I'm don't know why people are so resistant to the idea of Bruce Wayne being a bad dad. Some people are not cut out to be parents and that doesn't mean they're terrible people, it just means they are not The Guy to be raising functional non-traumatized adults. Bruce Wayne is most definitely not that guy; no matter how nice he is to those kids he is raising them in a constant climate of war and brutality and they are being conditioned to think terror and trauma are acceptable things for kids to go through because he is too broken to see that they are not.
You can make him kind and compassionate and loving without rubbing away all his flaws. Bruce Wayne's failings are part of what makes him so relatable and endearing and scrubbing him clean of them takes away what makes him feel human.