start early
to get as much done as possible, you may need to start waking up earlier. this can be hard, but once you start, it will get easier and easier until it is part of your routine. wake up earlier, start earlier, get it done.
try not to see others as competition, but use them as motivation
while paris saw rory as competition at first, she finished knowing that no one could compare to her and just because rory was also very intelligent, it doesn’t mean that she wasn’t. there will always be others that are getting better grades than you or studying better than you, but try not to get caught up in that. she’s top of the class? use her to motivate yourself to do better. if you’re feeling low and comparing yourself to others, there’s probably a reason for that. find what it is within yourself, fix it, and come back better than ever.
use all resources available to you
paris wouldn’t let one opportunity to better her education or further her intelligence pass, and neither should you. use every resource and opportunity handed to you and work for the ones that aren’t.
stay determined
there will always be times where you don’t feel like studying or you’re feeling discouraged, but do not let these moments or days keep you from doing what you need to do. it’s okay to rest your brain when needed, but never quit. your future self will thank you for it.
have a plan and stick to it
take time to make a plan that will work realistically and effectively for you. once you have your plan, stick to it. again, there will always be times where you aren’t feeling like it, but don’t let these moments negatively impact your habits and goals. stick to your routine and you will get to a point where you don’t even think twice about it anymore.
go above and beyond
when it comes to studying, it isn’t always enough to just do the bare minimum. most of the time, it will benefit you far more to put some extra time and work in. research further than just a chapter of a textbook or a few slides of a powerpoint. you will never regret being more well-read.
get out of your comfort zone
paris knows that to be the best, you will have to do some things that you have never done before. you will have to talk to new people, present your research to a big group of strangers, travel if needed, learn things you never thought you would have to learn, etc. your comfort zone will be your downfall. realize that you will have to do things you aren’t enthusiastic about, and that’s okay.
Become Your Dream Girl in 2025
The first step into becoming your dream girl is to have a clear picture of her in your mind. Imagine her life in detail; her aesthetic, her habits, and even her energy. This is the time to get specific.
Visualization Exercise: Sit in a quiet space, close your eyes, and visualize your dream girl persona. How does she dress? What places does she visit? What are her priorities and goals? Let yourself feel her confidence, luxury, and elegance.
Create a Vision Board: Gather photos, quotes, fabrics, and colors that represent this version of you. A physical board can go in your room or closet. It can even be a mini collage you can put on your driver's side mirror in your car. The goal is to see your dream girl's life as real and achievable.
Your dream girl's life needs structure, so let's break down goals into categories and map out the steps to make it happen.
Categorize Your Goals: List your goals under personal growth, style & beauty, health & wellness, and career & financial. For example, under "Health & Wellness", you might set a goal to try Pilates or to cook more at home.
Monthly Check-Ins: As you go through the year, check in with your goals to celebrate your wins, and adjust as needed. This keeps your transformation on track.
Confidence & Self-Worth
Your dream girl is confident, magnetic, and knows her worth. Let's build those habits and thoughts that help you embody that energy daily.
Positive Affirmations: Every time you look in the mirror, say things like "I am worth everything good that can happen to me" or any affirmation that you feel suits you best.
Confidence Rituals: Small, daily actions add up to huge shifts in confidence. Make it a habit to dress up on casual days, speak kindly to yourself, and embrace good posture.
Let Go of Insecurities: Identify any insecurities and practice reframing them. Instead of "I wish I was more confident", say "I am becoming more confident every day". Over time, you'll notice how these subtle shifts impact your self-worth.
Your dream girl is resilient and always growing, so let's make success part of your mindset.
Growth Mindset: View challenges as chances to learn, whether it's a career move, a new hobby, or even a social situation.
Visualizing Success: Each morning, spend a few minutes visualizing yourself living your dream life. This will keep you focused and motivated.
Morning & Evening Routines: Start each day with intention by setting small goals and expressing gratitude. At night, reflect on the day and celebrate your wins; even the small ones.
Social confidence comes from feeling at ease in your own skin.
Elegant Etiquette: Show appreciation with thank you notes, and make an effort to remember names. The vibe for 2025 is to go for traditional, rather than modern. Think classic early 1920's-1950's Hollywood.
Curate Your Circle: Surround yourself with supportive, inspiring friends who uplift you. Leave the ones who don't elevate themselves or try to keep you behind.
Networking Lifestyle: Turn social gatherings into chances to meet like-minded people and to elevate your circle.
(Dating) Standards First: Don't settle; know what you deserve in a partner and communicate it confidently.
(Dating) Playful Energy: Be confident, flirty, and assertive (with yourself, not them). Stay in your feminine energy and let them earn your time and attention.
(Dating) Relationship Goals: Keep dates special and playful. Dress up, go out, and enjoy yourself.
Your dream girl values luxury, but also financial security. Your career is part of your dream girl identity, so elevate it.
Budgeting: Set aside money for luxuries and self-investment, but keep savings in mind.
Multiple Income Streams: Consider side hustles that align with your lifestyle.
Savings Goals: Whether it's for a designer bag, a trip, or just building wealth, make sure your goals are concrete.
Luxury Workspace: Make your workspace a vibe with candles, flowers, and chic decor.
Network for Success: Connect with mentors and people who inspire you.
Grow with Intention: Set milestones in your career or business, and keep pushing for the next level.
Your body is the vessel of your dream girl, so let's treat it with love and care. Mental clarity and peace are essential for dream girl energy; so let's focus on overall wellness this year.
Exercise: Try Pilates or Barre classes for a toned, elegant look. If that's not your thing, find workouts that create your dream body.
Healthy Eating: Focus on whole foods, lots of veggies, and drink tons of water.
Weekly Reset: Plan a mini detox day where you relax, hydrate, and reset for the week.
Mindfulness Practice: Try a short meditation or breathing exercise every morning.
Stress Relief: Whether it's a quick walk, journaling, or a creative outlet, find a stress relief that's all you.
Boundaries: Say no when needed, and make sure your energy is protected.
First, a dream girl has that glow, and it all starts with a skincare routine that feels luxurious. You also need to find a style that captures your dream girl vibe, and commit to curating it. Then, you need to develop habits that will help you better your appearance.
Simple Skincare Routine (For Starters): Start with a cleanser for your skin type, followed by a hydrating toner, a serum (like Vitamin C for brightness), moisturizer, and SPF.
Luxury Treatments: Invest in facials or try gentle at-home treatments like dermaplaning once a month for an extra glow.
Nightly Routine: Keep your skin hydrated at night with a heavier moisturizer or an overnight mask.
Personal Style Icons: Think of someone like Serena van der Woodsen from Gossip Girl or a high-fashion model off-duty.
Curating Your Wardrobe: Focus on high-quality staples in neutral tones, like blazers, silky blouses, and tailored bottoms. Invest in timeless pieces that make you feel like a billion dollars.
Signature Look: A dream girl has her thing, whether it's an accessory, a makeup look, or a scent. Find what makes you feel like you and stick with it.
Self-Care Rituals: Prioritize manicures and pedicures, hair masks, and bubble baths. Set aside time every week to pamper yourself.
Polished Look: Even on your most casual days, aim to look put together.
Signature Hair & Makeup: Pick a go-to glam look that embodies your dream girl; maybe that's glossy lips and loose waves (for example).
Your routine should feel luxurious yet practical, setting the tone for each day. Small daily habits can transform how you feel and present yourself.
Weekly Pamper Sessions: Set aside Sunday evenings for facials, skincare, and champagne baths! (Be careful and make sure you're of legal drinking age)
Journaling and Reflection: Each morning, write down 3 things you're grateful for and 3 intentions for the day.
Goal Reviews: Every Sunday, celebrate your wins and see if any goals need a refresh.
The Basic Routine: Make your bed, wake up early, and put on an outfit that feels like you.
Energy-Boosting Habits: A quick stretch, a healthy breakfast, and a moment of quiet can make a huge difference.
Wind-Down Ritual: At night, unwind with tea, a bubble bath, or a short meditation to recharge for tomorrow.
Indulge a Little: Get a weekly coffee treat or a luxurious candle that makes your space feel cozy.
Luxury Experiences: Plan for a special outing every month, like a fancy dinner or spa day.
Signature Scents and Cocktails: Find your go-to perfume and a signature drink like a dirty martini or a bubbly glass of champagne.
Becoming your dream girl is a journey; one that's glamorous, fulfilling, and full of growth. Each step brings you closer to living the life you deserve.
spoiling myself with yummy perfumes, body butters and lotions, hair treatments and quality shampoo and conditioners, pretty sparkly makeup, cute little trinkets, plushies, adorable bag charms and keychains, yummy food, and my favorite teas!! i love showing me how much i love myself!
how to feel prettier, some visual interest tips, a beauty handbook and how to glow up without doing something big/extra, little habits and things that u can incorporate into ur life to make u glow up without even thinking about it ✨ (constantly being updated)
double cleansing every morning and night for clean and sparkling skin
BODY GLITTER
exfoliate ur skin weekly (2-3x)
incorporate pretty words into ur vocabulary
drinking enough water everyday to be healthy and beautiful
sweet smelling body butters and body oils to moisturize
posture is important so sit straight and stand straight
wear sunscreen on your face and body everyday bcuz spf is important
jewelry to decorate ur body
carrying lipglosses and hand lotions and perfumes in ur bag for touch ups throughout the day
meditate, say ur affirmations and journal for a pretty mind
for journaling, buy a cute journal and journal with scented glitter pens and stickers
for visual interest
glitter is very feminine, in makeup, clothing, nails, and on collarbones. when i wear glitter on my skin i feel like a fairy ✨
jewelry makes u glitter (nose studs, stacked necklaces and stacked earrings, rings, belly piercings, and nail gems)
know what ur undertone is, since i have a warm undertone (gold>silver)
LONG is the way to go (long nails, lashes, hair, flowy dresses and tops and skirts)
for the sleek and shiny look (shiny and silky hair, glossy skin and lips)
glowing up subconsciously
prioritize sleep (sleep 8-10 hours a night)
drink at least 1L of water a day
eat a fruit or veggie with every meal to glow from the inside out
use coconut oil/castor oil on ur lashes and brows every night
facial massage everyday and practice mewing
move your body in a way that feels natural (for example, i go to a school where we have to walk a lot bcuz the campus is big so subconsciously i do LOTS of walking without even thinking of it)
if ur wearing ur hair up/in a protective style, use a hair mask
to look polished and put together
chapped lips are unacceptable, use an overnight lip mask and a hydrating chapstick throughout the day. if u notice ur lips just peeling in general, use an exfoliating scrub/brush ur lips with a toothbrush.
neat hair = a polished look
keep ur nails trimmed, filed, and polished and if u wanna do a little extra get them manicured
address skin concerns so that then you can get glossy skin
make sure all ur metals match and color coordinate
keep it simple
details make a difference
shape ur brows
whiten ur teeth + maintain good oral health
color coordinate
fixing posture
HELPFUL RESOURCES
how to smell dreamy - @flirtygirl-coterie
feminine archetypes - @prissygrlsorority
beauty binder - @prissygrlsorority
maintaining a clean and fresh appearance - by yours truly
makeup tutorial in pics - by yours truly
"your glowing" - by yours truly
⋆.𐙚˚ daily essentials ࣪˖ ִֶָ𐀔
💭 drink 2l of healthy fluids minimum (water, juice, tea,...)
🌸 eat 5 meals (9AM, 12AM, 3PM, 6PM, 9PM)
💭 get 8+ hours of sleep
🌸 have at least 20 minutes of low impact movement
💭 listen to subliminals
⋆.𐙚˚ hygiene & wellness ࣪˖ ִֶָ𐀔
─── ★ ˙🌺 ̟ !! daily :
🧼 shower or bathe
🦢 brush my teeth twice (i struggle to remember)
🧼 put on lotion
🦢 do my skincare
🧼 brush my hair, massage my scalp, use dry shampoo if necessary
🦢 oil my nails
─── ★ ˙🌺 ̟ !! weekly :
🧼 take a relaxing hot bath
🦢 shave
🧼 hair and face mask
🦢 wash, condition and treat hair
🧼 face guasha
🦢 exfoliate body and face, body oil
🧼 cut, treat and file my nails
─── ★ ˙🌺 ̟ !! monthly :
🦢 exfoliate scalp
🧼 get a pedicure
⋆.𐙚˚ mind & mental health ࣪˖ ִֶָ𐀔
─── ★ ˙🌺 ̟ !! daily :
🥛 read for 20 minutes
🍨 practice on duolingo
🥛 use all my self-education apps
🍨 affirm and pray
🥛 journal/do a check-in
🍨 meditate for 3 minutes
─── ★ ˙🌺 ̟ !! weekly :
🥛 spend time socializing in a relaxed manner
🍨 practice a hobby
─── ★ ˙🌺 ̟ !! monthly :
🥛 go to therapy
🍨 try something new (food, experience, hobby, etc.)
⋆.𐙚˚ academia ࣪˖ ִֶָ𐀔
🩰 get a study buddy
🐇 attend all lectures and seminars
🩰 take detailed notes
🐇 rewrite my notes all cute after lecture
🩰 do all the assigned reading
🐇 watch videos/documentaries on stuff i don't understand
🩰 make revision cards
🐇 do all homework the day it is assigned
🩰 study systematically, a little every day
🐇 keep organized and up to date on everything
🩰 do all assignments on time
🐇 make it fun for myself
Reflections on building a better me
Exercise is not optional. Mental satisfaction from completing yet another workout cannot be overstated. Physical satisfaction from feeling good and enjoying your body in clothes, the mirror, and photos cannot be overstated. Stop messing around, stop info hoarding, go exercise. And tomorrow. And the next day. And the next day. And the next day.
Looking your best depending on circumstances (ie, casual, dressy, bedtime, etc) is not optional. External confidence from taking care of your appearance top to bottom and loving what you see in the mirror is highly valuable.
You feel better when you eat better. You’re proud of yourself when you eat better.
Hobbies, hobbies, hobbies. Do you feel embarrassed when someone asks what you do all day and you can’t come up with an honest answer that doesn’t make you sound like a loser with no life? You need hobbies. Some that are outdoors, some that are indoors. Some that are taxing, some that are relaxing. You will enjoy life more, become a more well-rounded individual, and have positive ways to spend your time rather than racking up more hours on your phone. Get some hobbies. Plural.
Procrastination and laziness should disgust you. You shouldn’t be able to relate. You should strive to be above that. You like yourself better when you complete your tasks and get things done in a timely manner. You’re proud of yourself when you’re on a roll and have a productive streak. You’re impressed by productive people and no one likes a lazy bum.
Decide what you want from life and pursue it ruthlessly. Don’t take advice from people who don’t have the life you want, unless they were once on your desired path and fell off. Even then, you listen to them when they say what NOT to do (learning from their mistakes) but clearly they don’t know what TO do bc they didn’t make it to the finish line. Take “do this” advice from people who crossed the finish line and have what you want. You’ll find that the amount of input that is actually valuable to you has suddenly dwindled. Good. Less chatter in your ears.
Get yourself in order before you go around critiquing everyone else. Get YOUR face in order. Get YOUR body right. Get YOUR money up. Get YOUR style in order. Get YOUR relationship together.
Stop coming to everyone for validation like a toddler. Validate yourself. Do you like it? Okay then. Are you over it? Okay then. Stop being so weak. Stand tall, lead yourself. Stop being such a follower.
Be a good person. Help your family, lend a hand to strangers, give back, say sorry, do things for loved ones just because, show affection, work things out, watch your mouth, speak respectfully, remember that the world owes you nothing. Stop being an insufferable freak.
You can’t change anyone but yourself. Get yourself in order and be a good role model. That’s all you can do. Give people advice when they want it and then go about your business. Get yourself in order. Get yourself in order.
Outrage content is the lowest form of entertainment. Engage in things that make you happy or educate you. Doom scrolling only leads to doom. Don’t like this person? Don’t click on their articles or videos. Unfollow and block. Don’t like these people? Leave their spaces. You don’t have to be outraged every day.
Always keep your word to yourself. Make a plan, stick to the plan, always deliver. If you can’t be reliable for yourself then who can you be reliable for?
Be a bit delulu... Believe in yourself; every goal you set yourself is archivable!! ;)
Challenging/tedious tasks first!! Get them out of the way!! ew!!
Visualise your goals!! What do you want to archive? How will you feel when you reach your goal? Write everything down, and make a cute vision card on Pinterest. Always helps me stay motivated <33
Make the most of your time. Got some free extra minutes? Start working on something from your to-do list!! :)
Organise your space. Being in a comfortable and inviting environment is so so important to be able to focus properly. Some scented candles, a cute bookshelf, some pictures…
Plan ahead, make a simple to-do list (no more than 7 points)
Fix your sleep schedule… I'm still working on this myself… once I figure out how I'll definitely make a little guide lol…
Take breaks, especially when studying. Exercise is perfect for relaxing your mind; if you don't love working out - like me... lol - going on a walk is a great option too!! <33
Be aware of procrastination… are you procrastinating right now..?
Reward yourself!! Spend some time taking care of yourself, invest time in your hobbies, eat your favourite meal, or get yourself a nice coffee… small things that make you feel good :)
As always, Please feel free to add your own suggestions and tips in the comments!! <3
✩‧₊*:・love ya ・:*₊‧✩
♡ i am refreshed and full of energy
♡ i release yesterday's burdens and start fresh
♡ i choose to attract positive energy today
♡ i am grateful for the new opportunity this morning brings
♡ today could be the best day of my life
♡ i will make a positive difference today
♡ i will accomplish my goals today
♡ today, i am prepared to work hard to create a life i love
♡ today, i will be gentle with myself
♡ i allow myself to be happy in this moment
♡ today's possibilities are endless
♡ i will live today with purpose and passion
♡ i have everything i need to make today a great day
—⊹ ⋆⁺₊⋆ ♡̴ ⋆⁺₊⋆——⊹ ⋆⁺₊⋆ ♡̴ ⋆⁺₊⋆——⊹ ⋆⁺₊⋆ ♡̴ ⋆⁺₊⋆—
fix your sleep schedule
set your key goals for the semester
organize/set up your bag, stationary, notebooks, etc.
review the syllabus for your courses
do any remaining tasks you’ll need (financial aid, housing, account set ups, etc.)
make a success plan. how will you manage distractions? what study methods do you want to try this semester? how will you stay disciplined?
reset your electronics. delete any material from the previous semester you will no longer need.
set up your organization/planning system. if you’re using notion, set up your notion. if you’re using a planner, set up your planner.
get your self care/maintenance routine down so you can have it in your routine when school starts.
make a routine. morning, evening, study, etc., it will be so much easier to manage once school starts if you get it down beforehand.
have a self care day and de-stress! going back to school can be overwhelming, but have faith in yourself. you got this!
this is literally so me coded 🪽🍰