The “actions over intentions” take bothers me especially when used to determine the level of respect a person deserves because it feels unfair to treat someone who did something that hurt people by accident, was told what they did wrong, apologized, and made a genuine effort to not make the same mistake in the future the same way you would treat someone who is going out of their way to cause harm and doesn’t plan on changing anytime soon.
Yeah, ignorant people are annoying, but ignorance is very different from straight up malice. Besides, it’s just not possible for someone to be educated on every possible issue in the world even if they’re trying their best, and people are complicated and make mistakes.