Hey Tumblr Users, Is It Bodily Autonomy To Be Denied Transitional Surgeries Because Society Wants You

hot take apparently, maybe let's not make a word to demean a group of people. like, ever. when has that ever gone well. let's stop now please, no more words. we're done now

the English language is over

It's like some people think intersectionality is a math problem?

Trans + man = cancels out so no oppression

Trans + woman = double oppression

And that's just? Not how real life works? Like you can't come to a conclusion via logic math problem and then insist it's reality because it makes sense inside the theory you've crafted.

You have to check it actually aligns with what is happening out in the world - Which is trans men sharing all the ways systemic and institutional transphobia targets us and affects us.

You can't just tell us to shut up because you like your theory better and you're upset our lived experience messes it up.

You can't tell us we don't experience what we live every day?

So you hate pancakes ass moment fr

The average woman working in the healthcare industry cannot comprehend a transgender man existing.

TRANS, NONBINARY, AND INTERSEX PEOPLE OF COLOR DO NOT FUCKING HAVE PRIVILEGE OVER WHITE ANYONE ARE YOU FUCKING FOR REAL????????????

"Transandrophobia isn't real because that implies trans women oppress trans men" it doesn't, but do you think this way because you think transmisogyny means trans men oppress trans women?

"Transandrophobia is reactionary to transmisogyny and is just a way to make trans men feel special and more important" it isn't, but do you think that way because you think Transmisogyny is more "special and important" than other forms of oppression?

"Androphobia and misandry aren't real, so transandrophobia can't be" because you're basing your viewpoint on transmisogyny, and misogyny is the ultimate victimhood for you, right? Because we can't have a conversation separate from transmisogyny, because transmisogyny is the worst form of victimization, and everything stems from misogyny, especially transmisogyny. If you're not talking about misogyny, you might as well shut up.

And we can't have issues that aren't shared with cis people, because otherwise we aren't "really" men and women. Because white cishet people are the ones we should be looking to when we "prove" our identity through our suffering, right?

To be a woman, you have to suffer. To be a man, you can never suffer. You can never just be. You have guilt and shame and violence and self sacrifice to be doing if you dare to transition into power.

Because if you, a trans man, don't have male privilege, that must mean that trans women do, because we all live in opposite to eachother, even though the framework of male privilege is something made by and for cis people. If trans women are suffering, that must mean that you aren't.

You can't talk about your own life or struggles or else you're indirectly talking about trans women, and cis men, and cis women, and everyone else except you.

(And fuck non-binary and intersex people and whatever they have going on with their identities that shits just not important to our oppositional viewpoint, right? We can make them fit in this box based off of their genitals, anyway. Dont bring racism into this either, you're just being misogynistic if you do.)

btw assuming that every single "cishet looking man" you meet is a cishet man and can't possibly ever be transfeminine will never help anyone, ever. assuming that "cishet looking men" are men because they don't show any hint of femininity is participating in transfem erasure. to all the transfems who can't present femme, are scared to come out, boymode most or all of the time, can't afford to replace their wardrobe, like how they currently dress and/or "look like a cishet man," you do not deserve this instant invalidation of who you are.

assuming a stranger's identity is never the way to go. i don't care if you're "scared" of "cishet looking men," but you literally can't tell based off of how someone is dressed. it's exceptionally hard and dangerous to be out as a transfem person in public. you have to accept that a lot of transfems are stealth and boymoding and passing as "perfectly straight looking men" for safety and comfort reasons. it's not an attack on you- it's for their safety. stop assuming how people identify based off of how they present and act in public. you don't know who they are. you have no right to be "scared"

a long time ago i watched a tik tok from an older trans woman, in her 60’s or 70’s. someone had commented on another video of hers asking “why don’t we ever see trans men from your generation? why aren’t they involved in activism?” and her response was “because a lot of them died.” she told stories abt the trans men she knew who committed suicide rather than be married off and forced to live as a woman, or died from medical neglect or botched abortions. “they would be here if they could, but they can’t because the world failed them.”