Pro Endo - Blog Posts

Exactly, all systems are different in their own, beautiful ways.

Just like knowing an autistic person means you know one autistic person, knowing a system means you know one system. Systemhood/plurality is an incredibly diverse experience and it's impossible to get the full scope of the lives of every system out there by talking to one system, or even just a handful.

What feels restricting to one system may fit another perfectly. What feels comfortable to one system may make another feel dehumanized. Something that's a common experience in one system may be downright impossible in another. And on and on with many personal preferences and experiences.

This is fine, and normal. We're all unique, whether that's unique as individuals or unique as collectives. Just remember that the way one system works has no bearing on how another works; do not presume you know everything about systems just due to your own experiences or those you've talked to. It all depends on the system/plural/person in question.

NORMALIZE IN-SYS RELATIONSHIPS!!!!

Okay aggressive title aside I wanna talk about romantic headmate relationships

I want expressing them to be more normalized!!! I think it's generally well known at this point that headmates can have relationships with each other. But I never see it talked about much beyond that it's a thing that happens.

I wanna hear about how people experience their relationships. I wanna hear what folks do together and how they express their love.

But something we especially wanna hear is how systems do physical affection.

"Physical affection?! But you only have one body!" THAT DOES NOT STOP US IN FACT IT MAKES IT EXTREMELY INTIMATE

We hold our own hands. We kiss our own body. We wrap our arms around ourself. And we want this to be normalized. Okay sure maybe it looks a little odd at first, but this is normal to us. And we want others to see it as normal and okay too.

(I swear to fucking god if "showing headmate affection on camera" becomes the new thing used to fakeclaim like how switching on camera is I will YELL)

I wanna be able to show our affection in front of someone else and make them uncomfortable NOT BECAUSE IT'S OUR OWN BODY but because they're being a third wheel just like to singlet couples.

As awareness of plurality continues to spread online, that also means more and more people will realize they are plural. And unfortunately, there will be a response from certain gatekeepy exclusionist types, who will push back against these newfound systems and insist on invalidating them. They’ll insist they’re just hopping on a trend, or just fooling themselves, or whatever other justification they can make up to maintain the idea that being plural is extremely rare and being plural means suffering for it.

Don’t fall for it. Being plural presents challenges and difficulties without question, but being plural also can bring joys and clarity that weren’t possible otherwise. Being plural can be hard, and it can be beautiful.

No two systems present and function exactly the same ways. No two systems are plural for the exact same reasons. So we can’t expect there to be an absolute common trait present in every system. So any attempt to weed out the “fakers” is pointless and malicious.

If someone believes themself to be plural, they have good reason to. No further “proof” needed. If someone comes to us believing themself to be plural, we will help them along without critique or question. And above all we will be happy for them. Even if someday they realize they aren’t plural, that process of being allowed to question and experiment is so important, and they should be allowed to do so regardless of where they end up.

Plurality is a spectrum that encompasses a vast swathe of experiences and outlooks. It can be difficult to reckon with, which is why community is so vital. And as that community online grows and becomes more and more visible, we should all do our part, systems and singlets, to make sure these newfound systems feel safe, seen, and welcome.

I am here to be silly. I am here to. I don't know. I can't tell who I am which is stupid and stupid. I keep thinking it's an unidentified kinshift, and if it is, it's lute from hazbin hotel and I don't really have a connection to her really???? The other option is that I'm korvis.

Wth is a trans system??? I am not thinking that it's a system who are all trans, cause it's something dealing with radendo wth is a radendo WHERE ARE THESE TERMS COMING FROM I'M CRYING. I have seen TransDID before which.... It like, doesn't make too much sense to me cause like- what how does... Are people trying to say they are a created system? Accepted their plurality? Why is trans in front of it. I'm so confused what, it just doesn't make, sense?

Tumblr what the fuck, why are you showing me anti endo posts 😭, I okay. MAKE IT MAKE SENSE TUMBLR, please pro/neutrals interact, and people who dislike the notion of syscourse

I love them so much I love them so much they are my husbands. They are MY HUSBANDS. They're both stinky, I love my stinky men, they're stinky and GAY

Charles smells like ||alcohol||, oil, soot, debris

Murro smells like the Wilderness, however tf a boar smells like and his body odor

I smell like rain. It's a match made in heaven this is amazing

Please I'm gonna be posting my ass off. These aren't to be "professional" looking I was just doodling for fun I love doodling got fun... Stupid creatures/aff

Even as someone who is pro-endogenic, I think it is important to say that the research done on DID, OSDD, and other trauma-based dissociative conditions is still valuable and important, even if you’re not a traumagenic system.

I’m not saying you need to be an expert or spend several hours reading so many books and peer-reviewed papers that you might as well have a PhD. I’m saying that having a basic grasp of concepts like C-PTSD, structural dissociation, and the core clinical models of trauma-based plurality will help you become a better ally to traumagenic systems, mixed-origin systems (like me), and traumatized endogenic systems.

I’ve noticed that some endogenic spaces have a tendency to either dismiss research on traumagenic systems as irrelevant or criticize it for not including endogenic experiences. But here’s the thing… that doesn’t mean the existing research is wrong. It’s just focused on a different population of people whose system formed because of trauma.

Research doesn’t extensively talk about endogenic or mixed-origin systems because those aren’t typically studied in a clinical (i.e., pathological) context. That doesn’t make our experiences less valid. It just means we exist outside the current research. And that’s okay. But it is still good to understand where traumagenic systems are coming from because not all of us are without trauma, and we need you as an ally. Especially if we want mutual respect and solidarity within plural spaces.

I think about this a lot because if endogenic spaces were a lot more like this a few years ago, I would’ve gotten support and found community a lot sooner. It has gotten a lot better since the last time I’ve been in plural spaces, but there is still more room to grow.

Can we stop saying people with covert DID/OSDD or other covert forms of plurality are privileged? Maybe I’m missing something, but I don’t understand how suffering in a way that goes unnoticed is more privileged than suffering in a way that’s noticed.

Both have their ups and downs person-to-person. So what makes one more privileged than the other?

We always get reduced to our source except with our partner... Even our friends do it and it's really upsetting...

Sy doesn't like talking because he's reduced to his source but he's nothing line his source... Steve too... Billy was scared Dustin (our friend's) would hate him because their fictive are *very* sourcependent...

-c

Fictives and fictionkind deserve to be treated like normal people.

Fictives and fictionkind deserve understanding.

Fictives and fictionkind deserve to not just be reduced to their source if they don't want to.

Fictives and fictionkind deserve to have their feelings taken seriously.

Okay start this with a song I suppose, shall we-

We're The Wild West System.

Please be patient with us. We kind of discovered we're a system mid 2024 shortly before meeting our partner sys. We're mostly made up of fictives. (If you want to know sources or the difference. Ask and they may tell you!)

Collective name: Eddie

System nicknames: West/Crow

Collective Pronouns: He/They

Collective Orient: Bi

Body Age: 21

Disorders: ADHD, PTSD

Suspected Disorders: OCD...

Hobbies: reading, writing, painting

Hyperfixes: ALWAYS changing

Body/Hosts: Writer, M and Crowly, BJ, Shawn Spencer

Co-Hosts: Peter Parker, Steve Harrington, Wade Wilson, Tony Stark,

We'll post using our SP sign offs and try to tag who posted if not uh... Good luck out there with our posts!

We don't know terms really yet so all your hoodoo voodoo terms makes us

Please RB if your blog is a safe space for all non-traumagenic, mixed origin, etc. systems

I get people come to me for places to learn about systems, I need to give them some blogs that won't turn them into a sysmed

//: can we jjust talk about anti-endos for a second?

//: it’s just like... imagine basically saying to someone, “you aren’t real” “ii don’t believe in your existence and you thinking you exist is harmful”

//: it feels hypocritical. it IS hypocritical. because thats what ssome closed-minded singlets say to traumagenics too, surely

//: just because we didn’t form from trauma doesn’t mean we didn’t form at all.

//: and so what? wwe’re just existing. we aren’t hurting anyone.

//: we understand why anti-endos believe what they do about us, and why they believe us eexisting is harmful to them, but it still isn’t right and it’s still hypocritical. y’know?