I have a lot of friends that I share one or two diagnoses with, but they either have better support or just don’t struggle as much with the stuff that makes it hard to work and whatnot. It’s frustrating when I make a small inane comment about what I can and cannot do and they correct me based on their experiences
Disability is such a spectrum and I don't even know if you could truly say two people have the exact same ability level. That's why the whole "I can do this why can't you?" line that a lot of disabled ableists push is so frustrating. Babe, they can't do that because they don't have the exact same set of circumstances in their life and body that allows you to do the thing. There's a lot of varying ability and access within a diagnosis and just because you can do a thing with your diagnosis doesn't mean everyone else with that diagnosis can too.