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how will asexuals enrich the lgbt community with their inclusion?

Okay, so let’s get this through your thick, exclusionist skull. (I’ll use small words)

How does anyone “enrich” the LGBT+ community?

Enrich, according to the dictionary, means a number of things.

1. to supply with riches, wealth, abundant or valuable possessions, etc.

In this way we bring the same thing you do: Some of us are able to donate money and resources to things like the Trevor Project or our local LGBT+ offices and their outreach programs.

2. to supply with abundance of anything desirable, such as knowledge.

Hi! I collect lists of websites and books and groups that portray and/or teach about different LGBT+ identities so that I can give them out to people who have questions. There are a number of us (asexual, aromantic, and agender individuals) who do similar things in order to enrich our communities.

3. to add greater value or significance to.

More voices = louder communal voice. You want people to listen to you about issues and struggles that our community faces? You’re gonna need more voices.

4. to adorn or decorate.

There are a good number of us who are artists. We design your posters and t-shirts and murals. We don’t just create art for our own identity, but yours, too.

5. to make finer in quality, as by supplying desirable elements or ingredients.

Every person has something good in them that they can bring to the table. By denying a whole group of people, you are denying their ideas and their resources and their personalities. You are denying all desirable elements that could build your community.

Now, this is slightly off-topic but it connects: The rest of the LGBT+ community (including you aphobes) talk a lot about how being gay isn’t just about sex… And yet you exclude us because some of us don’t like sex.

Kinda seems like you’re just shooting yourself in the foot there…

School systems single out neurodivergent students.

What someone says: I have romantic feelings for you

What I hear: I have decided, based on nothing that has to do with you, that you are going to solve all of my problems and make me happy forever, and when you inevitably can't do that I am going to be hurt and disappointed and maybe even mad at you

yes- an aroace demiboy

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i hope straight trans people know they’re amazing 🥺🥺 it has to be grating to endure all the Straight Jokes when you don’t share the same privilege as cis straight people

straight trans people are wonderful, your attraction and love is wonderful, your relationships are wonderful, and being straight doesn’t make you less of a part of this community

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Thank you so much for this ❤️

“people who think aces are oppressed need to just go outside” A Measured Response

I’m going to preface this by saying this: People asking you to stop oppressing them doesn’t come from the privilege of being sheltered, it’s because we’re tired of you ignoring these scientific, peer-reviewed, repeatable facts:

42% of cis asexuals have considered suicide (2) compared to 11% of cis heterosexuals

10.2% of us are victims of conversion therapy

75% of the population cannot define asexuality

We have the least average life satisfaction score out of every cis identity (except pansexual, who shares our score of 5.9 out of 10)

Attitudes towards asexuality are evaluated most negatively of all sexual minority groups. 

A study of 148 undergraduates at a Canadian university showed that participants were less likely to rent to asexuals than their heterosexual counterparts. Potential confounds (e.g., bias against singles or unfamiliar groups) were ruled out as explanations

In early 2015, Russia passed a law banning, amongst others, people with “disorders of sexual preference” from obtaining driving licences. The Association of Russian Lawyers for Human Rights stated that it effectively banned “all transgender people, bigender, asexuals, “transvestites”, cross-dressers, and people who need sex reassignment” from driving  (I am not linking to the original article due to recurring transphobic language. If you would like to see it, PM me)

So sorry that sounding the alarm hurts your delicate sensibilities, but I honestly do not care anymore. If you’re an exclusionist, kindly pick up a few research papers about sexual minorities and learn something instead of posting your sub-zero “hot takes” on a website whose main demographics consist of people blogging about things they enjoy, rather than the people they hate. I am willing to have an open discussion about the inclusion of asexual people in the LGBT community as long as it doesn’t boil down to “I don’t know about the abuse you face, so I’m going to assume it doesn’t happen.”

Have a great day and stay safe.

Gay USA (1977) dir. Arthur J. Bressan Jr.

really hate how so many people are aphobic, transphobic, etc without being OPEN about it. i just wanna follow some new people without having to search through their blog to make sure they dont hate me or other people for simply existing

[ID: The Scooby Doo ghost meme. In the first panel, Fred looks at a ghost, labelled “"aces and aros don’t need to be included in anti-discrimination whose intent is to prohibit discrimination on the basis of orientation"”, and says “Okay gang, let’s see who the ghost really is.“ In the second panel, Fred pulls off the mask and looks at a man labelled “"I think it should be legal to discriminate against someone for being asexual or aromantic"”. End ID]

Think that discriminating against someone for being ace or aro should be illegal? The Inclusive Equality Act Coalition is trying to make sure that’s the case. 

What ur preferred pronouns say about u

She/her - you’re valid

He/him - you’re valid

They/them - you’re valid

Neopronouns - you’re valid

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