Post Too Much Sad Shit I Should Go On An Aesthetic Spree

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it really is convenient that when people want to erase and minimize the danger that trans mascs face there's suddenly never a middle step between being pre-everything and being fully transitioned and perfectly passing, and trans mascs are always conveniently the safest one in every situation.

trans mascs have "afab privilege" because at any given moment they could just pretend to be a conventionally feminine cis woman for safety (which as we know has no associated trauma or danger to it whatsoever).

and of course trans mascs Also have male privilege, because at any given moment they can Only be read as cis men so long as they don't disclose that they're trans (because it's So Easy for trans people to be gender conforming to everyone's standards 100% of the time with no risk of being outed, obviously).

there's never a thought given towards what happens to trans mascs who are somewhere in between or who present one way in the wrong situation.

what happens to the trans masc who's been on T for 10 years who's visibly pregnant? who needs to escape an abusive situation? are they supposed to just perfectly pass as a cis woman to never experience transphobia and get the help that they need? is that their afab privilege at work?

what happens to people who are too masculine to pee in women's restrooms without the risk of getting harassed (or potentially arrested or murdered) but too feminine to risk getting clocked in the men's restrooms? is it male privilege to be afraid of what might happen to you no matter where you go?

and what happens to the fully transitioned trans mascs who don't Want to be masculine, who don't Want to be gender conforming? what happens to the trans mascs who are pre-everything who don't Want to be feminine?

are trans mascs supposed to just conform to whatever gender people Think they should be regardless of how they feel about it forever? and then what, disappear in the middle and come back when they're "Basically Cis Men" ?

what if you don't Want top surgery? what if you don't Want bottom surgery? what if you Can't do hrt for health or safety or money reasons? are you supposed to just suffer forever and choose the safest way to present and call it Privilege?

and none of this is Only relevant to trans mascs, of course it's not.

but trans mascs never get spoken about like we're visibly trans or visibly gnc (unless it's to make fun of us for having huge tits and wanting to go by he/him). and That's what erasure is. to pretend like our experiences do not exist and insist that we don't Deserve help or community because we Obviously have it so easy.

TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN

SOME TRANS MEN MIGHT ALSO IDENTIFY AS CIS WOMEN BUT THAT IS NOT THE MAJORITY OF TRANS MEN

AND MOST OF US ARE NOT TREATED AS CIS WOMEN JUST BECAUSE WE DONT PASS

A LOT OF US ARE INTERSEX AND HAVE HIRSUTISM OR ARE VERY VISIBLY TRANS OR GENDER NONCONFORMING AND WE GET TREATED LIKE SHIT FOR IT BY SOCIETY BECAUSE WE ARE QUEER AND OPPRESSED

STOP PRETENDING LIKE YOU KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THE EXPERIENCE OF TRANS MEN WHEN YOURE A TRANS WOMAN THAT DOESNT KNOW A GODDAMN THING ABOUT US OR OUR OPPRESSION

CALLING TRANS MEN "CIS WOMEN" IS SO DEEPLY TRANSPHOBIC ON ITS OWN JESUS FUCKING CHRIST

Hmm

I just saw a critique of “oh so transmascs can use a word which is clumsy in its etymology to talk on their oppression and we can’t criticize that, but TME/TMA is able to be criticized on that basis?”

And… it’s kinda different when you actually put these two things in context.

TMA/TME as a binary like cis/trans or multispec/mono or aspec/allo is on a first-stage of language creation, as far as I’m aware. There hasn’t been a 6+ year-long history of trying new words in the face of people nitpicking etymology while having the actual issue behind the needing a new term not engaged with in the meantime which proves that the word isn’t the actual problem and that this is only in-bad-faith in order to shut us up.

I understand the frustration, I even get a knee-jerk reaction to being told that the language you’re using is maybe not the best language (especially considering some of these people were the ones actively utilizing that tactic against transmascs wanting to speak on our issues; they’d be extra prone to be wary of this tactic). But a critique of the word choice itself being harmful isn’t in-and-of-itself a bad-faith critique, especially when it’s on a first attempt at the language and not a nitpick about etymology but a problem with labelling other people’s experiences as being totally exempt for them.

Like. On the surface you can make the “oh so transmascs don’t have to be perfect in their language but transfems do?” argument. But when you actually dig into what’s being discussed it really isn’t that simple.

Once got called a ‘another white TME’ by a transandrophobe, which is funny considering the fact that my profile picture is literally the Iraq flag. I’d argue that flag specifically is hard as hell to mistake for a queer flag, so I have no idea what they were thinking when they called me that

DFSKJGH

MATE DOESN'T IT HAVE ALLAHU'AKBAR ON IT???

discrimination is when sex toys apparently

why are people so willing to throw young transmascs under the bus :( feels like our own community still sees us as hysterical girls that can’t be trusted to make our own choices

the spectre of "transmasculinity as a disease which corrupts the purity of cis girlhood" remains strong I see.

Also "testosterone works just as well at 25" GIRL THE GROWTH PLATES. GIRL THE HIP BONES.

Ok, I want to preface this by asking you to please not immediately react with denial, anger, or accuse me of neglecting other groups, or just being uneducated.

Look up

'trans people india'

'trans people pakistan'

'trans people bangladesh'

'trans people malaysia'

'trans people turkey'

'trans people afghanistan'

'trans people tajkistan'

Look at interviewers, new reporters, trans life accounts, descriptions of trans communities, trans activists, autobiographies, protests, everything.

And ask yourself.

Where are the trans men?

And do not balk, or accuse me of saying trans men are the most oppressed group in the world,

When I tell you they are enslaved. Or married. Or dead.

saw someone in the tags talking about being a "transmasc isolationist" in response to transandrophobia-

no! not that! the response to exclusionary ideologies shouldn't be more exclusion! that's how we got here in the first place!