Gender Non-conforming - Blog Posts
I love it too bits Veops says: TRANS RIGHTS
art trade with @thinthle !
Something that always has bothered me in fanfics (or just any work of fiction period) is when the female main character is so insistent on trying to be anti-feminine. And I’m not saying if you’re a masculine woman or a gender non-conforming woman you should feel ashamed about not expressing femininity, you do what makes you feel comfortable and happy, but what I am saying is it always fucks with me how alienated it is in media.
comments like “(x) tried to get me to wear a dress, like that would ever happen” or “I don’t understand how they (another woman) can wear so much makeup” and other comments similar have never sat right with me because of the implications they have. The implication being because they (the character) doesn’t participate in feminine things such as wearing makeup or dresses is in some way better or more desirable than the women who do. But at the same time this also alienates women who participate in masculinity.
Typically these characters are just feminine enough to remind the audience they’re women and make them desirable, but just masculine enough to be different and worthy of being idolized. Because masculine women don’t retain the femininity these women in media display (not saying they can’t be feminine just saying their femininity isn’t represented in the media we consume) we often make fun of them for being hyper masculine.
But this also affects gender non conforming women, as they have been so romanticized and idealized when they aren’t able to meet the expectations our media has set up for them they’re scrutinized and attacked. Creating an endless cycle nobody can truly win.
TLDR; media romanticizes and depicts the wrong parts of women the wrong way and screw everyone over and it’s very disappointing.
so in the last couple of months two families i know have had children come out as trans, and i’ve offered to help the families find resources. aside from not always remember what i wish i would have known when i came out - i’m finding a lot of resources about parenting trans children that are written by cis people, or published by cis-led organizations.
does anyone have recommendations on parenting resources
1. written by trans people
2. published by trans-led orgs
TSER is there obviously, but i’m looking for resources for parents rather than teachers? and PFLAG & Gender Spectrum both seem pretty cis-lead.
Here are some Pride Planets!! There are 28 in total and I will link the posts of the other 20!
1. Demiromatic 2. Demisexual 3. Greysexual
4. Abrosexual 5. Polysexual 6. Omnisexual
7. Polyamorous 8. Gender non-comforming
Pm me for any flags I missed or any personal combination of flags!
grenda(n) with the trans coded jacket this season is warming my lil gender non conforming heart <3
In the Mishnah, Rabbi Yosi makes the radical statement: “androgynos bria bifnei atzma hu / the androgynos he is a created being of her own.” This Hebrew phrase blends male and female pronouns to poetically express the complexity of the androgynos’ identity. The term bri’a b’ifnei atzmah is a classical Jewish legal term for exceptionality. This term is an acknowledgement that not all of creation can be understood within binary categories. It recognizes the possibility that uniqueness can burst through the walls that demarcate our society. The Hebrew word bria (created being) explicitly refers to divine formation; hence this term also reminds us that all bodies are created in the image of God. People can’t always be easily defined; they can only be seen and respected, and their lives made holy. This Jewish approach allows for genders beyond male and female. It opens up space in society for every body. And it protects those who live in the places in between.
Rabbi Elliot Rose Kukla and Reuben Zellman