the main reason i hate charmie nonsense, in a few perfectly stated succinct paragraphs
in any other context the whole "everything person x does is a sign that points to their partner" would be seen as an indication of abusive dynamics in the relationship (or at the very least cause for concern). it wouldn't be applauded or indulged in by anyone with a modicum of sense. but expecting charmies to not engage in fantasies of abuse and control and dehumanisation is like expecting a fish to not swim.
They cannot allow Tim to have a single moment of triumph on his own. To them, he's always thinking about, behaving for, and pandering to Armie and his stans. The business with the TIFF jacket is so insane, I can't.
They demean Tim's entire life by making his every waking moment about a man. Never mind that it's AH. It's insulting on every level and would be for anyone whose existence has been reduced to what any adult would see as teenage behavior. Imagine believing a grown man - 27 yo and a world famous celebrity - is so obsessed with his sekrit lover that he's compelled to "leave clues" for the faithful Charmies since only they can understand and support his authentic self. JFC.
In that sense, I agree with you that the way they talk about their ship sounds like a Victorian novel written by women who've never had sex.
This has been going on for years and it still surprises me. As a Tim stan, it's maddening. I suppose their own lives are so narrow and all they have is this Charmie fantasy that they can't imagine Tim's life isn't just as narrow. It isn't.
This TIFF jacket is ridic. They are completely erasing the significance of that moment for Tim as an actor in his own right to make it all about a hug between former costars. Forget the actual significance of that suit to both Tim and Haider- Tim's first red carpet for a starring lead role in a suit by Haider as a designer on his own. It was their first foray together as their own men. Wearing it yesterday, I can guaran-fucking-tee it had fuckall to do with Armie Hammer.