The Fact That So Many Ppl View Slurs And Oppression As Cool Exclusive Clubs To Claim Access To, Tells

This is not a hill I’m willing to die on, I’ll hear other takes, but imo the term ‘straight-passing relationship’ is not intended to refer to a relationship with a cis man and a cis woman who are both queer. Straight-passing relationship to me refers to couples like, one or both is nonbinary, gender-fluid, closeted trans and only out to their partner etc. Or a sapphic couple with a butch that often passes as a man or a gnc couple that looks like they might be a cis man and woman but actually aren’t.

Seeing a bisexual man and a bisexual woman call their relationship straight-passing feels wrong to me. They themselves might straight-passing, but there’s a difference between an individual person being straight passing and a relationship being straight passing. Their relationship is actually, by social standards, straight, even though the people in it are not. I’m not invalidating queer people in opposite gender relationships, they are still always queer no matter who they date, but calling a relationship between a cis man and woman queer feels wrong to me.

some low support needs level 1 autistic will throw higher support needs level 2&3 or nonverbal nonspeaking autistic under bus if in their mind there even 0.01% chance they maybe perhaps get rights. or more accurately, get be oppressor class. n it shows

I actually think is okay for lesbians and gay men to have “exceptions” when it comes to their sexuality without having to redefine themselves with a label that doesn’t fit them. A lesbian choosing to stay with their newly trans man partner doesn’t mean they have to call themselves bisexual now when they aren’t, they loved this person before and they love them now and can respect their gender but still not attracted to any other men. Same for gay men who stay with their newly trans women partners. And of course this is predicated on the assumption that all partners involved are okay with the words used! If they don’t feel invalidated and they feel respected that’s all that matters. And gender is complicated, a lesbian can love a masculine nonbinary person and still be a lesbian because their partner isn’t a man. Not to mention genderfluidity. And I think it’s okay for someone to describe their own experience as gay with an exception.

we did NOT have a period of discourse about how 'if trans women don't pass as women, but they do pass as men, they don't pass as men - they pass as 'queer' or 'other'' for yous to fucking go 'if trans men don't pass as men, which they're privileged for if they do, then they pass 100% as cis women, which they're privileged for when they do'

like SHUT UPPPPPPP I DID NOT PASS AS A CIS WOMAN EVERYONE THOUGHT I WAS A DYKE/TRANNY/QUEER. I NEVER PASSED AS 'WOMAN' I PASSED AS 'FREAK OF NATURE'. I WAS BARELY TREATED LIKE A HUMAN BEING LET ALONE A WOMAN

That’s absolutely true that men know what they’re doing, I think most rapists know exactly what they’re doing, but not all of them. Some rapists actually do think it’s okay; marital rape, corrective rape, or they have deluded themselves into believing that their victim wants it.

This isn’t justifying anything, and I know it’s very clear in my post that I am saying that these situations are still rape.

The biggest danger in rape culture is that there are so many rapists who don’t think that they’re rapists. “It wasn’t rape, she was making out with me earlier, it doesn’t matter that she’s drunk now.” “It wasn’t rape, I asked if I could kiss her and she said sure, what did she think would happen next?” “It’s not rape, she’s my wife.” “It’s not rape, he’s gay, he should thank me.” “It’s not rape, I told her she could either have sex with me or I would kill myself.” Rape awareness and consent education are crucial, because many many men casually commit sexual assault and don’t realize or won’t admit it because the culture has told them it’s okay, it’s normal, it’s just what guys do. There are rapists that are in denial about what they’ve done because they think they’re good people who would never hurt someone like that, they aren’t a rapist. ‘Not physically fighting back’ isn’t consent. ‘Not screaming and crying’ isn’t consent. ‘Not calling the police afterwards’ isn’t consent.

Kids, because it is all kids and teenagers, who identify as RCTA (race change to another) don’t realize they’re racist because they’re all white kids who think the only form of racism that exists is “I hate people of color” and don’t know about micro aggressions, fetishization, and cultural appropriation.

They’re also just dealing with very normal teenage insecurities and body dysmorphia, but instead of recognizing that they aren’t happy with how they look because they’re 14, they think that looking like someone else entirely will fix them. Which isn’t a healthy mindset but is super common! But picking their ideal self image to be another race and then becoming so obsessed with another culture that you think you can change into that race? That’s very unhealthy, very damaging to their self image, and entirely unacceptable.

And the few non-white RCTA people are dealing with either internalized racism or are being just as racist as the white ones against a culture that isn’t their own.

And because these are things that originate entirely online, transrace has its own similar but slightly different ‘community.’ Equally problematic, but, in my limited online experience with both circles, seemingly made up of more young adults and definitely connected to MOGAI.

Miss Piggy's response to misogyny and fatphobia is physical violence and I think we should all take something from that

the fact that any athlete can be subjected to "gender testing" on a whim because osmeone thinks she is too strong, too fast, just simply Too Good to be a woman is so fucking antifeminist, how can these people not see it?

Being lgbtqia does not automatically make you queer. Not being cishet doesn’t automatically make you queer. Queer is who you are, what you do, what you believe in, how you act. Queerness is lived.