You Know How Rigged The System Was When Unfairness, Inequality, Prejudice, And Discrimination Happened.

“Never obsess about chasing love. Chase goals. Chase dreams. Chase the behaviors that are going to make you better. You don’t chase love; you allow that to find you by accident, and when it finds you on accident, you’ll know that it was supposed to find you purposely.”

— Sylvester McNutt

Then and now

"Drug use is normal" but not as in "alcohol and nicotine is just as bad as heroin!!!". "Drug use is normal" as in "none of it should be moralized or criminalized because basically everyone does it anyway. It's a normal human tendency to want to alter your experience chemically that we can't just get rid off and criminalization and stigma only makes life even harder on addicts"

Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.

Christian D. Larson

P*rn, dating apps/hook up culture, and 50/50 normalization are the three main culprits as to why the men of this generation seem so different than men from previous ones, and why so many beautiful and accomplished women are unable to secure a relationship without settling. Men always had their issues collectively, but it was never to the degree that we see today, and it’s largely due to the normalization from an early age to those three things.

The brains of men these days have been wired in a completely overly s3xualized manner. They don’t view women as people but as objects of strict desire and nothing else. Consumption of p*rn has not only given them unrealistic expectations of intimacy, it has influenced their s3xual orientations (see DL epidemic), and their social behaviour. Nowadays many don’t find regular girls attractive, which is why they choose to engage in “taboo” activities to feel some arousal. This leads them to becoming socially inept and to falling easy prey to manosphere content that only reinforces the objectification and dehumanization of women.

Dating apps then come in as an easy way for these men get the illusion of options, because while they might be generally not attractive, in the apps they get instant access to women they otherwise would never have in real life. And because many women have become desperate, by entertaining these men and giving them easy access to their bodies, the men no longer feel like they have to improve and work on themselves to attract a quality partner. It also gives them the idea that women are disposable because at any point they can ghost them for no reason and then swipe right to get another one. It makes them devalue access to us.

This easy access is then transferred to their expectations of relationships. They abuse the concept of equality to manipulate women into financially abusive arrangements where she’s expected to provide fiscally while also performing her feminine duties and taking care of a grown, able-bodied man. Naturally this continues to reinforce men’s lack of respect and gratitude for women in their lives, while increasing their own sense of self-importance, narcissism, ineptitude, and ungratefulness.

Obviously women are not responsible for the actions of men, but we do have the power to not reinforce and condone their sick ways. By deleting dating apps, standing our ground when we oppose 50/50 dating, and choosing to remain abstinent until marriage, we are taking the power dynamics back to our advantage. No, you are not unreasonable for not wanting to be with a man who consumes p*rn, or who wants to be sexually fluid with other men, or who views red pill content that dehumanizes you, or seems unwilling to provide things for you and cherish you in his life. It’s on you to stand firm in your decision to only entertain the gentlemen whose mindsets haven’t been completely fried by modern societal trends.

The “male loneliness epidemic” that we hear so much about is entirely self inflicted (not that anyone cares when it’s women who are lonely), and it’s a direct response to women saying no more to men who exhibit the behaviours outlined above. Hold the line, because they either leave their toxic ways and get better, or they will doom themselves to a life of solitude. Either way, that is their responsibility to fix, not yours.

Physically tired and mentally exhausted, huhuhu 😭 but I'm still doing the best that I can. Being a third year college student is just sooo draining, to the point that my academic performance is also affected 🥺

“Sometimes people don’t want to hear the truth because they don’t want their illusions destroyed”

— Friedrich Nietzsche (via neckkiss)

March 17, 2024

If only I could bury all the memories I had from the year 2023, I would

I'm fortunate enough to realize that year was a mess. Someone took advantage of your kindness and, worst of all, used you. They perfectly show how much they care for you, but it turns out it was all for a show. They played it all. I should listen to my gut more and follow it. I know there's something wrong with those actions; that's why most of the time I just stare at them blankly, like I didn't know how to react to them. At that time, I just did not know how to express how uncomfortable I am with it, yet I'm still observing them. People I thought I could trust turned out to be secretly harboring feelings of envy toward me. A person I thought was different from the crowd turned out to be one of them. 

Another thing: Am I a joke? Am I really a joke? How could they say those words just because they thought I could easily believe in them? How ironic! It turns out it was all a lie. Little did they know, I gave them my benefit of the doubt. Those half-meant jokes aren't even funny, to be honest, and the not-so-sweet words they utter were really bitter and fake. I guess things could be more different if I could react and respond to them frankly every time they made those things a "joke,"  not just a silent reaction they got from me. Of course, without sounding offensive, don't be like them, lol. Every time those moments crossed my mind, I could laugh it off now and realize they made themselves fools and stupid for doing it. Good thing they didn't get what they wanted from me. I am thinking too that maybe there's really a motive behind to get me to fall for their trap without my knowledge; we don't know. Only God knows all of it. They perfectly played with my emotions and made my mind confused at the same time. I feel betrayed tbh. Now that I am reflecting on all those memories I had from the past, I just let karma do the things for me. As the saying goes, "what goes around, comes around". As Taylor Swift also said, "You play stupid games, you win stupid prizes". Pity them cause I learn that I am not a prize to be won.

Now, I am at a point in my life that you cannot easily trust people around you. It's heartbreaking when someone broke your trust. I must say, "c'est la vie." That's life. Only time heals all wounds. Just learn from those experiences and move on with your own life but never ever ever forget what they did to you. Forgive but never forget.

Yours truly,

Grace 🌻

“But in that moment I understood what they say about nostalgia, that no matter if you’re thinking of something good or bad, it always leaves you a little emptier afterwards.”

— John Corey Whaley