also same for anything saying u have to be polite to scary or creepy men or else you're putting yourself in danger. WRONG. men like that see a 'polite' woman as an easy target. being rude to or ignoring a guy you think might be dangerous tells him u aren't going along with it and he will 99% of the time give up. in contrast giving in to a small request or being 'nice' makes it much harder for u to leave the situation or say no later, google the foot in the door phenomenon