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happy holidays, merry christmas,,, uhhhh happy birthday? that probably covers everything for the next few months or maybe forever your welcome
are u a pat hug, rub hug, squeeze hug, or no hug kind of person?
I NEED THIS TO HAPPEN NOW!!!!
just a handsome green eyed glen powell in green… and seriously i need him and jensen ackles to play brothers in a movie or something. xD scruffy texan brothers with green/hazel eyes.
endlessly circling
something something the song & dance of a constant push & pull regarding control etc
quick thing i did over the weekend w this ref. posting it bc the looking away is important but i had to cover it up lol
Preferred Name
The other day a friends parent introduced me to some of her friends by my preferred name. It made me so happy in the moment I could barely mutter a greeting because she was the first adult in my life who knew me before by my birth name and made the intentional change to my preferred name. It got me thinking about preferred names and this came to my mind as a message to those who don’t call others by their preferred names:
Imagine you work with a person. Not in close proximity but you know of each other. Imagine one of your mutual coworkers as a joke tells this person that your preferred name is Bucket.
This person takes that information and continues to refer to you as Bucket even correcting other coworkers into call you by that name. You don’t know where the source is so you can’t stop it. And this continues for years.
Then finally you two get moved and start working together regularly. You finally get the chance to correct this person on what your really name is.
Their response: “but I’ve always known you as Bucket calling you anything else would be so hard. So I’ll just call you Bucket if that’s okay”
This continues. They call you Bucket every time you speak. They introduce you to new people as Bucket they call you Bucket in front of large groups of people and people who know your real name who get confused.
They don’t stop and when you correct them their response is: “sorry but it’s just hard to change and remember”
Wouldn’t you be frustrated? Wouldn’t you be annoyed? Wouldn’t you be uncomfortable?
Respect people. Respect their names. Don’t make excuses. It’s not hard to understand.