was talking about my father (who i am estranged from and have been for 13 months) in public to my mom. i bring up how his wife, my stepmother, is an enabler and let him treat me horribly, and some random lady was like "you shouldn't talk about family like that"
ma'am. madam. you were not there. what gives you the right to judge how i should act and talk about a situation that traumatized me??
my father is a diagnosed overt narcissist. for the years i was in middle school all the way til my last semester of freshman year, he treated me and ONLY me (not his other 3 kids) like shit consistently. there's probably a hundred incidents that went down in the 3 years leading up to our estrangement. my stepmother doesn't deserve all the blame because though she is an enabler for his terrible behavior, he is the one that is unwilling to change. it should not have been up to the me of last year to call a 34 year old man out on his bullshit. i was 14.
istg the discussions of mental health on tiktok have made some people irl absolutely insufferable. "he can't control his actions and he doesn't know what he's doing" he's a fucking adult. i don't feel bad about it because sorry, i don't care what he was going through, there's no reason in the world your precious ego should come before the respect of your kid. it would be different if he treated all 4 of us the same and we would have common ground, but it is just ME. they don't know how it's been.
anyway i told her to mind her business bc wtf