i genuinely do just think it's transparently regressive in a weird turnaround way that the only way the people of this website enjoy a het ship is if the ENTIRE focus is on how awesome and hot and perfect and unstoppable a woman is and how the man is like there to make googly eyes at her and get like nonspecifically dommed-by-implication and we never get ANY thoughts about what she sees in him or what emotional needs are fulfilled for her besides the implication that what every woman wants is someone whos obsessed with her. you people love to find new creative ways to ignore womens interiority