Shiori anyways). Her issue with miracles is "Believe in miracles and they will know your feelings" In this context, her duel with Utena is triggered by Utena telling how her Rose Crest links her to her 'Prince'. The parallel between miracles is the power to bring about connections - Juri challenges Utena to show her proof that her miracle - she will be led to her prince through her ring - is real while the camera focuses straight on Juri's locket - linking the two symbols. Juri believes there is no hope of her feelings or her being accepted if she communicates them to Shiori.

If she wins, she can continue to deny miracles exist while secretly hoping they exist - being engaged to the Rose Bride who is said to grant miracles - quietly locked into believing her feelings can’t be expressed. Losing - she still refuses to say out loud she believes in miracles - but it is still clear she is less hostile to the idea they can happen.

Juri's second duel starts with coercion - her anguish on seeing Shiori's humiliation and obsession with Ruka/Juri is outweighing her anguish on the uncrossable distance between Juri's feelings and Shiori despite their reciprocity. Ruka seems to love Juri and knows Juri loves Shiori and that Shiori can't and won't reciprocate with her issues, Juri loves Shiori but will neither reach out nor give up, Shiori loves Juri but refuses to believe that she is worthy so she must make Juri hate her. Juri and Ruka seem to share the idea - it's fine if they hate me as long as they are free from this toxic debasement that they are trapped in. Juri's growth hinges on accepting she shouldn't sacrifice herself for the sake of Shiori's miracle - love doesn't justify abuse. It is only by losing Shiori’s locket and letting her feelings (and fears) lay bare that Juri can break away in a new direction from the interruption into her cycle instead of a repeat of her past misfortune with Shiori.

It seems that Ruka succeeds in his goal of letting Juri move on from her obsession with Shiori - though to what degree he intended anything is ambiguous since he goes and dies afterwards. Juri can accept letting Shiori leave her locket and accept it doesn’t need to require her suffering to love Shiori. Unrequited (or believed to be) love can be left to grow wistful - instead of a constant thorn in the heart. Juri has been given a direction to go for when she is ready to Revolutionize her world. She can still love Shiori, but she can't keep letting the rose parasite use its venom.

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Reblog to save a Muslim

As you probably know, Punish A Muslim day is coming up on the third of April. Any Muslim who lives in England is in danger so please stay home. Don’t send your children to school. DON’T GO OUT on the 3rd of April. My non Muslim friends, please reblog this, one of your followers could benefit from it.

Listen up. There is literally an app that can help you avoid self harm and I don’t know why we aren’t talking about it.

Calm Harm can be tailored to your needs and will provide strategies to help you get past those crucial moments of wanting to harm.

It’s also totally FREE.

once again, it’s called CALM HARM

Capitalism at its best.  Some role models we should all consider.  I am a fan of Hagen Daz, but after reading this, I need to get me some Cherry Garcia!

The Hate You Give

Not to be affiliated by the movie (even though that movie was amazing and so eye-opening)

Imagine this: you had a hard day at work, you’re pretty exhausted. You open up your phone before you go to bed ‘cause it’s has been blowing up all day with Tumblr, (or Twitter/Instagram) messages and asks. You open the app and the smile on your face quickly dissolves into pure and utter disbelief and sadness.

You’re disgusting.

I don’t like ________ about you.

Do you hang out with __________? Stop hanging out with them.

I hate you.

I’m unfollowing.

I can’t believe you did this. How could you?

I can’t believe you said that. How could you?

We made you famous. You owe us.

You’re ugly. You’re too skinny. You’re too fat. You’re this. You’re that.

You’re gross.

You posted this 10 years ago on your Twitter, you’re sexist, racist, homophobic, you’re ________.

And just like that, you’re questioning yourself. You hate this or that about yourself. You can’t stand to look at yourself. Maybe you should stop hanging out with this person or maybe you should stop doing this-

You are Joshua Rush.

You are Kevin Hart.

You are Ariana Grande.

You are Tom Hiddleston.

You are that girl who’s scared to go to school because those girls in your English class might hurt you again.

You are that one boy who’s scared to come out because nobody accepts that idea in your school and so you know you’ll be hated.

You are everyone and anyone who’s ever been hated on.

And that is not okay. Saying those things are not okay. Hiding behind a screen and yelling digital slurs at a human being is not okay. Saying those things directly to a person is not okay. It hasn’t been okay in the past, it won’t be okay now and it won’t be okay tomorrow. So fn stop. Stop being cowards.

Don’t forget that under all that hair and skin, you have the same make-up, you are a human. Act like it.

Hurting another human being to the point where they have to take a break from social media is not okay. Hurting another human being to the point that they think twice before they say something or even do something is NOT okay.

A fact: celebrities don’t owe you anything. It is not their fault you liked their content, that is on you. They don’t need to act on your beck and call so stop telling them what to do or not to do. Joshua Rush doesn’t need to stop hanging out with Ethan Wacker. He doesn’t need to stop having political beliefs. He’s just a kid, let him live his life. The bad jokes that Kevin Hart made ten years ago don’t define him, he’s a changed man. If he wants to host the Oscars, let him. If Finn Wolfhard refuses to autograph something, he doesn’t have to because he has no obligation too. Like I said before, he’s just a kid and doesn’t have to do anything but live his life.

And here’s another fact: for every millions of praising comments a person receives, it’s that one hateful comment that sticks by them. It’s that one comment that catapults them into hurt and depression. That is the cold hard fact.

So think hard the next time you spurt out something that is ugly and awful because you might be making that smile disappear, you might be hurting someone deeply, you might be pushing someone over the edge.

Change your ways.

Be kinder.

Understand.

Appreciate and praise more.

Support and protect.

Please reblog so more people understand that this is not okay. And so the haters understand that they need to step back and reflect on their damn actions because this shit is getting out of hand.

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The real unsung hero in AFTG was Nickys high school teacher who saw how depressed he was becoming and decided that he needed to be as far away from his parents as he could get.