“Dedma” has been an interesting word for me. I never personally used it but it’s been on my mind for the longest time.
ignoring • the act of ignoring • feigning unawareness • short for "dead malice"
Like it doesn’t just mean ignoring!! It is used with the assumption that someone did you wrong. Like it specifically has something to do with someone who you are trying to be petty with. It’s inherently petty.
It’s interesting to me that we had to create words like these to describe this specific action. We couldn’t just say, “pabayaan mo na.” NO.
We created and use this word because we feel the need to acknowledge or recognize the idea that we are deliberately ignoring someone to keep our own peace, when in fact, we are being petty as hell.
Don’t you think that’s fucking interesting? We are so obsessed with the image of our lives that we try to describe our own experiences for other people in fear of them mischaracterizing us. We have to shape our slangs and language around the idea of being perceived.
We can’t just say we’re ignoring someone. No, we have to say that we’re ignoring them in spite of their shitty attitude. We have to make sure that we are in the right. This slang was so intentionally created for the sake of the “bigger person”.
That shit is interesting to me. To me, personally, I can never use this word because I can never be so petty, though I wish I could. “Dedma.” Wow. Using this word really does give you the image of the bigger person.