A Quick Note To Fellow Enemies To Lovers Shippers,
A quick note to fellow Enemies to Lovers shippers,
(Especially younger ones)
I hate to break it to you, but you have to stop arguing with people who disagree with your ship online. (For more reasons than that it causes a toxic fanbase.) You aren't going to convince the people actively against your ship.
I know it's hard, especially because it's not just that people don't like it, but because people likely actively hate and work against your ship. Unfortunately, that's because by nature, you're shipping ENEMIES to lovers. When two characters start off opposing each other, especially with one character blatantly in the wrong, people have a hard time accepting the two could ever see eye to eye let alone fall in love.
Basically, it comes down to this:
A lot of people don't believe that others have the capacity to change. Afterall, the whole dynamic of enemies to lovers relies heavily on there being some huge change in both of their mindsets.
In shipping dynamics, I find that the people who fall into this trap of stagnant mindsets are young highschool and midderschoolers. They're probably very focused on the there and now and don't think things will change much outside of their very small worldview. They're in an awkward place where they have been heavily influenced by the few strong opinions they've experienced since birth. They haven't seen how different the world outside their bubble is. Most importantly, they're not going to suddenly change their mind on your ship. (But don't worry, they will grow.)
The truth is, people in real life marry their bullies. They switch sides in wartime for reasons other than self-interest, they reflect on their actions and with help realize what they were doing was wrong. Apologies exist for a reason. What happens in middle or high school is not the end.
Tldr, People CAN and DO change as they grow and as an enemies to lover shipper you see that. It's hard for a lot of people to accept this and your arguments aren't going to change that, only time can. So step out of shipping wars and enjoy your ship with everyone else that ships it.
It's better if you ignore it. Trust me, I ship Drarry.
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