You Should Not Be Scared Of Your Parents

Lee says:

Here’s a transitioning starter pack for all my trans folk out there!

Transfeminine resources:

Presentation:

Tucking

Chest area

Voice

Broad shoulders tips

Hair removal

Feminine walk

Curves

Waist training

Growing out your hair

Clothing

Makeup

Passing

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Estrogen & anti-androgens/testosterone blockers FAQ

The types of surgery available

Surgery: A guide for transfeminine people

Pumping (Silicone injections)

Facial Feminization Options

Breast Augmentation

Other:

Representation

Transfeminine period dysphoria

Yes, Transfeminine People Can Get Period Symptoms

Slipping into masculinity

Women’s restroom etiquette

Transfeminine people can breastfeed

Having sex or masturbating

Transmasculine resources:

Presentation:

Binding FAQ

Clothing

Facial hair

Masculine makeup

Getting short hair / Masculine long hair

If you can’t start T

Lowering your voice

Packing and standing to pee

Passing as male

Not shaving legs

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Testosterone FAQ

Top surgery

Facial masculinization surgery

Body masculinization surgery

Hysterectomy and oophorectomy

Bottom surgery (genital surgery)

Other:

Periods and related things

Help! I need to see a gyno

Pumping

Masturbation and sex

Using the men’s bathroom

Hudson’s FTM Guide

Height dysphoria

Hip dysphoria

More resources:

What gender am I? A brief intro to questioning

Trans 101 for trans people

What is the transgender umbrella?

How do I choose a name?

How do I come out at work/school or to family/friends?

Dysphoria info and tips page

Mental health coping page

Being trans in school

Non-binary resources

Resources to send allies/friends

A page to send to parents/guardians

Convincing someone to respect name/pronouns 

Here is how to get hormones in the US

Here is how to get hormones in the UK

Here’s a US resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker 

Here is a UK resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker

What are the WPATH-SOC guidelines?

How to save money

How to buy a trans-related item online without parents knowing

I have to go swimming, what do I wear/do?

Trying to sleep when you have dysphoria

Traveling by plane

Gender neutral bathrooms

Getting insurance to cover your transition

Does transitioning help mental health?

Trans teen’s experiences with inpatient hospitalization

Trans identity isn’t a mental disorder

Being religious and LGBT

Suicide and crisis hotlines

Transgender Lives: Your Stories (to see trans adults) 

Gender neutral pronouns in Spanish

Gender Variance Around the World Over Time

A map of gender-diverse cultures

American LGBT history by the National Parks Service

I just really want a girlfriend

Like I wanna cuddle her and kiss her and just appreciate and love her. That’s all I’m asking for

trying to prove a point to the boys at school

reblog this if you believe trans men are real men like this if you dont

Good resource for trans feminine followers who want to know more about vaginoplasty.

I’M NOT CRYING, YOU’RE CRYING

I need help. I live in a very abusive situation, with my parents and now my ex-girlfriend. My parents aren't bad now, but my ex keeps trying to come back, even to just be friends. I need not only advice, but support too

I’m not sure the entirety of your situation, but if it’s possible check if there are any lgbt groups in your area because they will sometimes have support groups that could help you, also I’m not aware of the past with your ex but if it was unhealthy or abusive I suggest you do your best to cut ties with her or do whatever is best for your mental and physical health, as for your parents if it gets bad you can report them if you feel safe doing so or you can seek out others in a similar scenario who may be able to offer advice on how to get through it until you can leave home, I would search through tumblr or online in general for some online support groups for abuse because there are some communities out there that can help.-Brianna

women do not have to

be thin

cook for you

have long hair

wear makeup

be feminine 

be graceful

have sex with you

shave

diet

be fashionable

wear pink

love men

listen to your bullshit

Hey, I've been having doubts about my gender. Like, I don't feel dysphoric all the time, and at the times I'm not, I just feel content with my body. Like I don't love or hate it, I just accept what it is for right now. But when dysphoria hits, its debilitating and the dysphoria is hitting harder than ever right now, but I can't transition or do anything because of transphobic family. Is it normal to experience fluctuating dysphoria also, tips for managing it while still basically closeted (mtf)

Yes. it’s normal for fluctuations to happen with dysphoria. We all have bad days, we all have good days.

So then, finding exceptions to the transphobic slogans help.

Only 2 sexes? Um, intersex people exist Body hair? Hair is common.Big frame? Uh… Exists. Gal Gadot is 5'10" Allison Janey is 5'11". And Lane Bryant exists so…Shoes? Sigh. There are specialty shoes sizes, and some stylish shoes can be uncomfortable so you’d be taking them off at your seat already. (I just want to mention that size outliers exist for other parts of wardrobes, and also condoms & I’d guess tampons. Those are usually tailors & prescriptions.)Reproduction? Growing a human population requires keeping ourselves alive too, so doing a job, babysitting, etc, those help too.Makeup? Do whatever, everything is an aesthetic if you find the words for it.

That being said other people suck, and we can’t control them. Therefore, like look for other things to do to adapt to this/them. Admittedly this part I don’t know much on.

However, I do have mental illness. So generally making a to-do & i-did list helps out a lot. Also journaling can help.[1]

and yeah, walking/hiking to where you’re constantly trying to decide on a path, breathing, learning stuff, doing puzzles, writing instructions for things, all of that can help. Video poker like those handheld games like on your phone can be nifty too.

Good Luck, Peace & Love,Eve

[1]If you’re worried about privacy for your journals I’d develop a short-hand of abbreviations. Personally, for mine I focused on the little words like by, to, of, -’s, anyway, so yeah, basically, like, just, which I turned to x, t, v, -z, anwa, s yh, bscly, lk, js. You would want to look up texting short-hand in different languages & mix & match them. Also consider doing creative spelling when forming your shorthand. If you do it good they’ll be distracted by all the short-hand & not get you’re writing in code. For proper nouns, basically make a word association with it, perhaps use emoji. If lacking emoji for that write “such&such emoji”. Rhyming slangs can help too.