i also think for the nb's / they/thems, all their obsession with gender and supposed breaking of its norms is totally a replacement for a personality where there isn't much of one. i know thats a common refrain nowadays, "get a real personality" but it's totally true in this case.
because if you're sooo outside the gender binary, then why the hell do you talk about it all the time!!!
nonbinaries and they/thems who are female and were raised as girls do tend to have the weirdest complexes. they're always like "i hate pink so i must not be a girl" or "i hate painting my nails so i must not be a girl" are you dumb. like genuinely, are you stupid. i went through a phase of 'i wish i was a boy' but it absolutely had nothing to do with superficial things like nail painting and everything to do with "menstruating is kind of scary at first" and "oh shit i really could become pregnant" ..... i feel like almost every woman has gone thru that.
even the straightest men paint their nails now. i feel like its never been more normal for women to go out barefaced, in baggy jeans, and still be....women. so. youre going to have to find some other thing to channel your internalized misogyny through, babes.