Femininity - Blog Posts
"𝐎𝐡, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐣𝐨𝐲 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐘𝐞𝐚𝐡 𝐈 𝐚𝐦, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐞 𝐎𝐡, 𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐝, 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐝, 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐝"
𝐈𝐧 𝐌𝐲 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐝, 𝐈𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐚.𝐀𝐫𝐢𝐞
꧁♥ “I ᴀᴍ ɴᴏᴛ ᴍʏ ʜᴀɪʀ, I ᴀᴍ ɴᴏᴛ ᴛʜɪs sᴋɪɴ, I ᴀᴍ ᴛʜᴇ sᴏᴜʟ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʟɪᴠᴇs ᴡɪᴛʜɪɴ” ♥꧂
I Am Not My Hair, India Arie
ever since I became aware of jkr's true beliefs and actions, I have not bought any hp merchandise. I haven't seen any of her stuff in theaters or on streaming or anywhere else. I have not given her any money in years.
however, I read the fanfiction. I look at the posts. but she is not getting any royalty checks from AO3 or tumblr.
people who boycott anything to do with jkr are awesome! admirable, even. but that will never eradicate her. that won't erase the millions of people who just don't know or don't care, or, even worse, agree with her. and, if you do boycott her stuff, I hope you don't have hbomax because she is getting royalty checks for that. it doesn't matter if you don't watch hp or fantastic beasts - part of your monthly fee goes directly to her.
but what if we take her characters from her? we won't get money for it, obviously, but neither will she. I see more hp/marauders fanfics with genderqueer characters than I do without. we can make her characters LGBT, socialist, feminine icons, all the things she hates, and she won't get a cent from it.
go ahead and keep boycotting her if you still think that's what's best, but stop telling me I can't support hp without supporting jkr because, yes, I fucking can.
As I navigate through healing my traumas, I often think about how many women in my lineage have endured the same painful lessons I have. Our traumas run much deeper than this lifetime; our current reality is built on the back of a capitalist patriarchal society that relentlessly attacks the divine feminine. In order to truly know myself, I must know and accept my matriline. The women before me are all reflections of the woman I am today.
What did the women before me go through?
What have they passed on to me, from generation to generation?
What strengths of mine belong to them? What pain of mine belongs to them?
I admire the women before me for their strength needed to navigate in a patriarchal world that disparages women. I empathize with the generations of powerful women who had to sacrifice, fight, protect. Who were made to neglect their needs, stay small, remain silent..
I commend my matriline for their resilience, though I know their fierce femininity inevitably grew battered and bruised.
I accept the pain and trauma they have passed on to me, for if I don’t recognize it, I may continue to pass it on to those after me. I accept my ancestral trauma because I am the one in the bloodline who will transmute it.
I don’t just identify with their wounds and suffering; for they also passed to me their strength, vigor, and power. I come from a bloodline of magical, intuitive women; of serene stoics. My matrline has passed down keen judgment, sharp observation, honorable virtues, unshakable intelligence. I come from a matriline that have razor-sharp instincts, even if they didn’t always know how to follow them. I sit on generation after generation of wisdom.
I cherish and honor the women before me, because the lessons they’ve learned have led to the woman I am today. 🕯️🦋🕸️👣💌
I love this!!! It's such a cute guide to wonyoungism, and it's super helpful for people starting out with this kind of aesthetic lifestyle !!
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wonyoungism: a guide
wonyoungism is inspired by jang wonyoung and mixes a coquette, cute, pink pilates princess style with self improvement to help us become the best and healthiest versions of ourselves!
ways to express wonyoungism
have a morning routine
a morning routine helps set the tone for the rest of your day. while you can include whatever you want, typical wonyoungism morning routines include waking up early, stretching, skincare, drinking tea or lemon water, and doing your makeup and hair. do what works for you and makes you feel the best!
take care of your skin
research your skin type and find what products and routines will work best for you. no need for fancy or expensive products! in my experience, minimalism works best for my skin. a good cleanser and moisturizer are key, but you can also include things like toner, exfoliating scrubs, night cream, eye cream, and serums if you need or want them. wonyoung is an ambassador for innisfree skincare products, like these:
have a nutritious, balanced diet
having a nutritious diet keeps you healthy and energized, helps your skin and hair, makes you feel good, and has so many other benefits! focus on getting your daily servings of fruit and veggies and getting your protein and other nutrients and vitamins in, but don’t restrict yourself to the point of bad mental health. here’s a good chart to start with!
find a daily exercise regimen
most workouts you’ll find with wonyoungism are pilates, walking, and yoga (which i highly recommend!) but find a workout plan that YOU like! there are so many different types of workouts out there, and you shouldn’t force yourself to do something you hate. try out different things and figure out what works best for you. if you do want to practice pilates and yoga, here are some good channels on youtube:
move with nicole
dansique fitness
yoga with kassandra
eleni fit
sanne vloet
bailey brown
implement productive habits into your day
instead of mindlessly scrolling in your free time, try to implement productive and healthy activities. these things can include:
working out or stretching
drawing or painting
researching something that interests you
learn a new skill or a new language
read
write short stories
make a new playlist
go outside/go for a walk/spend time in nature
journal
make a vision board
be kind to yourself
sounds self explanatory, but it can be so much harder than it sounds for some of us. it may take some time, but realize that you are only human and you are doing the best you can. it’s okay to not feel as healthy or happy as you think you should, but you are absolutely valid and it is okay to be gentle with yourself. you are the only you there will ever be, embrace being you!
have an evening routine
evening/night routines are important because it closes out your day and gets you ready for a good nights sleep. it’s so helpful to have an evening routine that helps you wind down and get relaxed mentally and physically. this can include whatever makes you feel calm and happy, but it can also include things like stretching, lighting a candle, skincare, reading, meditation, and drinking a warm drink like tea!
happy international women’s day to all the lovely badass ladies out there. keep being you.
If you stop wearing makeup, stop getting manicures, stop plucking your eyebrows and dyeing and heat treating your hair and fastidiously putting on night repair serums and pinching your feet into pointy heels and sucking yourself in with spanx and wearing impractical lingerie and bleaching the tiny hairs above your lip, the world won’t stop. You’ll be the same strong, compelling, lovely woman you always have been. Just as radiant, just as worthy of love and desire and respect. Other people may treat you differently, but that doesn’t alter your value as a woman. Your value transcends your conformity to femininity.