was talking about my father (who i am estranged from and have been for 13 months) in public to my mom. i bring up how his wife, my stepmother, is an enabler and let him treat me horribly, and some random lady was like "you shouldn't talk about family like that"
ma'am. madam. you were not there. what gives you the right to judge how i should act and talk about a situation that traumatized me??
my father is a diagnosed overt narcissist. for the years i was in middle school all the way til my last semester of freshman year, he treated me and ONLY me (not his other 3 kids) like shit consistently. there's probably a hundred incidents that went down in the 3 years leading up to our estrangement. my stepmother doesn't deserve all the blame because though she is an enabler for his terrible behavior, he is the one that is unwilling to change. it should not have been up to the me of last year to call a 34 year old man out on his bullshit. i was 14.
istg the discussions of mental health on tiktok have made some people irl absolutely insufferable. "he can't control his actions and he doesn't know what he's doing" he's a fucking adult. i don't feel bad about it because sorry, i don't care what he was going through, there's no reason in the world your precious ego should come before the respect of your kid. it would be different if he treated all 4 of us the same and we would have common ground, but it is just ME. they don't know how it's been.
anyway i told her to mind her business bc wtf
Reminder
People who tell you to respect their boundaries and they don't respect yours are toxic.
People who constantly remind you about their favours are toxic
People who take up for someone but won't take up for you even if the situation is same are toxic
People who want respect but don't give respect are toxic
People who are nice can be toxic
People who expect you to cross oceans for them but they won't cross a puddle for you are toxic
People from your own family can be toxic
People from your friend group can be toxic
People who frustrate you purposely to irritate you are toxic
People who stress you out just for fun are toxic
People who blame you for expressing emotions are toxic
People who misuse your kindness are toxic.
People who call you "dramatic" and dismiss your emotions are toxic
People who take more than they give are toxic
People who don't want to adjust with you but expect you to are toxic
People who violate your peace of mind continuously are toxic
People who make you apologize for something that isn't your fault are toxic
People who make you seem like the bad guy are toxic.
People who never apologize for their faults are toxic
People who never acknowledge that they're wrong are toxic
People can be toxic. People can be toxic even if they're your family, friends, collogues, classmates, spouses. Remember. That.
It is better to be aware than to be ignorant. Don't let anyone treat you badly. You deserve all the respect you get.