saying becoming genderfluid was when you stopped trying to force yourself into conventional womyn standards is odd to be common within 'progressive' communities because those traditional beauty standards arent actually based on any fact. you shouldnt base your womynhood on if you like makeup or dresses or long hair because they are all stereotypes.
i dont believe most womyn actually like being 'feminine'. heels are uncomfortable, makeup is time consuming and difficult, dresses/skirts require you to sit awkwardly in order to not flash people, etc..
saying you arent a womyn because you dont conform to harmful stereotypes is just affirming them in a different way.
being a gnc womyn is powerful. you dont have to not identify as a womyn to not conform to toxic beauty standards.